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- Aug 14, 2022
I got into a discussion today with a former employee, with whom things did not go well, who literally told me that I was treating him like a dog to a point where he was afraid to talk to me. Kind of made me think.
Looking back, I can kind of see it. Even though I never meant to hurt him as a person, I hated him as an employee, and I was pretty cruel in some ways. The more he fucked up, the harder I came on him and the harder he fucked up. To me it felt like there was nothing I could do to improve the situation but get rid of him, for him it felt like he lacked support and could not tell me things. Faults on both sides if I am being honest, but anyway.
If we take apart the obvious no-no things, I basically talk and behave the same in my professional and personal life as I do here. Some people have considered me to be a bully. I can also be extremely nice, but the moment someone loses my respect I almost stop to think of them as an individual. They just become an inconvenience.
I am not trying to say this is a good thing or anything. I am just curious to know how others are IRL vs how they are online, and if either affect their behavior in the other sphere.
Looking back, I can kind of see it. Even though I never meant to hurt him as a person, I hated him as an employee, and I was pretty cruel in some ways. The more he fucked up, the harder I came on him and the harder he fucked up. To me it felt like there was nothing I could do to improve the situation but get rid of him, for him it felt like he lacked support and could not tell me things. Faults on both sides if I am being honest, but anyway.
If we take apart the obvious no-no things, I basically talk and behave the same in my professional and personal life as I do here. Some people have considered me to be a bully. I can also be extremely nice, but the moment someone loses my respect I almost stop to think of them as an individual. They just become an inconvenience.
I am not trying to say this is a good thing or anything. I am just curious to know how others are IRL vs how they are online, and if either affect their behavior in the other sphere.
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