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- Jan 21, 2016
It says it all about the people on this website that there are about three pages of "wimmins have it sooo much better, everybody love virgin wimmins" at the start of this thread and it has occurred to all of about three people that non-virginal women exist. You guys do all know that not everybody in the world is a socially retarded virgin with rage, right?
As for virginity itself, it is entirely a social thing with absolutely no biological basis for either sex (and no, for whichever idiot is just dying to type "But the HYMENtm", that is not what hymens do, it is not how they fucking work. If you really think there is something covering the vagina until the first time a woman has sex, how the fuck do you think they get tampons in?).
Virginity and your first time is worth whatever you make it work, and the only thing that really matters is that it's kept SSC and that it's with somebody who respects you (and whom you respect), and who respects what it means to you. For those of you for whom it's a big deal, that means somebody who isn't going to bitch about you making a big deal about it or treat it as an in and out, and for those of you who, like me, give zero fucks and are just trying to figure out how you took home somebody who isn't hideously deformed, that means somebody who won't spend a whole hour going on and on and on about it.
Also, am I the only one on this whole forum whose first time didn't suck? Your first time does not always suck, it's just that most people don't really have much knowledge of what they do or do not like at that point, and don't really know how to communicate in that situation, but your first time can be a wonderful experience just as easily as a terrible one.
And finally, Seto's tips for a better first time (and better sex, generally):
1, Be Prepared. Don't get me wrong, you shouldn't plan everything down to the last little detail and things really can be spur of the moment, but the only thing that kills the mood better than spending 20 minutes rummaging through your drawers for your condoms is having to go to the shop, so make sure you have that shit to hand when it goes down.
2, Masturbation is Good, and will not make you blind. It'll give you something of an idea what you like and are comfortable with, and will get you used to the sensation, too. It is perfectly fine to use toys, too, people invented that shit for a reason. And just so we're clear, yes, this goes for both guys and gals.
3, Test Everything beforehand. Seriously, if there is one time and place you do not want an allergic reaction, it's on your nads in the middle of anything sexual. Trust Me. Latex allergies are particularly common, so test out some latex gloves before you go shoving that stuff on your dick/in your vagina/anus.
4, Make Sure You're Both Comfortable. Seriously, if you're not comfortable around each other before you get your clothes off, you sure as hell won't be afterwards. This also goes for only doing what all parties are comfortable with, and stopping when somebody isn't comfortable continuing.
5, Communication is Key. This ties in with above, you need to be able to tell your partner what does and doesn't feel good, and they need to listen and respond. Same goes the other way around, too. If one of you says that angle or position is uncomfortable then it should be changed ASAP.
6, Know What to Expect. Okay, so this isn't one hundred percent possible, but having some idea what should happen during sex will make things a lot easier. Any pain or bleeding during (PiV) sex is bad an means something is wrong. The hymen does not break, and it it tears then you haven't been careful enough. Knowing the basics like this WILL help, trust me, and this goes doubly when you start bringing things like BDSM into the equation (hey, it could happen).
And this has been Seto's guide to having Not-Terrible sex. Now, if you will excuse me, I have to go sit down and think about how a social failure like me actually knows more about this shit than half the people on this site, because there is something very wrong here.
As for virginity itself, it is entirely a social thing with absolutely no biological basis for either sex (and no, for whichever idiot is just dying to type "But the HYMENtm", that is not what hymens do, it is not how they fucking work. If you really think there is something covering the vagina until the first time a woman has sex, how the fuck do you think they get tampons in?).
Virginity and your first time is worth whatever you make it work, and the only thing that really matters is that it's kept SSC and that it's with somebody who respects you (and whom you respect), and who respects what it means to you. For those of you for whom it's a big deal, that means somebody who isn't going to bitch about you making a big deal about it or treat it as an in and out, and for those of you who, like me, give zero fucks and are just trying to figure out how you took home somebody who isn't hideously deformed, that means somebody who won't spend a whole hour going on and on and on about it.
Also, am I the only one on this whole forum whose first time didn't suck? Your first time does not always suck, it's just that most people don't really have much knowledge of what they do or do not like at that point, and don't really know how to communicate in that situation, but your first time can be a wonderful experience just as easily as a terrible one.
And finally, Seto's tips for a better first time (and better sex, generally):
1, Be Prepared. Don't get me wrong, you shouldn't plan everything down to the last little detail and things really can be spur of the moment, but the only thing that kills the mood better than spending 20 minutes rummaging through your drawers for your condoms is having to go to the shop, so make sure you have that shit to hand when it goes down.
2, Masturbation is Good, and will not make you blind. It'll give you something of an idea what you like and are comfortable with, and will get you used to the sensation, too. It is perfectly fine to use toys, too, people invented that shit for a reason. And just so we're clear, yes, this goes for both guys and gals.
3, Test Everything beforehand. Seriously, if there is one time and place you do not want an allergic reaction, it's on your nads in the middle of anything sexual. Trust Me. Latex allergies are particularly common, so test out some latex gloves before you go shoving that stuff on your dick/in your vagina/anus.
4, Make Sure You're Both Comfortable. Seriously, if you're not comfortable around each other before you get your clothes off, you sure as hell won't be afterwards. This also goes for only doing what all parties are comfortable with, and stopping when somebody isn't comfortable continuing.
5, Communication is Key. This ties in with above, you need to be able to tell your partner what does and doesn't feel good, and they need to listen and respond. Same goes the other way around, too. If one of you says that angle or position is uncomfortable then it should be changed ASAP.
6, Know What to Expect. Okay, so this isn't one hundred percent possible, but having some idea what should happen during sex will make things a lot easier. Any pain or bleeding during (PiV) sex is bad an means something is wrong. The hymen does not break, and it it tears then you haven't been careful enough. Knowing the basics like this WILL help, trust me, and this goes doubly when you start bringing things like BDSM into the equation (hey, it could happen).
And this has been Seto's guide to having Not-Terrible sex. Now, if you will excuse me, I have to go sit down and think about how a social failure like me actually knows more about this shit than half the people on this site, because there is something very wrong here.
