I noticed before I moved that no one seems to do much anymore, I would go to bars or other places to sit down with friends and we would be the only people there under 40. I know raves are pretty popular with people my age still but that doesn't really feel like a place to meet new people.
As much as discord is viewed with great horror, and maybe it really is the case that 2/3rds of servers are like this, there are also comfy places with normal people who don't go word policing or grooming or gooning or whatever. But such places are always private servers and you need to know someone from there first. I think some of the key things for a good discord server is having a hard no porn stance, being careful who you let in, and not having thousands of members. I think after a certain size things tend to get out of hand.Discord:
users who always seemed to be doing questionable shit in places they thought no one was looking,
horned up adults who are not who they say they are having some soap opera sending out spicy noods of each othercliques because high school is forever.
I hope you figure it out soon fren, because it definitely doesn't get easier once you're over 30.
I know a couple of people who had or are dealing with burn out, only one person seemed to have made a full recovery and he did so without any outside help. That man is psychopathic levels of stoic though and despite me knowing him for all my life and pretty much knowing everything about him (goes both ways) there's still walls up deep inside him that will never come down so i can't be 100% sure if he indeed bounced back. If not, he makes a terrific job with acting like he did. The rest are definitely changed by their burn outs, one of my best friends is dealing with it right now, got royally fucked over by his work because of it, finally quit his job in September after a year of hell, still has to deal with a lot of fallout from that. My aunt, who is in her 60s, got mentally killed by it and has noticeably changed from the dear and nice woman from my childhood (there are other, grim factors i won't get into at at play here, too).
You mean the "Chris is evil" stuff? I dimly remember that, i was still just lurking without being registered back then. Never heard about the Mystery Woman stuff.
Unthinkable. Ultra cliquish behaviour, sure, but not this bullshit. I also enjoyed the user meet ups i regularly went to in the 90's and early 00's, it's when i started to finally got to see some more of my own country. Plus back then i practically was forced to travel 600km by train if i wanted to score with mid weeb girls, it was pre-anime boom, we didn't even have more than one con in the entire country back then and it wasn't hosted in my city. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I reconnected with some of the people when FB first got big but have no contact to anyone from back then anymore. Curious about what some of them are doing these days, especially one or two ex girlfriends of mine.Ugh, we didn't have that. Trigger lists in the 90s?
There is a funny thing with cortisol. If you are in overdrive mode, you may be wondering "damn, how am I still going?" and then you get your long awaited rest and BOOM - sicker than a dog. Because before that it was stimulating your immune system, however, it is not a bottomless well, it was merely a loan and you'll have to give it back.
No, I don't want to go postal, never, this is one of the most retarded things anyone can do. But even less I want to get shit and baseless accusations over stuff that genuinely makes me suffer. Why the fuck some people are like this?
The board I was on basically fell apart because everyone was triggered and retarded and they all hated all the infighting and triggering each other, and they were so precious. It was the first time I trolled a board. Prolific. Don't find work like that these days.
A few times I had thought I had found rooms on Discord for people over 30 but there always seemed to be some sort of a fetishist aspect. It was either kinky role playing or rooms where people just thirst over each other and it seemed as if people seemed more interested in emotional cheating.
I like being important to work flow as I always have something to do but I just don't like when co workers start to pick up on that. I don't work hard, I just like to not be bored to tears at work and sometimes those 2 get confused by people. I just really prefer being a ghost at work.
The three people i consider my friends i know since highschool, so for a bit longer than 20 years. I am in a city of 4 million and i couldn't tell how you start meeting new people that you can make meaningful connections with. Sure, there's bars and clubs galore where you can go if you're starved for social interaction but the chance of making real friends in those places is basically nil, most people go there to get fucked up on drugs and drink.
When I was in highschool the club scene was just about everything for me, and I found a group of weirdos who provided a welcoming environment and friendships.
I feel that. Have been clean for over a year now (if you don't count me semi-abusing the pain killers i got prescribed shortly before Christmas) but the comedown deep talk at ungodly hours was a big part of weekends in my 20's. When i started using again in my early 30's i hung around with a crowd of aquaintances sometimes, mostly younger than me, and they would try the deep talk shit with me and i was not having it. At that age i long had realized how fake it all is, we are together because we all take drugs, no more than that, simple as. Now put some tunes on and let me enjoy my high, don't spoil the occasion with your bullshit
Not at all! I'm just struggling to deal with this new round of bullshit. It really ruined quite a lot of plans I had not being able to move around freely and having to commit to another 10 rounds of radiation. I appreciate your well wishes and hope I get movement back before the end, being layed up isn't how I want to cross the finish line.
Clubs are not the kind of people you really want to meet any ways. They are for trashy people to abuse drugs and one night stands. It's a very performative atmosphere that will only leave you feeling more empty by the end of it. It may feel like a rush of dopamine that will leave you starved when the drugs wear off, or the girl leaves you the next day.
Going to the coffee hour/post liturgy helped, and my church is starting men's and women's groups. So there may be a place if you are religious. Secularwise, I haven't a clue. Outside of church, I just socialize at work and on here.
It's pretty much the opposite in the area where I live. There are a little over 20,000 people spread out over a fourth the landmass of Rhode Island, which actually makes it sound more densely populated than it is because of the two central towns that host the plurality of the population. You have to drive twenty minutes to reach somewhere you couldn't just wander out of your backyard and disappear off the face of the Earth. Literally the only places you could even meet someone casually are three book clubs, an aging Ruritan chapter, and multiple Evangelical or Fundamentalist Protestant churches. If you're under 60 years old and aren't a member of a Protestant denomination that would be considered extreme basically anywhere outside of the Southeastern US or developing countries, that leaves you with three options - never speak to anyone outside work, fake belonging to a religious group you probably have serious moral issues with (not trying to start a religious debate; some of these groups are so cult-like that they literally believe other members of their own denomination are heretics for having Sunday Schools), or bond with your coworker's friends over your shared drug problem. Predictably, we have some of the highest rates of substance abuse and suicide East of the Front Range.
Just wanna throw it out there that if you were schizo, it would have started manifesting in your 20s. Not saying you're in the clear/doomed, but the signs would begin to show themselves now.
