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A thought: You don't have to use it at an interview. And once you have the job and are doing the paperwork, you check disability and if you can do your job with any needed accommodations you are protected from firing (ymmv; I'm speaking of us legal protections).
The bigger point is, as @Otterly said, you can decide when, where, and how. But some other thoughts as well:
Question: do you think or know people know you have sight impairment now? I would expect they can tell to some degree, but maybe not. But the way you speak of it - Nothing would have changed but people will know if you use a cane - is not unlike how people with a secret addiction think (and yet yes, people do notice the person getting louder and slurring, whether they know the person downed a fifth out in the garage before dinner or not). That's a VERY limited analogy - only for the observation that your fear and sort of shame has you hiding reality, which may or may not be what they might already have a hint of.
With respect and concern, you should use it if it will help when it's a matter of safety - yours or others'.
I would also suggest to put aside the possible political aspects of it - you're doing a lot of speculating about purple-hairs coopting you for a political point, when although I guess that could happen, better to have to say fuck off, no thanks than to be dead in the middle of a street, no?
It sucks to have any aspect of physical life deteriorating - it's frightening and frustrating and can feel like it means you're no longer in control of anything, including yourself. But if multiple people have suggested you need it, or you're aching from gym bruises as much as from your workout, maybe using a useful tool is just that: using a tool to perform something. Not really different than using a drill to screw a screw in hard wood, even though with enough time and shoulder agony, a knife-end could eventually get it in there - or using a handy calculator for some big-number division, even though you were a math whiz in elementary school decades ago. Yes, I know it's not the same, but I'm trying to reframe it as a practical choice and so to move the conundrum away from the emotional aspect of it. That is its own thing to sort out, but sometimes separating pragmatic decisions/ options from underlying emotionally charged thoughts can help put things in the correct boxes.
There's an easy way to know the answer to that. I just did it, and on @PetiteFeet 's first page of the most recent of 3253 messages total, 4 of the first 20 are here. When I looked at yours, on the other hand, 7 of the first 20, out of 557 total, were here. Most recent/20 comment ITT ratio to total comments has yours about exactly 10x hers. Just so you know.
) that required thawing with a heat gun...$425, even at weekend/ emergency rates. But yeah, actual burst pipes would be another level. Nice work with the torch!
