Culture Why don’t straight men read novels? - Men often read non-fiction books in the name of self-improvement – but many are reluctant to pick up works of fiction

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Dazed (Archive) - July 22, 2024
by, Georgina Elliot

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Alex, 24, thinks reading for pleasure is a waste of time. Instead, he reads to learn about current affairs, maths, and Black history. Similarly, Finn*, 24, has only read one fictional book outside of his childhood. “I don’t really find the time to read, but if I do, it’s usually non-fiction,” he says.

Alex and Finn* both feel compelled to make ‘good’ use of their time – ‘good’ being a capitalist innuendo for ‘productive’. In our increasingly time-poor, grind-obsessed hellscape — 7-9 gym, 9-5 work, and 5-9 side hustle — coming up for air from being a cog and curling up with a novel just because you want to is a borderline sensual pleasure. “Our culture makes a fetish of practical outcomes, and perhaps because the outcomes of fiction-reading don’t patently lead to higher wages, it seems less worthy,” says Suzanne Keen, Professor of English at Scripps College.

Generally speaking, reading is an indulgence that women permit themselves more than men. In 2022, Deloitte predicted boys and men would continue to spend less time reading books and read them less frequently than women and girls. They were right: in 2023, women made up 80 per cent of the book-buying market in the UK, US, and Canada, and accounted for 65 per cent of all fiction purchases in the UK according to Nielson BookData. The bookish man is a rare species. Case in point: 1.2 million people follow the @hotdudesreading Instagram.

Meanwhile, masculinity continues to be in crisis. Men between the ages of 18 and 34 feel the most pressure of any generation to conform to ‘masculine’ behaviours. In the absence of a positive blueprint of how to exist in the post-MeToo world, a community of podcasting ‘manfluencers’, including ex-navy SEALs Jocko Willink and David Goggins and neuroscientist Dr Andrew Hubermann, have rushed in to promote their idea of what masculinity should look like. Self-improvement, ambition, and ‘growth mindsets’ are the banner messaging of this male-coded media world where Andrew Tate reigns supreme and the aim of the game is to optimise every waking moment to become a financially successful ‘sigma’. Doubtless many men enjoy the fact that reading non-fiction gives them an excuse to peacock their newfound knowledge and mansplain their latest read to their next Hinge date, too (bonus points if it’s Capitalist Realism).

This idea of the hyper-capitalist man with no time for something as ‘pointless’ as reading began to take root in the Victorian era. In the 19th century, reading novels developed a reputation as a frivolous and feminised activity as bourgeois women, imprisoned in the private sphere, took up reading bodice-ripping paperbacks as a pastime. Conversely, ‘serious men’ of the public sphere incubated capitalist messaging: any interest in reading had to be justified by practical utility. While for most of British history, men’s literacy rates far outstripped women’s, by 1900 literacy was actually more diffused among women. As author Leah Price put it in her book How to Do Things with Nooks in Victorian Britain: “Once a sign of economic power, reading is now the province of those whose time lacks market value.”

It is a cultural hangover that persists. A “cult of productivity is still imposed more on men than women,” says Dr Alistair Brown, Assistant Professor of Digital Humanities and Modern Literature at Durham University. “[Non-fiction] seems to have more immediate or meaningful returns on the investment of time.” Consequently, men buy more: in 2023, men accounted for 55 per cent of non-fiction book sales, Nielsen BookData tells Dazed.

Today’s problem also has its roots in the gender encampments of childhood. Boys are less likely to have male reading role models and are generally nudged by parents, teachers, and product marketers in the direction of other pastimes, particularly sports. By comparison, girls are encouraged to read and have a model of peer-to-peer engagement through their mums’ book clubs. So, naturally, girls spend more time reading and reading fiction than boys. This is, as ever, an intersectional issue: boys on free school meals read less than anyone else.

By the time their tween years swings around, a line is firmly drawn. Chris*, 21, who has recently completed his second fiction book in ten years, said he stopped reading at the age of 11 despite previously being a fan of fantasy books because he had “better things to do.” Naturally, such a stereotype cannibalises itself and ends up being reflected by the market. Young adult fiction is the near-total domain of the teenage girl — including what is made, marketed, sold, and read.

As we cut off the legs off future readers, “our culture closes off opportunities for boys and men,” says Professor Keen, who is also an expert in narrative empathy. “Consciously or not [we promote] a model of masculinity that is less introspective, less attuned to others, and less contemplative.”

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Could reading stories offer an alternative route through the masculinity crisis? By creating “a safe space for allowing oneself to feel, with no strings attached,” Professor Keen suggests that reading fiction is the diametric opposite of the stale stoicism of the manosphere. It is a form of immersion therapy that demands you be present and forget yourself to a meditative end. You also become “part of a community,” which “helps you build mental companions as a bulwark against loneliness.” Accordingly, there are measurable mental health benefits such as lower stress levels, higher self-esteem, and lower rates of depression.

If men read, it helps society at large. Reading fiction opens your eyes to uncomfortable truths and unexpected perspectives that you may otherwise not have sought out. Books can surprise you by “smuggling in knowledge through the backdoor of an enjoyable and engaging story,” increasing the possibility of critical thinking when encountering the topic again, according to Dr Brown. When you read, you practice perspective-taking, adopting the inner lives of characters as your own and walking around in their shoes – something there isn’t time for with the visual immediacy of other media like film.

Reading fiction ultimately leaves you feeling full up, a stark contrast to self-improvement imperatives that demand you be more than you already are. Carving out time for such a creative pursuit “refreshes the spirit and expands our sense of possibilities,” says Professor Keen. And in case it isn’t obvious, this is a valuable use of time for men too. Men are not inert vessels for potential economic capital that needs to be squeezed out. So instead of retreating further into the hollow temple of productivity, might we suggest a prescribed course of Fourth Wing for all?

*Name has been changed
 
I'll read any old shit lol. I recently read Libriomancer, which is peak trashy literature and it's a miracle it didn't get raped by copyright. It's about a wizard detective that can reach into books and pull out items from the stories. Including Harry Potter, Twilight, Lord of the Rings, Dracula, and a shit load of actual books that the author cites at the end. Just pure dreck. I'll read more classics and more thought provoking stuff; but honestly I'll read anything.
 
If you read alot you just run out of good stuff to read or the books get hard to find.

The major difference is that woman will read every shit novel you give them while never reading anything good.



Well but some novels are self help...
A Farewll to Arms will help you.
I feel like that has happened to me, or that my standards have risen a lot higher now. Either way, I used to rate most books I read 5 or 6 out of 6. Now most aren't interesting enough to even force myself to finish.
 
There's not a lot worth reading and even if there is you'd have to go through a pretty niche system to hear about it, probably by word of mouth. It doesn't help that most book discussion is female dominated, book clubs are by women for women, book stores are usually run by cat ladies, libraries are for children, etc. Men just don't really talk about books much.
Yes I've been to several book clubs in my area and I've seen exactly one dude, and I'm pretty sure he was gay. I can't see most men being interested in these sorts of groups. Hell, I lost interest in them, myself, since I don't care about what Reese Witherspoon recommends.
 
I tried to read Dante's Divine Comedy and after 7 years, I finally gave up. I made it halfway through Purgatory.
6 years ago I started the Tale of Genji, and I am now on page 46.

Maybe I should read books that are slightly newer instead???
Nah, the Divine Comedy is a pretty dull read, though I loved the Gustave Dore illustrations that came with my copy. If you want a much more interesting poem to read, I recommend John Milton's Paradise Lost. I was going to take a class on him but had to drop it. However, I read the poem anyway and loved it.
 
I still read works of fiction but I mostly listen to them in audio books. I don't think it's "men don't want to read novels" rather "men don't feel like they have time to read books so if they do read a book it's likely for an extremely specific purpose". In my case listening to audio books ended up allowing me to read novels I wouldn't have bothered to pick up otherwise.
I feel a lot of men who read don't bring it up to friends or strangers unless prompted, the act of reading is a personal one and reflexively justified with no greater cause needed - that is, you read a book because you haven't read it yet and wonder what it might say.

Whereas I feel a lot of women (and to be fair, soyboys) read as a means to boost their credibility scores among their peers and more effectively prostletyze. The reading isn't to learn, or for the joy of it, it's a real life grind to reach the next activism level.
 
I'm more concerned about boys not reading novels rather than grown men. I noticed that less-successful or disgruntled guys often complain about lacking a role model when growing up. Personally, I think that novels could provide them with one.

For example, I recently read Virginia Woolf's The Waves which provides an inner view into six different archetypes of children growing up and the events that formed them into adults. It also warns of the pitfalls that these archetypes can fall into such as one character's suicide after a lifetime of anxiety and solitudes or the folly of pursuing social acceptance through financial success. I am not sure if I would've understood it as a kid, but I definitely was obsessed with LotR, the Witcher ,and the First Law trilogy when younger and I doubt that it negatively impacted me. While slightly cliché, Hesse's Siddhartha probably also influenced me as a person.
 
Men do like to read, but as others have pointed out, not a lot of books that men would enjoy are promoted these days. Cormac McCarthy is an author who writes books men would like (though I like him too), which is why I'm glad there are some male zoomers like Wendigoon promoting his work.

My brother, for example, used to hate reading but then he discovered Fight Club in the 2000s and that sparked his interest in reading other books. He'll never be a bookworm like me, but he was able to find what appeals to him, and this has become more difficult now that the Internet has made it easy to flood the book sections with tons of crap.
 
I’ve been a huge bookworm my entire life, much to my social detriment as a kid. Love me some good escapist fiction; I’ve always chewed through that shit like the book was on fire.
There’s just…nothing new or worth reading these days in the male-focused popcorn novel arena. At best, it’s an issue of discoverability - at worst, it’s maybe another sign of stuck culture.
There’s some okay-ish stuff coming out of the fancy Asian sector like Cixin Liu but in general not much that approaches the quality of Western fantasy and sci-fi lit from the mid-20th century through early 2000s. The East also has that whole light/web novel thing - but that shit very quickly goes from “refreshingly different” to literally the “corporate wants you to tell the difference” Office meme once you start recognizing the tropes.
 
Just more verbal masturbation.

Personally have read relatively few novels, but read a great deal of non-fiction and some science fiction. Just finished a great book about the first 20 years of the New York Yankees. Just started a book about a lady who traveled around the various borders of Russia.

It isn't what you read that's important. What is important is that you read well and understand what you read. This ability is extremely important as far as contracts go, gotta read the large print and the small print before signing.

Folks, here's the gospel truth from Uncle Joe.

THOSE WHO DO NOT HAVE AN EDUCATION WILL ALWAYS BE AT THE MERCY OF THOSE WHO DO HAVE AN EDUCATION.
 
Well but some novels are self help...
A Farewll to Arms will help you.
I don't know about that, man. The ending is suicide inducing and a rather fatalistic perspective on a man's ability to escape war as someone with a future to live for.
My brother, for example, used to hate reading but then he discovered Fight Club in the 2000s and that sparked his interest in reading other books. He'll never be a bookworm like me, but he was able to find what appeals to him, and this has become more difficult now that the Internet has made it easy to flood the book sections with tons of crap.
Any tips? I know a guy who could really benefit from some reading since he's a shut-in with strategy games being his sole autistic interest. I've tried sharing sci-fi, historical fiction, dark fantasy and basically all other genres except pure romance without any success. I couldn't get the fucker to even finish the first Harry Potter book or the Hobbit.
There’s just…nothing new or worth reading these days in the male-focused popcorn novel arena.
I disagree although my taste in literature is probably not typically masculine. Ryu and Haruki Murakami have been my guilty pleasures for quite some time and somehow I don't get bored of them. The Metro series is also a fun, not-totally serious read and Robert Harris' Cicero trilogy is perfect for any man who dreams of Rome daily.
 
It's weird that the implication here is that reading fiction is better than reading non-fiction. With non-fiction you're actually learning something, fiction is just a form of entertainment. I think the more concerning question is why women (and gay men, apparently?) are more averse to reading non-fiction?
Depends on the book and author. The Jungle by Upton Sinclair might have been fiction, but he didn't pull the concepts entirely out of his ass.

I need to finish reading that.
 
Any tips? I know a guy who could really benefit from some reading since he's a shut-in with strategy games being his sole autistic interest. I've tried sharing sci-fi, historical fiction, dark fantasy and basically all other genres except pure romance without any success. I couldn't get the fucker to even finish the first Harry Potter book or the Hobbit.
Why are you trying to get him into fiction? I'm an inveterate fiction reader, but I recognize it's not for all people, and some men will never see the appeal of it. And that's fine, as long as they don't dismiss it. I'll never be into team sports, no matter how much my family or coworkers try to get me into it, and while I'm critical of the form it takes in today's culture, I still hold that it's something important to the human experience, even if it's not for me.

If you just want him to read books, there's tons of military and historical non-fiction that will be right up his alley, none of that annoying character development, dialogue and plot to get in the way of facts, data and analysis.
 
Reading fiction ultimately leaves you feeling full up, a stark contrast to self-improvement imperatives that demand you be more than you already are.
Are we talking about good fiction? Or contemporary top ten and "soon to be an Amazon Original" slop?
bourgeois women, imprisoned in the private sphere, took up reading bodice-ripping paperbacks as a pastime.
Remember, paying a woman's bills is practically the same thing as keeping her in USP Terre Haute.
Exaggerations and histrionics like this are why men need some level of indifference to what women say.
Reading fiction opens your eyes to uncomfortable truths and unexpected perspectives that you may otherwise not have sought out. Books can surprise you by “smuggling in knowledge through the backdoor of an enjoyable and engaging story,”
True enough.
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Any tips? I know a guy who could really benefit from some reading since he's a shut-in with strategy games being his sole autistic interest. I've tried sharing sci-fi, historical fiction, dark fantasy and basically all other genres except pure romance without any success. I couldn't get the fucker to even finish the first Harry Potter book or the Hobbit.
Did you show him any nonfiction? He might prefer that. Are there any scientific/historical/religious topics that interest him? For example, I was interested in nuclear power and accidents so I read a book about that which was very informative. Are there any people who interest him? A biographical or autobiographical book might work for him as well. Also, there might be books based on his autistic strategy games. I know they made books based on Doom and they were pretty cheesy but one of my friends who was a Doom addict read them.
 
Why are you trying to get him into fiction?
He's a shut-in without many interests or a strong personality. Still a very pleasant person to be around and I hoped that fiction would be the first step in broadening his interests. Personally, I can directly trace my love for certain sports to specific books.
Did you show him any nonfiction? He might prefer that. Are there any scientific/historical/religious topics that interest him?
I avoided non-fiction since he had trouble even going through YA books with the reading speed of a young teenager. In terms of topics, I guess that he's unusually into Ancient Rome and Shogunate Japan. Religion and science probably won't be a success.

Edit: I'll think of books based on video games. I think he's also into WoW which has some novels about it.
 
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