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LongTallTexan said:
I'm not allowed to get a job because my mom doesn't want mean people yelling at me and doesn't want me away from her.
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You’re nearly 21. You don’t ask your mum for permission to get a job. You just go get one. While you’re under her roof the expectation would be you’re polite, civilised and pull your weight with the household chores and bills. But she doesn’t get to tell you you cant have a job. You’re an adult.
You need to make sure you have your own bank account. Then get a job and get all that wage paid into that account. It would be reasonable to then help your mum with bills but do NOT give her all of it or allow her access to the account under any circumstances.
 
On a job site. Told to tune a medium voltage VFD. Here with the sales guy.

The customer has a 460V generator to a feed up transformer to get it to 4160V. This is an active front end drive so the drive is going to inject reactive current constantly back to the generator, and generators hate this.

Also, it's obvious that their switchgear hasn't been serviced or cleaned in a decade and where they are putting this shit is in a machine/paint shop.

I put my foot down and refused to even consider starting work until they clean the switchgear, inspect it, and verify the SEL safety trip settings.

Now the fun part. They won't tell me what they are using this drive for and even what it's supposed to be connected to. It's not a motor.

The sales guy, who can't tell the difference between a motor and his asshole just keeps telling me to "just make it work".

"Make what work?!? Bill, I need to know what I am tuning the VFD to. Stop saying 'open loop'. You don't know what that means and if they are trying to do what I think they are, open loop physically can't work"

I have an idea of what they are trying to do. I think it's the same as cold ironing for a port (synching a shore power source to a cargo ship's power in order to shut down the ship's engines) except instead of 460V it is 4160V.

This is so retarded. Just tell me what the fuck I am supposed to be doing. Besides telling idiots to stop doing insanely unsafe shit in front of me.
 
Feeling okay but bored. I got rid of two dead-end friends this morning, so that's a little positive. I always hate it when I hear nothing but excuses from dead-end friends, about why they don't say or do anything with me or hell, anyone they have. It's always about "maybe we're doing things?" okay so you think it's normal to just piss away the time you have available with people? Emergencies and Work exceptions.

I was born with the last generation of people who, when you befriend with someone, you not only build connections with, but you also did things with. It's called bonding and building, qualities I feel are simply lost in today's generation. I don't find it acceptable or normal personally, to just be adding people for the sake of adding them. They'll become names on a list eventually, at that point, you either do something with them or drop them.

It never impressed me when people gloat about however many friends they had on Facebook. "Oh I got 300 friends on Facebook!" they say. Does a single fucking one of them give a single shit about you? Most likely not, probably about two at most. The rest are just PR-padding so you feel validated in everything you say or do, that's all it is.

I refuse to be treated like some name on a list. I'd like to think I'm fair in regards to being a friend. All I'd ask is someone to just communicate or do things with me within a year, at minimum. Doesn't have to be every day, every week or every month. At least within a year. I've found time for people through even my shittiest moments. I've put up with people's bullshit in my circle, but then people get all crybaby the moment some of mine shows itself, then they run away and shelter.

I hate how normalized this shit is in society. People don't see others as people, they just see opportunities, stepping stones and means to gain an advantage on another over.
 
Not great. I've got an appointment at the dentist today for a cleanup plus discussion of recent teeth issues. I haven't been in for two years. As such, I'm being told I got bacteria chilling deep in my right set of molars now. So, time for fillings. Plus, my previous dentist fucked up my left side amalgam fillings so I have to get them removed and refilled, along with the new ones.

I'm genuinely scared. I hate the dentist. Never had a good experience with them & they often made matters worse. The only reason I never had cavities before was because of my family's very strict eating standards. Now, due to poor diet, mental issues, and meds, it's all gone topside.

I guess I'm looking for some comfort. Has anyone here gotten a lot of fillings and/or crowns? If so, how have you guys faired over the years? Any issues, physical, mental, lookswise? Is there no way to get my mouth in check & possibly restore my teeth so as to not have to go through this? Or should I just suck it up & go under the drill?

Sometimes, I wish I was a shark:(
 
Taxes said:
Or should I just suck it up & go under the drill?
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Just suck it up

Dental issues get worse and more expensive the longer you take to solve them. You really really don't want anything to develop into a root infection, i don't wish this pain on my worst enemy
 
nycifer said:
I don't find it acceptable or normal personally, to just be adding people for the sake of adding them. They'll become names on a list eventually, at that point, you either do something with them or drop them.
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I agree with you but I think there's one exception to this. Steam friends. I think there is a point in adding people even if you don't talk. When it comes to niche multiplayer games, you can fire up a game and people in your friends list can see you playing and if they want they can join you.
Sure, you could say that you should just be direct and talk it out, but this is more practical when you have dozens and dozens of people who might potentially play the game but don't play it that often.
I've had a few times when someone I'd played something with before and friended decided to join weeks or months later and when I greeted them like "what's up" they replied "oh i saw you playing this and decided to drop in!"

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Taxes said:
I guess I'm looking for some comfort. Has anyone here gotten a lot of fillings and/or crowns? If so, how have you guys faired over the years? Any issues, physical, mental, lookswise? Is there no way to get my mouth in check & possibly restore my teeth so as to not have to go through this? Or should I just suck it up & go under the drill?
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I'm not one for doctor appointments either, but oddly enough dentist stuff is an exception to that. I actually like going to the dentist. But I haven't had any serious issues in over a decade so I can't help you there. Last time I had cavities was as a teen, and my fillings were good so many years later I still have no issues with them. I just go for yearly checkups and plaque removal.
My teeth are kind of yellowy since I drink a lot of coffee and green/black tea which also stain teeth, but I don't mind that at all. As long as they are healthy I'm a happy chomper.
I think you should just suck it up. I don't think there are any other ways to deal with cavities and bad fillings other than to get em done and take better care of your teeth going forward. Leaving things untreated will only make things worse, and it's really bad if you get infections and toothaches.
 
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Not great. I've got an appointment at the dentist today for a cleanup plus discussion of recent teeth issues. I haven't been in for two years. As such, I'm being told I got bacteria chilling deep in my right set of molars now. So, time for fillings. Plus, my previous dentist fucked up my left side amalgam fillings so I have to get them removed and refilled, along with the new ones.

I'm genuinely scared. I hate the dentist. Never had a good experience with them & they often made matters worse. The only reason I never had cavities before was because of my family's very strict eating standards. Now, due to poor diet, mental issues, and meds, it's all gone topside.

I guess I'm looking for some comfort. Has anyone here gotten a lot of fillings and/or crowns? If so, how have you guys faired over the years? Any issues, physical, mental, lookswise? Is there no way to get my mouth in check & possibly restore my teeth so as to not have to go through this? Or should I just suck it up & go under the drill?

Sometimes, I wish I was a shark:(
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Remember, the alternative is much much worse.
I deferred my dental work and was traveling for work to another country. I got there and promptly got a toothache, and it got worse and worse. Then the 12 hour flight home, there weren't enough tiny alcohol bottles on the plane. I went to a dentist the next day she said "I don't usually do root canals in the office but this needs to be done now."

So, suck it up and get moving on it now before it gets worse and causes worse problems than mine did. In 25 years I've had one implant and 2 crowns(each replaced once) and a number of fillings. The implant was that root-canal tooth that finally didn't have enough to re-crown it.

My dentist is very generous with the novocain, he numbs the area and then stabs me repeatedly but the rest of the process is just noisy and uncomfortable.
 
Fuck me man if I gotta deal with one AI or automated system in health care I'll kill a senator. Every fucking time its "your prescription is ready for pick up" or "your referral was received, call here to schedule" but some how nearly every fucking time it is done in error. Gotten like 5 texts that my referral is ready to schedule and every fucking time I call they say they have no referral. Sweet my pills are ready same day lets go get em... so they aren't ready same day you say...even though your dumb little AI phone call bot said they would be. Every time at the pharmacy there is at least a 30 minute delay while they scramble to put my shit together even though the damn text messages say its ready for pick up an hour before I hit the road. Even better when I keep getting texts to pick something up that just a text ago said they wouldn't have stocked for another week. I'm just waiting on a referral that refuses to go through the system because no one at either office has any control over it. It will just sit there stuck on pending forever it seems.
 
I’ve just been in a call where the errors we plebs make are called terrible mistakes, we must do better, outlined in red, and presented in VERY SCARY GRAPHS and the errors management and the company make/made were referred to as ‘developmental opportunities.’
You have to laugh don’t you, because if you didn’t, you’d hoist the black flag and start spitting on your hands.
 
Taxes said:
Or should I just suck it up & go under the drill?
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No matter what, yes you should just suck it up and go under the drill. Trust me.
My mother went 17 years between dentist appointments because of reasoning similar to your experiences, and her mouth ended up being so bad she's had all but four teeth pulled. ALL of them. She was a heavy smoker many years, she's always been a tea drinker and while she did take care of her teeth, it was only brushing and not all of the extra things your dentist will tell you to do like flossing. It was bad, man. Extremely aggressive gingivitis that took months to get under control. Then once that was cleared, she had to travel to the capital, and then to Hungary because they have relatively cheap dentists of reputable skill. Corona threw a wrench into things and it took over a year before she got her permanent implants instead of dentures.
The recovery from first getting her teeth pulled sucked, the recovery from the implants less so but still sucked. The worst was definitely the gingivitis, all things considered, but it was not a walk in the park at any point.
Don't let your mouth get this bad.

If I were you, I'd find a new dentist if possible. One with a focus on fear of dentists, someone who can walk you through the steps as slowly as you need to get comfortable with the procedures you'll have to go through. If the worst thing happens and you need serious work done, find out a way to pay off in a manageable amount.
It's doable. You deserve a healthy mouth and a beautiful smile.
 
PetiteFeet said:
I'm beginning to sense a pattern. If I drink an energy drink, or a cup of coffee for that matter, my anxiety spikes and I find myself ruminating more easily.
Fuck me and my enjoying the taste of highly caffeinated drinks. I suppose it's just another fact about me that I cannot change and I just have to accept that I should stay away from them, except as an incredibly rare treat.
Sayonara, vietnamese iced coffee, dalgona coffee and literally any Monster flavour that are available to me.

Luckily I enjoy tea and I have a cabinet full of all kinds of teas, from rooibos to sencha. Yes, regular tea leaves are full of caffeine too but they don't seem to have quite the same effect on me even if I drink a whole pot of green or black tea.
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I'm also an energy drink addict. I understand. Monster and Red Bull have me in a choke hold. I've started taking an l-theanine supplement on days I'll be having caffeine and it seems to help take the edge off. Smooths it out a bit. L-theanine is in green tea, which is why people tend to tolerate it a bit better.
 
stick said:
I'm also an energy drink addict. I understand. Monster and Red Bull have me in a choke hold. I've started taking an l-theanine supplement on days I'll be having caffeine and it seems to help take the edge off. Smooths it out a bit. L-theanine is in green tea, which is why people tend to tolerate it a bit better.
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It sucks because I unironically enjoy the flavour of many energy drinks. They don't even make me uncomfortably awake anymore, I can sleep just fine after drinking a Monster. But for the sake of my health, I guess I have to cut back on them and substitute my soft drink intake in general with tea or cordial.
 
Sorry for the double post. Thank you to everyone who replied! I'm done with my checkup. The assistant was very sweet; she talked a lot, but still made sure to do her job right & that nothing hurt. I got my insurance registered, so I'll be getting a call tomorrow to see what is covered & what will be out-of-pocket. I've accepted that it's better to get this sorted now, than let it fester for worse. I'll ask for a more gentle(?) dentist & hopefully get it all over soon. This place is pretty highly rated so I hope it all goes well👍 Thank you again, everyone.

And curse my caffeine addiction for getting me into this>:(
 
PetiteFeet said:
It sucks because I unironically enjoy the flavour of many energy drinks. They don't even make me uncomfortably awake anymore, I can sleep just fine after drinking a Monster. But for the sake of my health, I guess I have to cut back on them and substitute my soft drink intake in general with tea or cordial.
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Same... The white monster is my favorite. There's a new(I think) one, it's regular Monster with strawberry flavoring. Tastes like the best fruity battery acid I've ever had
 
stick said:
Same... The white monster is my favorite. There's a new(I think) one, it's regular Monster with strawberry flavoring. Tastes like the best fruity battery acid I've ever had
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I love their peachy keen sugarfree one. I discovered a new brand that makes a lemon flavoured one that's very similar to Schweppes bitter lemon, but with extra battery acid. Yummy.
 
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