ETA: Re: reticent nerds with no confidence being attractive to women. Well, this can be true for white ones, sorry Indians and Asians. But the problem is that a woman really has to be an adult to develop interesting tastes. Women who are attracted to that kind of guy are kind of dominant. And by that I don’t mean they are Mistress X at OnlyFans or whatever, I mean genuinely have that personality. And even for guys who are attracted to that...this isn’t something females develop until they’re older. Even those loud fat girls in high school aren’t actually dominant and confident, they’re just desperate for attention, and almost certainly would be thrilled to put on a collar and call some budding neckbeard Master. That’s your classic “The DM’s Girlfriend.” They just want to be wanted.
I think a lot of reticent nerds give up too young, or else their tastes don't age with them and they can’t manage to work up attraction to adult women who are past 25 or so, and...25 is really the bare minimum when it is even possible to sincerely have developed that personality. A LOT of those dudes would actually be better off with women who are *older* than they are, because a mommy-girlfriend is really what they want. She will consider him a son-boyfriend and since she thinks of him as inferior, she won’t get mad at him the way someone looking for an actual equal partner would.