Virginity & Society - how virginity effects the social lives of people

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are you a virgin?

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Here is a thread where we discuss virginity and it's place in society, including the stigma against and in favor of virgins and how women have it better because to them virginity is a blessing, and to men it is a stigma.
 
I often feel socially ostracized from my peers when they begin to discuss sex because I preferred to focus on more important things than fucking sluts in high school.
I look forward to studying to be a doctor in med school after I get my nursing degree.
 
I experience the virginity stigma cast upon men on a regular basis, and think that women truly have it better, whether or not women believe that's true.
 
Closed for being non-deep thoughts.

Wait... what's this? There is someone in my house.

I am not being forced to keep it open.
 
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Closed for being non-deep thoughts.

Wait... what's this? There is someone in my house.

I am not being forced to keep it open.
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Back away from the computer slowly and you and I can both leave this thread forever.
 
All right I'm going to lay down some truth on y'all. Most people (men and women) fucking suck at sex. Go to a bar find some equally drunk fucker and go to town, if you don't tell them you're a virgin they won't know. Rinse and repeat until you make a less shitty lover.
 
I had the blessing of being a sperg AND a landwhale (gotta work on that; it's hard in 90+ degree heat to not die just breathing right now though) so that made me pretty unattractive to anyone who doesn't have a fetish for such exceptional individuals.

It doesn't bother me that much. I mean yeah I'd like to get laid eventually but it's not the end of the world to me; the amount of effort it takes to attract and maintain a romantic relationship and work up to a sexual one or even just a one night stand seems like a huge fucking hassle and I got more important shit to worry about right now.

(Besides. Virginity means I'll die last in the horror movies.)

I don't know why there's such a big deal put on virginity, anyway. If a guy doesn't fuck a lot of girls, he's a failure, but if a girl fucks a lot of guys, she's a filthy slut? Isn't that counter-intuitive?
 
As a virgin myself, sex seems a lot like the ADF subforum. Overrated, and it has far too much that needs cleaning up afterwards.
 
Yes, as for how it affects me, not much, my friends don't care but I amassed an extensive porn collection.
 
Gay views on virginity are a weird distaff to the mainstream, I think; you can find plenty of commentary on "tight, virgin holes", after all (not so much about tops, though). Also, being a gay sex virgin is totally okay if you're moderately attractive and switching teams from being straight (the dream of so much gay porn marketing).

Where the pressure comes on all of this is weird, too. I mean, yeah, there's the peer and potential partner stuff, but then it even goes to how parents do their parenting. After all, the same dad who cleans rifles every time his daughter brings a boy home is often high-fiving his son when he's purchasing condoms. And then you get the really weird parents who actively meddle to "solve" "problems"...

One of my more weirdly situated -- and thus memorable -- clients was a guy who had just graduated high school and was heading off to the Ivy League that fall. The actual person who set up the arrangement and paid for it all was his mother, who was very very concerned that her baby boy would get blue balls and look to handle his problems himself on craigslist and end up getting shanked or drugged up or something, let alone embarrassed because of not having enough insert-tab-a-into-slot-b experience at the tender age of 18. So, before the guy could go across country and out of her grasping clutches--er, loving helicopter-ish reach, she got him a graduation gift: one week of humpy-time with a professional (hi).

It was awfully progressive of mom to be so supportive of her gay son, I guess, especially given this was 2005 and not 2015, but what a weird expectation there. He wasn't my first or last "buy my way out of virginity" client, but the circumstance where mom was the one arranging it all was frankly kinda surreal. He was a nice fellow, it was a good all-expenses-paid trip + excellent pay (a full week rate is not cheap), and did I mention that I love people with more money than sense?

(Sorry to disappoint anybody thinking I was spoilering something more juicy or personally identifying. lolno2urhoneypot.)
 
It's one of the great double standards of the modern world.

- Female virginity is considered to be one of the most sacred things someone can hold on to. It's a symbol of purity, chastity and honor. Society deems a female virgin to be doing the right thing and merely waiting for the right man to come along in her life.
- Male virginity is considered to be one of the most embarrassing burdens for a man to have in Western society. It is often mocked in media of all forms (insert movie about a man or men trying to lose their virginity however they can here) and something that a man tries to keep hidden in social situations. Society deems this as a weakness for men, especially the older a man gets (good luck being a virgin male in your late 20's. There are people that will believe something is wrong with you, regardless of whether or not it is because of religious reasons or another reason).

It's weird how much pressure there is on women to keep their virginity, while men should be losing theirs as fast as humanly possible; the earlier, the better.

I lost mine at 24, which is considered as pretty late for a man to lose his virginity. And I was given some shit for not being able to lose it when I was one. At the end of the day, the age in which someone loses their v-card doesn't mean a damn thing. When someone is ready, they will know it. And unless they are a total sped or a lolcow, they won't have too many problems finding a suitable partner.
 
Honestly as far as it goes sex is underwhelming. Its nesseary for a healthy relationship sometimes but that's it.

Both male and female virgins are shamed by society and it sucks, I wish it wasn't made fun of so much. It's harder to ignore it if your in college too, it's really ridiculous.
 
The fuck kinda shitty sex are you people having? This thread is depressing.

Ok, people, so the thing here is that sex is fucking awesome. Seriously, great stuff, would recommend.
That having been said, sad news for those people who think getting their V card punched is gonna change their lives:
Who you are before you have sex is pretty much going to be the exact same person you are during and after sex. If you're generally pretty insecure and shy, you're going to be nervous and uncomfortable in bed, and you're going to continue to be that way after you've lost your virginity. Sex is not a magical panacea that will make you confident or cure your anxiety. It's a fun thing you do with people you like.
Losing your virginity is not a form of therapy; it's just a shitload of fun. That having been said, sex is still a shitload of fun, and you should totally do it. It's also good for you.

If you find you're not enjoying sex, consider switching partners. Lots of people, particularly those with less experience, think they just don't enjoy sex, when in reality they just haven't had good sex yet.
It's supposed to be fun, you joyless shits. Get out there and party.
 
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