To be fair to the both of us (and anyone else dealing with similar things in similar ways), I think it's less "tried and failed to learn", and more "can't manage to be comfortable with". We're aware that it's true, we know logically that's just how the chips fall sometimes and it's not within our control, but
boy does it hurt, even knowing it's just a fact of life. I think my least favorite thing about being human is that it's so hard to beat our feelings back with logic.

Insofar as insight goes, if you mean getting more info about what happened... I'm not even really sure what I'd need to hear that would make me feel better, tbh. It's probably for the best to just assume he's an ass and, eventually, move on with myself. (Though if that's not what you meant, please correct me!)