Virginity & Society - how virginity effects the social lives of people

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are you a virgin?

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Ido said:
So for you having sex would be equivalent to swallowing a gun? That's a tad bit excessive, don't you think?
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Lol, no. More like self-esteem issues, wondering about the fate of the world and wondering if life will get any better for me is more like it.
 
WanderingVagabond said:
wondering about the fate of the world and wondering if life will get any better for me is more like it.
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You can wonder all you want but if you refuse to take action to make it better it'll all be for nothing. Sure sure self-esteem issues blah blah blah, a lot of people have them, but if they make you equate having sex to swallowing a gun then maybe you should seek some therapy for said esteem problem. Just a thought.
 
WanderingVagabond said:
Lol, no. More like self-esteem issues, wondering about the fate of the world and wondering if life will get any better for me is more like it.
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Well...what do you want your life to be?

Everyone always says this. "I wish my life was better". What's "better"? Nobody ever says that. Likewise in relation to the world people often complain about it, but if you ask them how they would like the world to be nobody ever seems to have a good answer. You can hate yourself all you want, but what are you even weighing yourself against?

Though if I was to be honest I'd tell you it's all bullshit, and that the only thing that truly exists is right now. There is no past, there is no future. Both of those concepts are pure creations of mind. They have no physicality. The only thing that exists is right here, right now, so why are you obsessing over things you cannot change or worries that don't have any relevance except inside your own head? Learn to breathe.
 
feedtheoctopus said:
Well...what do you want your life to be?

Everyone always says this. "I wish my life was better". What's "better"? Nobody ever says that. Likewise in relation to the world people often complain about it, but if you ask them how they would like the world to be nobody ever seems to have a good answer. You can hate yourself all you want, but what are you even weighing yourself against?

Though if I was to be honest I'd tell you it's all bullshit, and that the only thing that truly exists is right now. There is no past, there is no future. Both of those concepts are pure creations of mind. They have no physicality. The only thing that exists is right here, right now, so why are you obsessing over things you cannot change or worries that don't have any relevance except inside your own head? Learn to breathe.
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I want my life to be enjoyable tbh. But since this isn't the thread for it(and the thread died down bit as of late) PM me if you want more answers.
 
WanderingVagabond said:
I want my life to be enjoyable tbh. But since this isn't the thread for it(and the thread died down bit as of late) PM me if you want more answers.
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Nigga, just find a nickelrock and any local hoe'll wet your dick as long as you pay on time and don't have an autism in public.
 
WanderingVagabond said:
Considering my ban has been lifted(quite shocking, I was expecting a permaban in all honesty) the only thing I will say is while I am quite bummed about maintaining my V-Card I don't think about it all the time. I kind of wished I more confidence in my younger days and wasn't so shallow. I have other things on my mind that overlaps my virginity. I've already said all I needed to say in defunct threads. I have no other input about it anymore considering my 'virgin with rage' and the comments I've received on my profile after my ban.
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I stopped giving a shit about virginity when I finally had sexual activity, and realized it didn't change a single thing about my life, or even raise my self esteem. I doesn't matter if you are a virgin or not. If you have self esteem issues, having sex won't fix those issues. When I was a jealous virgin I heard this from people, I didn't beleive it, but now I realize it is true. I am willing to bet that you won't take this message seriously, thats ok I didn't either, but once you do lose you virginity, you will feel the same way.
 
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Picklepower said:
I stopped giving a shit about virginity when I finally had sexual activity, and realized it didn't change a single thing about my life, or even raise my self esteem. I doesn't matter if you are a virgin or not. If you have self esteem issues, having sex won't fix those issues. When I was a jealous virgin I heard this from people, I didn't beleive it, but now I realize it is true. I am willing to bet that you won't take this message seriously, thats ok I didn't either, but once you do lose you virginity, you will feel the same way.
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It hasn't crossed my mind as much as of late considering I have other things on my mind and a somewhat functioning social life going on.
 
Picklepower said:
I stopped giving a shit about virginity when I finally had sexual activity, and realized it didn't change a single thing about my life, or even raise my self esteem. I doesn't matter if you are a virgin or not. If you have self esteem issues, having sex won't fix those issues. When I was a jealous virgin I heard this from people, I didn't beleive it, but now I realize it is true. I am willing to bet that you won't take this message seriously, thats ok I didn't either, but once you do lose you virginity, you will feel the same way.
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I wish I could take the bolded and make EVERY high school kid in the world hang it above their mirrors every morning.
Think of the decades and decades ahead of your lives, stop worrying about virginity. (I know young men angst about it more than girls do, and I do admit I can't relate to that as much.) Sex is a part of life, it creates children which is amazing, but it's not all that.
 
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blastoiseplushie said:
I wish I could take the bolded and make EVERY high school kid in the world hang it above their mirrors every morning.
I'm probably one of the older people on the forum, and I don't understand this thing I've been reading online about virgins and their "rage." I don't remember at all thinking that sex would fulfill my esteem or anything- I only remember wishing for the mushy love and cuddles stuff. I remember being deliriously happy when I received a rose from a guy for the first time, as a teen. But please, think of the decades and decades ahead of your lives, stop worrying about virginity. (I know young men angst about it more than girls do, and I do admit I can't relate to that as much.) Sex is a part of life, it creates children which is amazing, but it's not all that.
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I'm with you on this one. I'm male, and while yes, I wanted it very much when I was younger due to the raging hormones, I never felt as if it would change my life once it happened. The "virgin with rage" thing, if you read what they are saying, it isn't even a desire for the physical gratification of sex, they literally view it as a "rite of passage" that, once they pass this milestone, they will become more personable, social, have courage and confidence, etc.

They build it up in their heads into something so special and sacred, put far too much importance on it, which more than likely makes it even harder to be confident and sociable around someone they are fond of and who may become the one they finally end up sleeping with.

Sure, its a somewhat important part of a relationship, especially at first, but that isn't what its all about. They say they don't want to just "lose" their virginity with a prostitute because they view that as "cheating", they want to "earn it" the "right way". But at the same time, if sex is such an important milestone for a young adolescent male in their minds, why not just get it over with?

I can understand the reluctance to getting with a prostitute though, as paying for it isn't the same as courting a young lady and convincing her to jump in bed with you. But maybe, getting it out of the way in that fashion would eliminate the sacredness and the mysteriousness of "sex". It might allow them to finally realize that everyone has sex and its not that special. Look outside, there are dogs humping in the street. Go to the grocery store, the 300 lb. cashier is having wild hot sex with her husband. The 65 year old man at church with his wife, they go home and have sweaty, senior citizen sex.

While it can be special with someone you are in love with, its by no means uncommon.
 
I'm 18 years old and get called attractive a lot but I'm really nervous about actually having sex with a guy. I want to though.
I'm too shy to get a boyfriend and I always attract jerks, I just want to find someone really nice who will watch anime with me.
 
Michelle said:
I'm 18 years old and get called attractive a lot but I'm really nervous about actually having sex with a guy. I want to though.
I'm too shy to get a boyfriend and I always attract jerks, I just want to find someone really nice who will watch anime with me.
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I'd recommend joining an anime club. Sure, there'll be a few dweebs, but chances are good there'll be a guy there looking for the same thing you are.
 
Wow the concentrated autism in this thread set of my autism. It reads like a more verbose /r9k/. The fact people here are romanticising and holding up Sex or the loss of Virginity as some sort of Holy Grail of life is just cringe inducing.

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If your life is so good that your biggest worry is when or how or if you lose your virginity, then honestly you don't have any real problems, the entire thing is in your head. Any girl over 4/10 can walk up to a guy they know in some capacity and ask them to come over to "watch a movie". Any guy can hire a hooker and have them come over and show you the ropes.

Basically what I'm saying is that anyone can get sex anytime they want, and if you are saying you can't, then it's not everyone else, YOU are stopping yourself for some reason. And honestly I think you need to get laid to remove this mental block from your mind, because you are inflating something that Monkeys fucking do multiple times a day in full view of everyone at the zoo.
 
LordAzazel said:
For the ones upthread recommending drunk sex, 1/10 would not recommend.

Very awkward, unfun and you wake up with a splitting headache.
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For people who are both obsessed with sex and unable to have it, I'd recommend drunk sex. Seriously, wtf. It's not like it's rocket science. Goddamn rabbits do it. Alcohol is great for eliminating inhibitions that stop natural behavior.

There's aspirins for headaches.
 
LordAzazel said:
For the ones upthread recommending drunk sex, 1/10 would not recommend.

Very awkward, unfun and you wake up with a splitting headache.
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Depends how drunk you both (all?) are. As long as nobody is literally passed out/so drunk you wouldn't allow them to make the decision to invest in the stock market, let alone drive, then drunk sex CAN be pretty awesome.
Just make sure you drink plenty of water before you go to sleep or aren't so old that you actually get hangovers and you shouldn't have to worry about the headache, since that's actually what causes hangovers.
And because I REALLY SHOULDN'T NEED TO BE SAYING THIS, make sure everybody is actually capable of making a decision which could have serious long-term ramifications, because if you wouldn't let them go in for amateur's night at the local cage-fighting establishment, then they might just be too drunk to fuck.
 
Also, can't change my vote on the poll which sucks.

This infringes on my freedom of speech. There should be a trigger warning for censorship somewhere.
I'm sure when we dismantle the patriarchy (Aka Null) we'll also have better poll options.
 
Lost virginity, got left the next week for a different guy.

Its honestly was pretty fucking awkward and weird, considering I had a time limit at the time before my parents came home.

In other words: You aren't missing out unless you die as one, and you're going to suck ass. Also whatever scenario you have in your head about how your going to fuck someone your first time WONT HAPPEN
 
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