why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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Become Fictoromantics and Fictosexuals. Your Asexuality can win.
 
Spent seven years of my life starting from 18 trying my hardest to build a future for someone who only wanted to be a lonely femcel playing videogames in her parents home all day. When she actually loved me it was like the warmth of the sun. I offered her the world. She had problems but I never doubted her or held it over her.

She broke it off in her usual self sabotaging way, with nothing lined up better for her, just more videogames in mom's spare room and she has never told me why. Years later she is still a lonely femcel with nothing.

I have been distraught for a few years now. I wake up sometimes after a good dream about it, only to immediately realize I am alone and start my day drained of joy.

Venting out of the way,
I have been very tired of living this way, so im determined to be the one of two people who wont be miserable and alone.
I have lost all my weight, hit the gym to start toning up. Learned more lifeskills. Tried to be as outgoing as possible. I dont want to be found wanting again and waste the rest of my life on something that goes nowhere.

Single Women go to bars and meetups and singles nights in the US so infrequently now you would think it a nation of Islam. I am really trying to just find one genuine, nerdish woman on the dating apps with some loyalty and the only results I get are scene girls and the ocassional troon. Women with cracked faces like a salt flat from makeup overuse trying to hide it with more makeup with wild standards. Interests exclusively being sushi and travel and you as a male having a larger yacht than their daddy. Why is every woman on these apps daughter to an oil and gas executive?

I am genuinely just trying to find one salt of the earth girl who is happy to take a loyal, hardworking man with a v8 muscle car. She doesnt even have to be a nerd. I feel my standards are not high. I have reached the point where I will go as far as to offer myself to any fem kiwis who live here in the south. (Of which there is probably one on the entire site)
 
Partially me choosing not to until I'm a better person and at a better place in life and partially because I refuse to do online dating and would rather meet someone at a shared interest activity in person. Problem is, I don't go out a lot Lol

Also a bit nervous as it's hard to find good men around my age who aren't already taken or completely burnt out from dating because of shitty women; and I'm afraid of running into a psycho instead.
 
I'm 50 and female and lets face it, men desire young women, and qualities in a man that might appeal to women, such as intelligence or financial security, don't have the same currency going the other way. Maybe I also need to filter the crap out of my photos to get a bite, but what is the point of giving people the wrong idea? Obviously once we meet they will see what I really look like.

Its ok. I'm pretty happy to be single.
 
More swiping and liking, more slogging endlessly through fatties, crazies, single moms and fat crazy single moms. The disparity between the quality of women I see IRL vs online dating is pretty wild. I guess we’re going back to the era where OLD was for downbad weirdos again. I’m getting better at filtering out the crazies at least.

Got a decent convo with a match who didn’t seem crazy once and we made small talk and talked about what to do for a first date. Naturally, she ghosted because of fucking course.
 
I have been crazy busy with work the last few years, no time but plenty of resources ahahah.
Besides we are having a big prolonged argument with my dad about religion and some of his project where he excludes me for no reason at all.
But me and my other brothers will confront him about it soon.
Once thats solved I finally will have some time to smash box,maybe.
 
KonradCruise said:
I feel my standards are not high. I have reached the point where I will go as far as to offer myself to any fem kiwis who live here in the south. (Of which there is probably one on the entire site)
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I'm in a similar boat
 
KonradCruise said:
I have reached the point where I will go as far as to offer myself to any fem kiwis who live here in the south. (
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I'd genuinely like to meet any fem kiwis (or male kiwis for that matter) who live in Chile, if only to have someone to talk shit about trannies with in person.

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For the past year, as I've said in some posts here and in the How are you thread, I've been trying to meet women and start a relationship, but the dog incident (also posted about it in these threads; TL;DR: my dog is a crazy escapist and I left him home alone for an hour a few days after moving to a new home, he tried to get out and had a really bad accident with a window, now I'm afraid of leaving him alone again and also broke from the vet bills and house repairs) has limited my capacity to go out or do anything, really.

Just as I was seriously about to stop trying, at least until those problems are dealt with, I met a girl who seemed really promising (biggest thing is a shared love of rock), we talked for a few weeks and went out a couple of times, but it didn't work out. Not sure why, she just pulled away kind of suddenly.

So now I'm taking that break from this stuff. It's bad enough dealing with the dog and the money issues, to add women problems on top of it. I hope to be in a better place in a few months, not just for dating, but in general.
 
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Waffle Iron said:
We've reached the point where femkiwis are the hottest dating property there is. What a time to be alive.
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Only if you're willing to accept autism or mental illness or age or weight as a potential caveat. Normal women don't end up here. Even women who are only slightly weird don't end up here.
 
Spock said:
Only if you're willing to accept autism or mental illness or age or weight as a potential caveat. Normal women don't end up here. Even women who are only slightly weird don't end up here.
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But at least you'll have someone you already know for sure that you can tell endless jokes about trannies and indians
 
Spock said:
Only if you're willing to accept autism or mental illness or age or weight as a potential caveat. Normal women don't end up here. Even women who are only slightly weird don't end up here.
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They end up here, they just know what the climate is like so they dont outwardly brag or show off for the most part. Most people here who have some brain cells know that a lot of people act larger than life or put on a persona when they post for shits and giggles. The postcounts also are ususally a lot lower than the base population of manly kiwimen and they are more content to just watch but they are there. Also that brings up a good point because most of the guys here are the same where they are off kilter too. It is not black and white however and ive seen all sorts on this site in so many different job professions with so many different values lol.
 
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