Ask men why they do things the way they do and maybe you'll get an honest answer

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Squanto Airi said:
Like the other gentleman said, stink-eye, passive aggressive comments about looking unkempt or "looking like a woman" despite also having a decently long beard, one saying "if you dont want to get raped, you'd go ahead and fix yourself ".
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Fair remarks. Past a certain length, men's hair look very wavy and unkempt akin to a cheap wig, unless tied in a man bun (and you clearly don't do that). Go visit a barber.
 
All this time I thought all men had the same reaction as I do to women offering compliments.

"What did she mean!? Does she like me? Is she making fun of me? Can she tell I'm lonely and she's trying to get me to join a cult? Is she subtly trying to tell me that she resents my very existence on the same planet as her? I should probably go home and kill myself just to be sure!"
 
VargReallyDidNothingWrong said:
They wouldn't be complimenting you if that was the case.

Nobody goes up to Quasimodo and says "wow teehee you're so GOOD at ringing those BELLS". They go eww I hope the creepy bell guy doesn't come over here.
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Kofi Drinka said:
Are you trying to get broken up with? A woman complimenting you in front of your wife is going to piss your wife off and start stupid jealousy games.
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Ignatius von Cistern said:
You can do it gently, like the old ladies, but young women complimenting men = sex. I'm sorry that's just how it is, get used to it.

More to the point, we don't need compliments from women, who often don't understand a single thing we're doing. Again it's not misogyny, it's just reality. Women cannot do what men can do, not because they physically can't but because it's a turn-on for them to see men do those things. It's biology. You can't fight nature, you have to work with it.
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VargReallyDidNothingWrong said:
You meant to say "NGMI dood"


Men compliment men all the time, its just that beyond "mirin bro" or "sick pump dude" or "damn that's a sweet camaro" dudes don't give a shit about compliments. If a dude is like whoa your lips are so full and plump yeah that's fruity as fuck.

Women complimenting men ARE flirting. Always. If a woman is noticing a man being good at something or being attractive, and then goes up and says that to his face, she wants to get dicked down (maybe not right away but its in the back of her mind).
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Spilled Spaghett said:
The only people who seem to be allowed to compliment each other are women. Men complimenting men is gay. Women complimenting men are flirting. Men complimenting women are sexually harassing them. Maybe part of the issue is men receive compliments so rarely, no one would believe you're just being nice.
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It is absolutely no wonder that so many men (supposedly) are miserable and lonely.

I'll tell you what: I compliment people - a lot - and I always have. I like making people feel good or appreciated, or even just that their shoes are really sharp, or I appreciate their kindness or that they're always cheerful or that they did a great job in that meeting or wtf ever. And I have NEVER used compliments as a means to approach or flatter or flirt with a man I didn't know or was friends or acquaintances with. Never. My compliments are genuine, not sexual, and unlike too many weirdos here, I'm not walking around afraid to connect genuinely and sincerely say, "wow, I really like x" about someone. I like letting people know that someone noticed something nice about them or appreciated something about them, without fear. You all should try it.
 
Woman moment. Joins the thread and tries to lecture men on how they should feel and what they should act like.

Totally never did anything sexual or even flirted. Basically a virgin, never even made eye contact with a man even! No man has ever once confused her for being even remotely sexual with them and every compliment comes with a manual to explain what it really meant.
 
Lord of the Large Pants said:
All this time I thought all men had the same reaction as I do to women offering compliments.

"What did she mean!? Does she like me? Is she making fun of me? Can she tell I'm lonely and she's trying to get me to join a cult? Is she subtly trying to tell me that she resents my very existence on the same planet as her? I should probably go home and kill myself just to be sure!"
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She's trying to seduce you to steal your wizardly powers, vaporize her with magic missiles just to be sure you're safe king.
 
Kofi Drinka said:
Don't bother engaging with BP attention seekers. They're so fat and ugly the only way they can get attention is posting here.
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:optimistic: take your own advice

Kofi Drinka said:
Women want to push a man's buttons to see if he'll react. They're too stupid to realize he may react with "And then I punch you in the face" because you're pushing his buttons. They need to realize an angry man can kill you, even by accident. Don't fucking do it unless you're willing to die for it. Because 1 slap or punch can literally kill you. And when men get angry you're at their mercy. It's why men don't start shit with each other unless they're retarded. It can be lethal.
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Kofi Drinka said:
Totally never did anything sexual or even flirted. Basically a virgin, never even made eye contact with a man even! No man has ever once confused her for being even remotely sexual with them and every compliment comes with a manual to explain what it really meant.
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It might be hard to believe, but most people (50% of them to be precise) don't sexualize everything to oblivion. These same people also don't act like the OnlyFans whores you beat off to. Get your head out of the gutter and stop pushing your porn addiction on unwilling women.
 
Ignatius von Cistern said:
You can do it gently, like the old ladies, but young women complimenting men = sex.
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Smashed & Slamed said:
I'm denser than a block of cheese so I didn't take it that way.
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Sometimes you can be nice without it having anything to do with sex. I know that's news to KiwiFarms apparently, but usually when I compliment someone-I mean it. There's no alterior motive. Heck, even if I were approaching a woman and giving her a compliment as an opener, I'll make sure it's something I genuinely mean.

Smashed & Slamed said:
The whole goal is to see if they get violent you idiot.
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This is also unhinged and insane neurotic behavior. Holy mother Jesus, how hard is it to just be normal and not intentionally prod your spouse?! Now, the original person who mentioned this clarified she was doing it in jest, so that's fine. That being said, I know there's plenty who aren't kidding.

I understand "shit tests", but here's my approach: Every woman gets 1 bullshit as long as we're new and fresh. After that? You either learn to trust me or you don't. You pull this shit again?
You're gone. Plain and simple. There's no anger, I'll just kick you out. Any self-respecting man has zero tolerance for bull crap. I'm not responsible for your feelings or your neurotic personality traits. You can be somebody else's problem.

Smashed & Slamed said:
Not to bully them or for fun but to see how they handle a little stress or if I at sometimes act the asshole.
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I'd throw you out so quickly it's not even funny. You're an adult and are expected to be a normal and well adjusted, reasonable person.

General Patton said:
What happens if you piss sitting down?
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There's actually something known as the Piss Goblin. He lives in the sewers and he carries a knife and sack full of men's sacks. He loves to crawl up toilet pipes and if he finds a nutsack, he'll grab your nuts and cut them off. That's why men have to pee standing up. If we sit down, we legitimately risk losing our balls to the Piss Goblin.
 
Weland said:
It might be hard to believe, but most people (50% of them to be precise) don't sexualize everything to oblivion. These same people also don't act like the OnlyFans whores you beat off to. Get your head out of the gutter and stop pushing your porn addiction on unwilling women.
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Maybe read the thread? The majority of men have said "don't compliment unless you expect it to be taken as flirting". It isn't everything being sexual. It's how social interaction works. If you compliment a man he assumes you're interested unless it's small talk no one really pays attention to.
 
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
I'll tell you what: I compliment people - a lot - and I always have. I like making people feel good or appreciated, or even just that their shoes are really sharp, or I appreciate their kindness or that they're always cheerful or that they did a great job in that meeting or wtf ever. And I have NEVER used compliments as a means to approach or flatter or flirt with a man I didn't know or was friends or acquaintances with. Never. My compliments are genuine, not sexual, and unlike too many weirdos here, I'm not walking around afraid to connect genuinely and sincerely say, "wow, I really like x" about someone. I like letting people know that someone noticed something nice about them or appreciated something about them, without fear. You all should try it.
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Yeah, i think the conversation got in a very weird direction with this compliment stuff

I think it's pretty obvious the tells when someone's interested in you sexually. A compliment is usually not enough
 
MAAAD said:
Past a certain length, men's hair look very wavy and unkempt akin to a cheap wig, unless tied in a man bun (and you clearly don't do that). Go visit a barber.
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That makes no sense... If you're growing your hair, visiting a barber to get rid of split ends is one of the things you do so your hair don't look like shit

Also hydrating and taking care of it works. If you just let it grow, it will look unkempt. Diet plays a huge role too
 
Kofi Drinka said:
Women's compliments are often insults in ways men just don't detect.
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Yes. But men absolutely do detect them. That's why most men tend to not hang out with women. We know the games they play and they don't jive with how most men interact. It still blows most women's minds that two dudes sometimes just need to punch each other in the face and then they're best friends the rest of their lives after months of hating each other.

I don't really agree with this retarded take that men can't understand when a woman is interested in them. Maybe when I was... 16, or so, sure? But as a fully grown man I can tell you when a woman is playing games with me or not. If you can't then you're stunted, somehow. Talk to your mom. Or a sister. Or a female coworker, but I have a feeling you'd think she's trying to sleep with you if she gives you advice.
 
souschef said:
I think it's pretty obvious the tells when someone's interested in you sexually. A compliment is usually not enough
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I don't think I've ever received just a compliment from a woman and went "well, she wants to bone me". It usually does take a little more than that.

I wonder if a lot of this stems from most users here having never been flirted with before in their lives and don't know/remember what a woman flirting with them is like. Sure, no man will recognize "I looked at him with my side eye, how is that not obvious?!", but when a woman at a bar offers to buy me shots and drinks, she's usually flirting with me.
 
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