I'm in a similar place. I don't think you need a 100% match on personalities though. An otherwise normie girl who likes the same music would be great. As long as there's something to connect over.
My fatal flaw is not liking travel. It seems like there's no woman alive that doesn't want to be taken to every corner of the planet.
You wouldn't travel sometimes because a mate enjoys it?
But in general, it seems sometimes that a lot of people are overanalyzing compatibility in a very cart-before-the-horse way - as in, trying to work out the equations ahead of time to find the "perfect" fit (even when people say they're not picky, if they've got a list that involves "well, I do/ don't like x, so if they don't/ do, that's obviously a no-go," then they're doing this to some degree. Yes, if you (a general "you") absolutely refuse to get on a plane, then a person who wants to touch three other continents every year might present some friction in a forever bliss. But "normies all bore me" or "no one who ever/ never lived in a big city" or "she must like my fish photos" or "not one man with a tattoo" is just people setting themselves up never to connect. And ratcheting up the stakes of every interaction to unworkable levels.
My parents have been married 60 years. They dated in high school (mostly but not totally steady; there was apparently at least one breakup during which my father took another girl out to a movie, and my mother wrote him off right then...but they obviously reconciled), got married in their early 20s. They are very differently organized: My dad gets lost in thought, weighs everything to an extreme, loves to talk about everything, and as a result is a procrastinator; my mom is absolutely impatient with debate and indecision, makes up her mind and takes action, keeps life simple and clear. They share no hobbies other than tennis (which they no longer play, but when they did it was always my mom irritated that my dad wasn't nearly so competitive as she is), but they help and work with each other on the other's interests or projects. They do have similar political opinions but manage to diverge often on the approach and on perspectives of people. They have held traditional household roles, but in no way, shape, or form would either of them have said "absolutely not" to the other's decisions - because they know the other would never take wholly selfish action that would damage the other or the family/ household.
Point is: they are not alike; they are compatible. Not perfectly, and not at every detail. They orient to the world differently. But there is no question they love - and like - each other, and always have. 100% one or the other of them has had to do something (many things) they'd rather not or that bores them, to please or be a companion to the other. That's what you do.
I'm not saying don't pay attention to complete incompatibilities or completely put your own personality or likes aside; that never goes well. What I'm saying is that overdesigning an ideal or putting concepts above actual people is a great way never to experience life - or to find a mate. I fully admit that going to the opposite extreme of trying to accommodate everything, even things that you know in your gut are not good, is its own set of problems. But before you let the checklist rule, consider just meeting and interacting with people and seeing how it goes.
It's definitely more potent than the stuff i got in the hospital, which i am thankful for, seeing how i can't just ask a nurse to hit me up with more at home. Gotta be careful with it, though, that stuff feels like it's made for getting addicted to. Dr. said i should take 3-4 per day in combination with another, non-opioid painkiller, but i am going to keep this shit as needed, the two i took over the course of today already feel like overkill.
