Part of the problem is that black women are so scared of marriages and relationships that they choose to have babies with the men that are likely not to be around. 50-55% of black men have no children. Another 30% are married. That leaves 15% of black men that are unmarried with kids. Even giving some overlap for married men with a "side kid", that still leaves 20% of black men making 70-80% of the children. The other 80% of black men are not wanted, a lot of them BECAUSE they are "too nice" or "don't fight all the time", et cetera.
Black women have been taught and see their single mothers get into so many "toxic" relationships that black women literally view a black man that DOESN'T constantly fight with them as not loving them.
Now Tia Mowry is making the rounds talking about how she "GRADUATED" marriage when she divorced her husband last month. Keep in mind, they have kids that are 11 and 4. Between her, Meagan Good getting divorced, and Lori Harvey breaking up with Michael B. Jordan (see Marvel reference, lol), women CELEBRATE leaving good black men to be "strong and independent."