Kiwi Farms Therapy Thread - When you (or others) wisely decided to use KF as your therapy center

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I'm aware of my deficiencies as a human.
My personality is twisted in various ways, and I have every complex imaginable.
At this point, I believe external intervention is necessary for change.
 
Hello again, doc. I just looked at my mail just a second ago, and I received the worst bit of rejection I have ever had. I had an application for a certain thing that I was 99% confident I would be accepted into, something that would be great to be in, I was basically told to my face I was a shoe-in, AND after waiting over 100 days, I got rejected. This was something huge for me. I do get to appeal the decision within 90 days, but otherwise, I'm devastated. I had to put a certain thing in my life on hold for the entire 100+ days while I waited for this. I'm in a rough fucking state of mind now. How do I cope with this?
 
The Strongest Haaton said:
Hello again, doc. I just looked at my mail just a second ago, and I received the worst bit of rejection I have ever had. I had an application for a certain thing that I was 99% confident I would be accepted into, something that would be great to be in, I was basically told to my face I was a shoe-in, AND after waiting over 100 days, I got rejected. This was something huge for me. I do get to appeal the decision within 90 days, but otherwise, I'm devastated. I had to put a certain thing in my life on hold for the entire 100+ days while I waited for this. I'm in a rough fucking state of mind now. How do I cope with this?
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The short, insulting answer is radical acceptance. The short, not insulting answer is...you take a deep breath, you accept this happened, you tell yourself it sucks but no force on Earth will keep you down forever, and you keep trying.
Sometimes it's laugh or cry, and as you know since you're on here watching people do it, crying don't help too much.
 
The Strongest Haaton said:
How do I cope with this?
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  1. Take a day or two to feel bad about it completely.
  2. Ween yourself off to normal amounts of feeling bad.
  3. Try and make plans in the next 100 days and don't let despair take over your life.
Grief can happen for more than just death. Grieve a bit as it is important to feel it, then restructure your next 100 days and focus on what you can do and can change. Know you are in a shitty situation beyond your control but there's stuff in the meantime you can control. Know others will feel your pain if you tell them and you're not imagining how shitty it is, but know that things change and you have to move on to try and catch better changes in your life if that makes sense. It sucks, but you're not alone and life can change for the better later. For now, you are in a setback you can mourn, but do not let it take over your life after a week. You control what you can and go from there.
 
Dizzyuntildeath said:
.you take a deep breath, you accept this happened, you tell yourself it sucks but no force on Earth will keep you down forever, and you keep trying.
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AMHOLIO said:
  1. Take a day or two to feel bad about it completely.
  2. Ween yourself off to normal amounts of feeling bad.
  3. Try and make plans in the next 100 days and don't let despair take over your life.
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I appreciate both of your posts. I took the day off of everything (including this place) yesterday to unwind and try to get my thoughts under control. Today, I told the rest of my family the news, which was kind of hard to do, but it was best to get done. I'll be doing my best to live normally for the time being, and figure out how to move forward with this awful news with some kind of plan of action of my own. Thanks again for the encouraging words.
 
Sneedium said:
My shrink says I have CPTSD from my fucked up childhood, and I am usually the first to dismiss shit like that, because the people who often claim this diagnosis are insufferable and use it as a way to handwave their bad behavior.
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That's because cluster B demons self diagnose and claim to have it to explain away their evil behavior and act like victims instead of abusers.
Read this: Distinguishing PTSD, Complex PTSD, and Borderline Personality Disorder: A latent class analysis
This image is from that study, a direct comparison of overlapping symptoms between (simple) PTSD [blue], complex PTSD [blue + green], and borderline PD [green + red].
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And here is a figure utilizing the data from the above study, directly comparing CPTSD to BPD:
CPTSD_BPD.webp
So if you'd ever like to poke holes in someone's story and identify liars and manipulators, now you can. :hah:
 
The Strongest Haaton said:
I appreciate both of your posts. I took the day off of everything (including this place) yesterday to unwind and try to get my thoughts under control. Today, I told the rest of my family the news, which was kind of hard to do, but it was best to get done. I'll be doing my best to live normally for the time being, and figure out how to move forward with this awful news with some kind of plan of action of my own. Thanks again for the encouraging words.
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We share a few threads, so I am going to point out that stuff like this? This is what separates you from animals. The self awareness, the capacity to take control and run your own life, the desire to not just be sluiced through into the path of least resistance. Welcome to the human race.
 
The world sucks ass. All we can do is try to navigate it. It doesn't help that a lot of old people are stuck in their boomerish mentality and refuse to help any of the young folk out. It's quite Jewish if you ask me. Oh well, fuck them.
 
If you need external "help" you're doing it wrong, I firmly believe in the power of post traumatic strengthening, much like how a beaten lump of iron makes the superior steel the human psyche is empowered by it's tribulations. Look at how utterly lacklustre the strength of modern people is; the failure in the face of abundance, the sheer absence of drive in so many of them, people have never been so far away from starving to death yet now they struggle? Insufficient beatings, unironically.
 
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