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Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
Didn't you do this a couple (?) years ago?

Are things bad, or are you blindsiding him and leaving him to come home to an empty place? Seems rough, unless it's been discussed, it's horrible, or for some reason it's not safe to do in person.
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A couple years ago we left the third in the throuple, this is me leaving the other third of the throuple after slowly realising this isn't the lifestyle I want (not that i've been an active participant for a year or so now). We are generally completely incompatible politically and the only reason why we haven't broken up a year ago was because I generally stay silent when he goes on a political rant, I know for a fact that if i pushed back on his nonsense we would be having arguments regularly, and me being unemployed at the time I was really afraid of not having a place to live (this place we're renting from his sister). I need more structure in my life to help me maintain my health and finances, and I just don't get that with him. I'm sure he'll be relieved that he can find someone more compatible to live with, but he's going to have to learn how to add structure in his life without me having to remind him and such.

I am abandoning a lot of furniture and stuff I bought like my nice set of pots and pans, but they're just things and by the time I'm in a position to use them I'll be able to replace them with things that might even be better. I am making sure all the paperwork for shared expenses are sorted out and will pay my portion of immediate bills, so he'll have until the end of February to sort the last few things out before those services are cancelled. But he'll have to go cold turkey from my media server as i don't even know if I'll be able to set it up as is in the new place, I'm expecting to just back up my docker images and important stuff and install Mint on it to be my new desktop as the desktop i'm using is not really mine. I do have a laptop and I'll have the essentials.

I found a place close to my work which seems promising, I'll be looking at it next week and if it looks fine I'll be moved in by the end of next weekend.
 
I'm tired of being tired. I see dark spots under my eyes like you'd see in a cartoon, but no one else seems to notice it or say anything. I need to get in touch with a sleep specialist. I'm pretty sure it's either sleep apnea or narcolepsy. I know depression has a serious impact on sleep and energy too but it has always felt like something much more than that. Maybe the two feed into each other. I hate calling up new doctors though, and I keep telling myself I'll call....but after a quick nap.

On a slightly positive note I discovered my new favorite gadget is a fabric shaver. I had some bedding and clothes that would start to get fuzzies that I always hated and sort of gave up on them. I never knew these little shavers could clean that all up. Now my fabrics are nice and smooth just like my brain.
 
The Feline Solution 2 said:
So i got up at 5AM today. This is getting absurd. 8AM now and again i am sitting here with fuck all to do. All my chores done, exercised already, went shopping, now a whole day of nothing is awaiting me. It's some bullshit, i tell you hwhat.
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Much better then sleeping in until noon then ignoring your chores until the last minute.
 
Betonhaus said:
Much better then sleeping in until noon then ignoring your chores until the last minute.
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I just want to sleep for more than four hours per night and that has been impossible for some reason this week.
General Disarray said:
After the extraction, that changed to, "Your teeth will shift over time so you'll need to look at an implant for that tooth
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General Disarray said:
am an older patient?
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I am in my late thirties and got told the exact same thing. Got the first molar left side in my upper jaw pulled about four years ago (previous dentist fucked up a treatment and crown on that one which lead to the extraction) and the first molar right side lower jaw about two or three months ago, had an infection that simply wouldn't go away after multiple root canal treatments and laser treatments, too much risk of the infection spreading from the tooth to my jawbone down the line.

All i ever noticed as a sorta side effect from the missing teeth is that i tend to bite my tongue and inner side of my lower lip more often when eating. So, not enough reason for me to justify putting down 3.500€-5.000€ per implant. You can barely see the teeth missing when i speak or smile and even if it were more noticeable i wouldn't care enough to get implants.

Always get a second opinion or better yet a third as well before you get costly dental work done, dentistry is a fucking racket.
 
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it is so cold tonight that when my husband bought me flowers, they FROZE in the parking lot, i have never seen this before. i hope anyone stuck out in this stays safe and doesnt freeze to death. (actually i have, but its been a couple of years, so thankful for central heat)
 
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
My extensive 10-second research 🙂 says that over 6.5 is diabetes, so not really on the edge with 7%.

A1C results​

The following ranges are used to diagnose prediabetes and diabetes:

  • Normal: below 5.7%
  • Prediabetes: 5.7% to 6.4%
  • Diabetes: 6.5% or above
(that's from the CDC website).

But also saw that a single test isn't dispositive, so get yourself back in for another one! Surprised your doc didn't sound the alarm - I think they usually start clanging when someone gets even within sight of a pre-diabetic level.
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@Banquet Meal Can confirm I had the same ranges listed when I got my routine bloodwork tests done last year. Also can confirm the latter, my GP was going into panic mode because my A1C was 5.64 and wanted me to do all kinds of follow up tests. Passed on that since it seemed really excessive, just fixing up my diet and testing again later this year.
 
General Disarray said:
I've restricted my smoking from a pack a day down to about 3 to 5 per day (a couple of puffs then extinguish) as my NY resolution is quitting.
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Well done. If you can, try to stop completely in good time before the surgery because smoking absolutely wrecks healing, especially in the mouth. Your chances of a successful graft are much higher if you’ve quit for a few weeks before the surgery. Smoking at all will significantly decrease chances of good healing. Good that you’re stopping anyway I know that’s not easy
Banquet Meal said:
it was 7, which is like right on the edge, i guess?
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It’s high. Not ‘OMG emergency’ high but it’s a sign you’re likely going to become diabetic. But, an awful lot of T2D can be managed with diet alone and it’s vastly preferable to do it that way if you can rather than eat sugar and medicate. Don’t ignore it though, you do need to face it. Most people don’t.
. Look up the Newcastle protocol - drops of just 10% of body weight can reverse poor sugars. One measurement alone isnt diagnostic, they will want to do a glucose challenge with you. Best thing to do is get the testing done on your current diet to get a baseline then you can try to resolve it. They ca give you diet sheets to plan with. Diabetic diets aren’t much fun at first, but it does work.

I don’t feel good. Coming off a really bad migraine, and just feel very low today. Still got a headache, feel a bit adrift and incapable. Got a few things mixed up mentally yesterday which pissed me off and unsettled me.
Last week was tough at work and home, which I think triggered it with stress. I just keep getting more stuff piled on me and they keep cutting whole swathes of jobs out and pushing work onto the rest of us with the implied threat that do it or you’re next. They’ve clearly bought into the ‘AI is going to let you fire 50% of your staff’ meme. I feel generally like I can’t do anything right, at home or at work or in life. Workload outweighs ability just now, in all spaces. Just sad really. It’ll pass.
 
Banquet Meal said:
oh no! migraines are the worst...have you tried taking sudafed?? i have horrible migraines, and eating some sudafed takes the edge off pretty quickly.
your job sounds stressful, i hope it gets better for you. :heart-full:
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Sudafed? That’s interesting. No I haven’t. You’re might be helped by anything that’s a vasodilator then?
This one has knocked me badly, the postdrome is worse than the actual thing itself. I felt OK and sort of happy yesterday after it yet today I just feel immeasurably sad and confused. I suppose it’s just my brain getting an electrochemical kicking.
 
Otterly said:
Sudafed? That’s interesting. No I haven’t. You’re might be helped by anything that’s a vasodilator then?
This one has knocked me badly, the postdrome is worse than the actual thing itself. I felt OK and sort of happy yesterday after it yet today I just feel immeasurably sad and confused. I suppose it’s just my brain getting an electrochemical kicking.
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they definitely take a lot out of you. but sudafed works so well, and the only issue that can result is making your heart race, but honestly i would rather that than feeling like something is drilling my head from the inside out.
i hope you are feeling better now though?
The Feline Solution 2 said:
dentistry is a fucking racket.
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i am not a fan of dentistry....for whatever reason, ive been lucky, i have only had 2 cavities in my entire life, and those having been fairly recently, but i dont like it. i tried to get them to put me to sleep to have it filled, and they acted like i was being a huge coward, which admittedly yes, i am..but so what?? the whole experience was off putting and miserable, and i feel terrible for people who have to get dental work done on a regular basis.
its also ridiculous that most insurance policies dont include dental work. teeth are obviously important, and should be treated as any other medical issue
 
Banquet Meal said:
oh no! migraines are the worst...have you tried taking sudafed?? i have horrible migraines, and eating some sudafed takes the edge off pretty quickly.
your job sounds stressful, i hope it gets better for you. :heart-full:
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funny about the sudafed, it gives me an opiate like reaction so I can't take it lol. Whenever I get the really bad headaches number one the thing i've noticed is that honestly standing up or at least sitting up does a lot for me. My headaches are caused by bad blood flow and back/neck muscles going crazy. Maybe it isn't the same for you but in general headaches seem so specific person from person that it kinda shocks me.
 
Banquet Meal said:
i hope you are feeling better now though?
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No, if anything I feel worse. Unusual for me to feel this bad after one. It wasn’t even painful much, it was just almost seizure-like in intensity which hasnt happened for a few years.
I’ve had a really stressful week, husband away working in the week, so all the running around after the kids plus work plus stuff.
Things a bit off at home and work just now.I keep finding stuff broken at work but if I point it out I get punished. It’s surreal to me, why don’t people want to fix errors? I feel like I always do things wrong, like I misjudge stuff and say and do the wrong things and people react negatively to me. It just makes me withdrawn and sad.
 
The Feline Solution 2 said:
Always get a second opinion or better yet a third as well before you get costly dental work done
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That's why I have to question the availability of their staff at my next appointment when they draw up the treatment plan and costs. No way am I getting major dental surgery without the assurance that I can get in with little notice just in case.

They are a suburban dentist, about equidistant from me to the larger downtown clinics, so I may ask them to email my scans and records so I can contact one of those state-of-the-art full-staff practices (I like having a TV hanging over me while they work, tyvm) and get a quote from them as well. I'd sure feel more comfortable there (especially re: the availability aspect) if the prices are comparable.

eta: @Otterly I sure hope you are feeling better soon!
 
Day one on Pantoprazole, we will see if it helps with acid reflux. I really wanted sleep last night so I endede up taking 2 gravols and then a third right before I went to sleep and I slept in a whole hour!

I really need to ease up with being black pilled, my Dr has just opened his practice and trying to fill the shoes of where the provincial govt. has failed us completely. He has so much hope and while being the first one to acknowledge my stomach issues in decades, I don't think I gave him the reactions he was expected and told him something like hope is something that I cannot afford. I'm not used to DRs trying to listen and understand and in that moment I just wanted sleep.


Banquet Meal said:
it is so cold tonight that when my husband bought me flowers, they FROZE in the parking lot, i have never seen this before. i hope anyone stuck out in this stays safe and doesnt freeze to death. (actually i have, but its been a couple of years, so thankful for central heat)
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Aw! That was so nice of him!


Despite the cold, Dog and I had a good walk until she tripped me and I scrapped off the first layer on the palm of my hand and I had to walk home dripping blood.
I have to cut off the flap of skin and I'm not looking forward to it. My exposed fingertips felt so extra cold and getting purple and tingly not being in my gloves that I was worried about frostbite but fortunately my hand didn't sting

[Edit: ]Did it, I hate you peroxide :'( [ /SPOILER]
 
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That sit-down at work still bothers me. I don't fear going to work, even now, but I can feel the unnerve. Not from work itself, but knowing I -might- get fired, meaning I have to go look for a job again, which is hell if you're not already employed. I can feel the change in my confidence when I apply for jobs, knowing I don't straight-up need the job to pay the bills. I got 3 months of pay if I do get fired, but can I even get a job in that time? I was hoping this would be my entrance into the office world but I need more than 6 months to cement myself as a valid employee.

I try to improve, I'm not complacent. If you ignore the nature of my semi-superior complains and instead look at the way in which she complains, she's not unreasonable. Lots of "is this where you should be" in way of the nature of our work, and in a way that sort of implied "you should figure out if YOU wanna be here", not whether I'd get fired. But the smallest chance, having been fired in the past (granted by a murderer pedophile), it sucks.

That aside: Booked a barber, a check for my car, and an evaluation for sleep apnea. So that's progress.
Motherf*cker said:
Day one on Pantoprazole, we will see if it helps with acid reflux
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I've never had severe reflux but enough that I went to the hospital once and otherwise walk in circles out of sheer pain. I started eating dinner 4-5 hours before bed and fasting 16-18 hours a day. It really helped. When I worked evening shifts, I could really feel the reflux creeping in if I ate before bed and went to sleep immediately. Then there's the whole "chew 20 times" approach to eating as well. When I did acid reflux meds, it only made shit worse.
 
In addition to just the general frigid cold and other things going on around me, my main plumbing line froze and has backed up water into my basement a couple inches deep. So now, can't use water and I'm going to be paying the sewer company emergency rates to come try to thaw it in subsubzero temps. Best case it can be manually thawed in the crawl space. Worst case is it's frozen further out and not only do they have to bring out "the big guns," for a nearly 200' line. This happened a year ago and was in the crawl space, but who knows. Happy fucking Saturday.
 
I'm about to put in my resignation notice at the company I've worked for for nearly ten years. I worked my way up to being a regional manager, no nepotism, unlike the other regionals who are related to some executive. I took so much pride in what I've accomplished and was strung along for years with the promise of taking over my VPs position once she retires.

But the last year has been hell for a number of reasons, which has cumulated in the company being sold. I had to endure a year of hell, new software being rushed into implementation, budget cuts, older experienced staff forced to retire and their positions eliminated forcing others to absorb their workloads. All so they can cook the books to make the sale happen.

The stress has given me high blood pressure, I've gained weight, I have stress induced IBS now because of all of this. I sent my resume to one of our competitors and within two days they're desperate to hire me. 10% above what I earn now, a step down from regional, meaning less responsibility, all my benefits day one. The only catch is I need to move, but I'm so over this I'm happy to do it.

I'm handing in my resignation once I'm sent the formal offer, the anticipation is killing me, I'm ready for this to be out in the open and over with. This will also be the end of my current relationship, but she told me that if I didn't take this job she would have caved my head in. So we're fucking around until I'm gone, saw a matinee this morning and now she's making dip for football tomorrow. A huge chapter is ending for me, and now I feel like I finally have something to look forward to again.
 
i’m getting old, dude. the cold makes my joints hurt now
fuck winter. it’s so pretty but it’s so miserable to be in 😭
 
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