Ah, yes you are. I don't know what to do at this point because, not to get too tmi, the previous time this happened we didn't talk for a week and of the end of it I was genuinely spiraling asf since I don't have anyone to talk to besides them. Never could have I guessed that I will be venting on kiwifarms but here we are. Ehh
Not to scare you but as someone who's dealt with this sort of thing recently, it's usually a sign that they have a bigger problem they're not telling you. Now, them having a problem doesn't mean you did anything actually wrong, but they obviously have some sort of animosity built up that they're using some retarded shit as the release valve for.'
I remember my friend telling me he was going to stream Silver Linings Playbook for his LD girlfriend one night. I said I liked the movie but thought the ending was shit and had a terrible message that getting with a girl with BPD to cure your bipolar disorder would not work in real life. He just looked at me with complete disdain for a couple of seconds and said "I feel sorry for you." Jesus, nigger. Looking back, it makes sense considering the girl he's with that I kind of unintentionally burst his bubble. But you know, calm the fuck down.
I'm not saying it's over, but you have to seriously look at the fact that they are having a meltdown over something trivial as a major red flag. I know nerds get spergy over their favorite animu and ponys, but I've never had an actual vitriolic reaction to someone disagreeing with me about my favorite things.
People are just cunts, mate. Friends know when to disagree and be civil. Don't let someone gaslight you over Rainbow Dash. That's stupid.
One of the foster kids I volunteer with is getting adopted by his foster dad! The kid was dealt an absolute shit hand in life and will have lifelong challenges as a result, both IQ and EQ, but his foster dad is patient and he's come a long way since i started working with him. I guess sometimes the faggot system works.
It seems I might drop my meds again, I tried to be strong and stick to my guns, but alas. I am but a wuss. I thought if I just stayed away from anti-med/anti-SSRI talk then I wouldn't overthink and make these types of brash decisions, but that stuff just follows me for some reason. I just come across it, and I'm not really strong enough to just not care and not overthink/freak out when I see it. Disappointed in myself but oh well, I knew I'd relapse eventually. Goodbye clarity and peace, hopefully we meet again.
Exhausted, frustrated, looking at my artwork and feeling nothing but disgust, and oh look at that, my blood sugar just fell harder than Jake Paul in his last fight.
In my experience, either two things are happening here; Your friend is way too sensitive and takes the smallest disagreements as the end of the world, or you're way too sensitive and take the smallest disagreements as the end of the world. Neither are bad btw, it's a very very common symptom of autism (Which I'm guessing either one of you have), RSD; rejection sensitive disorder. Where the smallest dissent feels like a stab to the the gut.
Uhhh, I have a feeling that it's both. The thing we're argued last time was because I said I think certain person was fun (they was a celebrity, kind of, and as far as I know they didn't do anything). And most of these arguments start like this- I say I like something, they start to insulting me and my interest and we both and up with the shitty mood. And it's not like they say "oh I don't really like it to be honest but that's cool yeah" they just straight up start insulting me or whatever I send them.
I'm not saying it's over, but you have to seriously look at the fact that they are having a meltdown over something trivial as a major red flag. I know nerds get spergy over their favorite animu and ponys, but I've never had an actual vitriolic reaction to someone disagreeing with me about my favorite things.
People are just cunts, mate. Friends know when to disagree and be civil. Don't let someone gaslight you over Rainbow Dash. That's stupid.
Yeah, it wasn't a thing in our communication a several months ago, we didn't argue over smallest things ever. At least not every weak, lmao. Maybe it's just the stress they building up because they have something major coming up, or maybe it's just me being a asshole and being ignorant about it. Again, I would love to talk things out and solve whatever wrong with our relationship, but they say they don't give a fuck and I can do whatever I want.
Lmao maybe this a murrica thing but I think I interacted with a psychiatrist for something like ten seconds. American psychiatrists are the biggest most useless losers and scumbags of all professions. They don't do DICK for anyone. Gas the psychs.
Don't expect to ever get over it. I still am not over my best friend dying of an OD and being found by his little brother with a needle in his arm. You just don't get over shit like this, ever. It's just pain you permanently have.
Society expects us to get over stuff and be back to square one and totally fine and that’s just not how it works.
We also, as a society, have ditched all the traditions and rituals around grief (mourning periods etc) that helped people to work through the initial acute stages. This goes for death, loss etc. but also for other transitions in life, rituals allow you to express grief or feeling in a structured way, and it’s to our detriment that we have deemed such things primitive and got rid of them,
There are some things you don’t ever get over. Expecting to get over them will see you stuck there forever.
Healing doesn’t look like being back to how you were before but by being able to manage most of the time, You kind of assimilate the wound and map it onto your Self, and eventually enough bark grows over it that it won’t kill you (unless something moves in and starts living in there…)
Time doesn’t really heal all wounds it just takes some of the edge off. Losing someone you genuinely love whether through death or abandonment is a significant wound.
Of course if we could avoid all the attachment stuff in the first place we’d be pain free but I’m not convinced that works as an approach. And either way, that one is a lesson that I keep refusing to learn despite the massive amount of pain involved. I think dogs are more trainable
Yeah, it wasn't a thing in our communication a several months ago, we didn't argue over smallest things ever. At least not every weak, lmao. Maybe it's just the stress they building up because they have something major coming up, or maybe it's just me being a asshole and being ignorant about it.
I'm probably projecting a lot here but I'm only doing it because I'm experiencing the same thing and want to save you a fraction of the grief and internalizing that happens when something like this happens.
Again, I would love to talk things out and solve whatever wrong with our relationship, but they say they don't give a fuck and I can do whatever I want.
He's being apathetic and telling you to pound sand over pony lore. In these cases, of course there probably is a bit of the tism' going on here, but it's a deeper issue at the core of the person. Let me ask you: Does this person talk to other people that much about their opinions, or at all? Have you agreed with 90% of what this person says before? Do they spend a little more time online than seemingly most people? Have you ever felt a kind of awkward, slight hesitation about disagreeing with them?
A lot of this behavior stems from people walling off into echo chambers online where they can find preapproved opinions all the time that will never challenge their beliefs. A lot of people tend to not want friends anymore as they want mirrors or toadies. I'm kind of the same, because honestly who wants to hear retarded opinions all day? But I think the general rule is if someone is being positive or earnest about something they enjoy, or bringing up a different opinion in a respectful manner, you should at least be considerate and happy someone enjoys something, unless it's complete and total slop and the person doesn't ever give you mulligans themselves.
I don't have really great advice because it's a giant societal issue. But I do think you need to stop blaming yourself for a dude being weird like this. You should just start saying your opinions regardless of what reaction you think you're going to get.
I'm saying this because that statement was the thing that pushed my own friendship beyond the event horizon.
There's people battling cancer, loss, trauma, financial woes, abuse, dangerous living situations, chronic pain, isolation... and yet somehow... they manage to not be a cunt to people that aren't doing anything to them. In fact, some of them tend to be on average nicer because they tend to understand that everybody else is probably dealing with something similar and don't want to put any extra pain on another person when they're experiencing it themselves.
At the end of the day, how you conduct yourself around people is a choice. The things you do to other people are a choice.
One of the biggest problems with post-modern thinking is we all want to believe people doing insidious things are doing them because they're somehow battling with some inner neurosis or that there's this thing that happened to them in their childhood that retroactively makes their bad behavior make sense. We think every hero in a story has to have some moral ambiguity or character deficits or every antagonist actually is doing awful things because they have a stronger logic than anybody else.
Life doesn't work that way. The truth is there are people who are just doing shitty things or behaving weirdly because they just like to, and it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that they have a paper coming up or rent is due.
What this person is doing is obviously hurting you. Are you going to go out and be needlessly cruel to anyone while you're dealing with this? Probably not. And that's the difference.
Tolkien got it right. There's hobbits, and there's orcs. There's people who like fucking shit up because that's what they do, and then there's people who have moments of weakness and temptation but still fight the good fight.
I know that's a very long winded way of saying "Your friend seems toxic". Again, I just know that exact pain because it's happened to me by one of the only people I liked. If you really want to hold onto the friendship, maybe contacting them again in about a month or two might help ease things out. But if someone's showing you how they're going to conduct themselves for the forseeable future with no remorse, than I'd start cutting my losses. It's really painful but you'll be okay.
I'm probably saying all this because I needed to say it for me than you might need to hear it but I hope you can remind yourself of that when they start having an existential crisis over you saying Fluttershy is best girl or Super Saiyan Blanco can beat Optimus Prime.
Fuck this guy and his dogshit opinions.
