I love these people on this thread who attempt to justify themselves with, "I have more important things to worry about!" Because if you want to have sex, you have to quit your job and your hobbies. This is why all the most successful lovers are also impoverished homeless people with no friends.
I mean, if you genuinely don't want to have sex, then just say it. If you feel the need to invent excuses, then just admit you're bitter.
Angry virgins who have never had sex and people who constantly boast about all the sex they're having have at least one thing in common. Neither of them are having sex.
I just had a conversation with an autistic guy who lives with his mother at the age of 29 and apparently, he'll be going on a week long vacation on some tropical island with his rich girlfriend he met while volunteering in a homeless shelter.
So, basically, he decided to do something chill with his life (helping homeless people) and the universe rewarded him with sex. If you're actually a chill person, you WILL get laid. But if you are not getting laid, you are secretly an asshole who is lazy to do good deeds and earn those karma points.
There's a reason a lot of the frustrated virgins in this thread are not pleasant people. It's not because of their virginity that they are unpleasant, it's because of their unpleasantness that they are virgins.
From a woman's perspective, you pretty much have nothing to worry about in regards to sex except STDs and women get those too. You can't get pregnant. I know my level of anxiety about it is nowhere near normal and I need to fix that.
I just had a conversation with an autistic guy who lives with his mother at the age of 29 and apparently, he'll be going on a week long vacation on some tropical island with his rich girlfriend he met while volunteering in a homeless shelter.
So, basically, he decided to do something chill with his life (helping homeless people) and the universe rewarded him with sex. If you're actually a chill person, you WILL get laid. But if you are not getting laid, you are secretly an asshole who is lazy to do good deeds and earn those karma points.
There's a reason a lot of the frustrated virgins in this thread are not pleasant people. It's not because of their virginity that they are unpleasant, it's because of their unpleasantness that they are virgins.
I absolutely agree with this. I'm going to say that basically anyone can get laid, provided they're willing to meet society's basic standards. Just be a fun person, wash regularly, don't dress like a sped, be willing to talk to people and - this is most important - actually make a move. It doesn't matter if you're poor or ugly or fat or shy, if you're a person that others want to hang out with, you can get laid. Speaking as someone who was a fat, nerdy, socially awkward 19-year-old when I lost my V-plates, I can personally testify to this.
1. Be presentable. You don't have to be a Calvin Klein model in a Versace suit, but have decent personal hygiene and clothes that don't make you look hideous.
2. Meet women. Through work, through college, through social activities. 50% of the world's population is female, so this is the easy part.
3. Actually talk to women. I cannot stress this enough. Despite the example of Chris-Chan, there are a lot of guys who think sitting at the side and hoping a woman will take pity on them is the absolute best way to go about things. Women aren't these mysterious creatures lying in wait to bite your head off. Find something to talk about - your interests, her interests, things that just happened, whatever. Don't sperg and avoid contentious issues. A sense of humour is a useful thing to have.
4. And if you're a decent conversationalist, you're basically there.
There's no deep secret, there's no super-special scientific pickup line, it's just about being likeable and not self-absorbed.
I absolutely agree with this. I'm going to say that basically anyone can get laid, provided they're willing to meet society's basic standards. Just be a fun person, wash regularly, don't dress like a sped, be willing to talk to people and - this is most important - actually make a move. It doesn't matter if you're poor or ugly or fat or shy, if you're a person that others want to hang out with, you can get laid. Speaking as someone who was a fat, nerdy, socially awkward 19-year-old when I lost my V-plates, I can personally testify to this.
1. Be presentable. You don't have to be a Calvin Klein model in a Versace suit, but have decent personal hygiene and clothes that don't make you look hideous.
2. Meet women. Through work, through college, through social activities. 50% of the world's population is female, so this is the easy part.
3. Actually talk to women. I cannot stress this enough. Despite the example of Chris-Chan, there are a lot of guys who think sitting at the side and hoping a woman will take pity on them is the absolute best way to go about things. Women aren't these mysterious creatures lying in wait to bite your head off. Find something to talk about - your interests, her interests, things that just happened, whatever. Don't sperg and avoid contentious issues. A sense of humour is a useful thing to have.
4. And if you're a decent conversationalist, you're basically there.
There's no deep secret, there's no super-special scientific pickup line, it's just about being likeable and not self-absorbed.
Sorry for deleting that. I felt like I was getting too worked up over this.
You're right, it's not that hard to find someone you like. I got a guy. He's perfect for me and I really love him. I'm as shy and awkward as the next person. Actually no, I'm way way more.
I wish you could tattoo this on loveshys foreheads so they can get it. Not giving a shit about being virgin is the best outlook they can have in life, it's unhealthy obsessing about being one.
And gross, no one likes people who whine about being a virgin, especially females.
I just had a conversation with an autistic guy who lives with his mother at the age of 29 and apparently, he'll be going on a week long vacation on some tropical island with his rich girlfriend he met while volunteering in a homeless shelter.
So, basically, he decided to do something chill with his life (helping homeless people) and the universe rewarded him with sex. If you're actually a chill person, you WILL get laid. But if you are not getting laid, you are secretly an asshole who is lazy to do good deeds and earn those karma points.
There's a reason a lot of the frustrated virgins in this thread are not pleasant people. It's not because of their virginity that they are unpleasant, it's because of their unpleasantness that they are virgins.
Hell, it doesn't even have to be a "good deed". Just show some sort of interest in something. This is the biggest mistake I think this generation of men keeps making, they think people are going to want to talk to them even though they're boring motherfuckers who never leave the house and complain all day. Pretty much every whiny virgin I've ever met had no interest in anything at all. They just sat around all day, played video games, and wallowed in their own shit. Then they got pissy and bitter because people don't want to hang out with somebody totally lacking in personality.
There was so much autism in this post I don't even know where to start...actually, scratch that, even the autistic people I know aren't like this.
No, man, sex is not a "final step". Not even close. It's not a "test" and as a "reward" it's decidedly meh.
You want the heartbreaking truth? Life isn't a movie. It just goes on and on. There is no finality when it comes to this crap. To use the cliche you're putting the pussy on a pedestal. Sex is, and I mean this, not some momentous life changing event. Not even close. Nor does anybody give a shit if you're a virgin. Legitimately, nobody cares. Having sex does not change a single damn thing about you.
Legitimately every single woman I have ever met tells me the same thing, they can deal with a guy's physical flaws if he's fun to be around and not a gigantic sad sack who expects them to mother him.
Look at this guy, dude's literally deformed. Yet he's got a girlfriend, a job he likes, and seems happy. Know why? Because he isn't a fucking asshole.
I love these people on this thread who attempt to justify themselves with, "I have more important things to worry about!" Because if you want to have sex, you have to quit your job and your hobbies. This is why all the most successful lovers are also impoverished homeless people with no friends.
I'm starting to see a pattern, it's almost like the Five Stages of Grief except with Perma-virginity. The above mentioned example would be Stage 1: Denial ("the only reason I haven't gotten laid is because I'm too focused on ____. DUH!"). Then comes Stage 2: Anger ("All of you guys are a bunch of Chads and all of you girls are stuck-up BITCHES! Your society is SICK, maaan! Don't tell me there's more to life than sex, I wanna find that out for myself!"). And I'm unsure of how Stage 3: Bargaining manifests itself, but it's probably quite literal. What I also don't know is if Stage 4: Depression ever leads to the final stage of acceptance, because I rarely see a perma-virgin move on from Stage 2.
And again, I'm not talking about the people who legitimately don't care about sex and/or simply don't desire it.
I've seen the bargaining stage, it's the begging part where they try to buy sex with guilt and token small gifts. The personal LolCow page has a lot of documented cases of creeps trying to give out some kind of nerd offering while declaring their undying love to a woman they barely know who just happens to ride the same bus route.
I'm a born again virgin, and it's usually the born again part that startles people, not the fact that I consider myself a virgin. Hell, I don't understand why people expect sex to be talked about at work unless your work is sex. If your peers are pressuring you into discussing sex, your peers are speds, not you.
I inquired about this, and he means that he had sex before, but has decided to wait to have sex again until marriage, as a symbolic gesture. Honestly I think it's kind of romantic but whatevs.
I inquired about this, and he means that he had sex before, but has decided to wait to have sex again until marriage, as a symbolic gesture. Honestly I think it's kind of romantic but whatevs.
if he only told you in PMs instead of telling you in this thread it's obvious it's something he'd rather not tell everyone. why did you bring it upon yourself to tell people that when it seems to be against his wishes?
if he only told you in PMs instead of telling you in this thread it's obvious it's something he'd rather not tell everyone. why did you bring it upon yourself to tell people that when it seems to be against his wishes?
As far as I can tell this is the only thing it means. Inquire for yourself. Why would he say something googleable in the thread if he didn't want people to be able to google it?
Edit: Fuck English. I see my mistake now. Wrong use of inquire.
I wasn't a virgin when I started reading this thread but the virgin rants and high autistic content herein may have made me regress back into a state in which I have no idea what's going on inside a woman's head as she unconsciously bites her lower lip while watching a Cary Grant flick.
