How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Mysterious Figure]

Finally convinced my parents to let me cancel that shit for them a few months ago. Ripped all the seasons of American Pickers for my Dad and a couple of my moms shows so they've been happy with not paying for 180 other channels of brain rot bullshit since.

I remember my grandpa asking me to talk to AT&T and cut out a bunch of bullshit because it got so expensive. Internet streaming is so much cheaper, but he never did learn how to use the internet.

 

[⋖ cørdion ⋗]

Had a doomer conversation the other day with my maternity-leave cover coworker. During my employment interview they said that I was gonna do projects/back up other functions, but the woman who hired me quit and we got moved out of the department, so now nobody can really tell what I was hired to do and there isn't enough day-to-day work here for two people. I entered an already existing position and people apparently only last a year at a time here, so I'm sure I'll get some justification down the line, but I've been fired out of nowhere several times now and it makes me uneasy as hell. On one hand nobody gets fired without mass layoffs in the public sector here, but also.. it'd be my luck.

Finally convinced my parents to let me cancel that shit for them a few months ago. Ripped all the seasons of American Pickers for my Dad and a couple of my moms shows so they've been happy with not paying for 180 other channels of brain rot bullshit since.

My TV burnt out when I was 14, haven't had one since. I only watch it when I'm home for xmas and it's literally nothing but reruns of the news and general angst. No clue how anyone can watch that shit, and we got the national channels on streaming for free, but my parents never got used to actively having to select what to watch. Having a TV at this point, with streaming on several kinds of media surfaces, is almost a red flag.

 

[Wraithdolf the White]

Been having a little fun watching some dudes play some vidya and archiving it. Enjoying the comfy for months as I do other thing. No politics. No nothing. Just goofin'. MONTHS and MONTHS. All of a sudden, "So I went out of my way to get the pride stuff in this game..." and goes on...
...
You can tell how this goes.

 

[Yellow Rose Of Texas]

Like SHIT! I got rid of TV today. Goodbye to the biggest source of mind-poison in the world. Never watch it anyway, but glad to get rid of a couple hundred bucks a month of funding this evil. FUCK YOU MSNPC. None of my money goes to you any more.

I’d rather be uninformed than misinformed these days. I don’t even watch movies, shows, or the news anymore.Its all mediocre, soulless slop.
Sadly even the internet has slowly turned into that as well.

 

[Haunted Tamagotchi]

Mr Tamagotchi finally had some time off work so I left him with the small humans and went to visit my family in the fuck end of nowhere and get a break from the world for a bit. Feeling a lot better in myself, probably thanks to the countryside air and general peace and quiet. Tiniest Tama is still kicking away and coming along well, just over halfway along until we get to meet her now.

 

[Uncle Tom's Condo]

Got woke up at 3am by a bull moose rubbing his rack on my house and fence. It's rut season and the bulls are horny and looking for cows to mate with. I looked out my window at daylight and saw a cow in the front yard, so I guess it worked for him. Good for him. Maybe I should try that with a coworker...

 

[TokiBun]

I'm doing good right now! Recently had a break up so that was tough. Any advice on how to make irl friends? I feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start. So far all I've done is look for places local on Facebook but haven't caught anything interesting. Could Kiwis give me some advice? I want to make real life friends before I try dating again.

 

[AnOminous]

I’d rather be uninformed than misinformed these days. I don’t even watch movies, shows, or the news anymore.Its all mediocre, soulless slop.
Sadly even the internet has slowly turned into that as well.

If you're uninformed, you have zero knowledge of something. If you're misinformed, you have NEGATIVE knowledge.

 

[Cherry Milk]

Things have been worse

 

[Spilled Spaghett]

Nah, I'm a True Honest Woman. Just on a more nerdy side and kind of socially awkard. Used to be worse, I've improved a lot over the years.
I'm trying to think on that side, fuck them, truly their loss. I would support their business, buy their stuff, give them free tickets to events. But deep inside it feels like a betrayal and that I'm never good enough.
It's actually hard for me to truly connect with people because I never feel like I'm being understood. I don't know how to explain it well, but it feels like I am speaking a language people can barely understand.
There's like, 3 or 4 people that I feel like I can truly be myself without judgement. They are the ones I spend most of my time with.
That person didn't need to be my best friend or anything, but I've never done any harm to them. They even told me once that I can be annoying sometimes because I don't know when to shut up when I am talking about something that I like, which since then I am really trying to police myself. I even thanked them for speaking to my face instead of letting me be oblivious about it.
I don't know, I always try to see the good side of people, maybe it's one of my flaws.

I feel this a lot. Like I've tried honestly to connect with people, and it's hard. My life has been so completely disjointed from most people that it's hard to even hold conversations. It doesn't help that I'm retarded and it's a real struggle to pick up on how people are really feeling or even what they really mean. Often I upset people when I come off abrasive or insulting and I really don't mean to be.

I don't think it's wrong to feel that way though. Of course no one is obligated to be your friend but I know how it feels to care for a friend, to try and provide for them, and try to raise them up as friends should. You help them because you care of them. But if they take it willingly and don't even have the courtesy to simply break off a relationship, it's natural to feel like they were using you. Some people though just don't want it. For whatever reason this person may have it doesn't mean that you're at fault here. All you can do is try your best to be the best friend you can be, and no one can ask any more of you. It's up to them whether they will accept it or not.

I hope your D&D game went well. It's been some time since I've played TTRPGs but I sort of pitched the idea of playing a small Warhammer RPG with my brothers. They're a really fun way to hang out for an evening and chill.

 

[Not A Bunny]

I tried a new therapist, who talked to me for ten minutes and recommended me to Intensive Outpatient Therapy.

Fine. I probably needed this a long time ago.

The base cost covers group therapy 3 times a week.

I don't want group therapy. I despise the idea. If you believe, at least to some extent, you are the average of the five people that you spend time with the most, how much improvement can you expect if you're spilling your problems to a bunch of people that aren't doing any better than you are?

More to the point, I've spent a lot of time feeling vulnerable in front of a lot of people that I didn't want to in the service of dating. The last thing I want is to be vulnerable - in fact, probably the worst version of myself - in front of even more people.

I understand the principle, and maybe it's more of an encounter thing rather than a talk therapy thing, I just don't want to talk about my problems in front of complete strangers, nor do I think it's terribly healthy.

 

[WASR96]

I'm doing good right now! Recently had a break up so that was tough. Any advice on how to make irl friends? I feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start. So far all I've done is look for places local on Facebook but haven't caught anything interesting. Could Kiwis give me some advice? I want to make real life friends before I try dating again.

Don't search for friends. Find something local you'd enjoy attending regularly and they'll come naturally. Find local events for your hobbies, it's easier to relate to people when you already have something in common. I made 4 local friends just attending things when my only goal was to leave the house more.

 

[Slav Power]

I'm terrified that I might have to buy a new one in less than 2 years,especially how fast tech moves these days.

The upside is that it has perfectly plateaued if you're looking for something that's meant to handle web browsing and office work. Plenty of decent second hand business laptops like ThinkPad T14 Gen 2's available at good prices that have enough juice to do everything you'd need with decent battery life and being much more durable and repairable than a brand new consumer laptop at the same price.

You'd have more concerns sitting in the enthusiast desktop market, it's like a minefield. GPU market is a joke, 12VHPWR connectors melting, Asrock motherboards cooking CPU's, shit's fucked if you don't keep your hand on the pulse.

 

[JanuaryViolet]

I don't want group therapy. I despise the idea.

I do too, and have successfully avoided it. Tell them. Tell them it makes you incredibly uncomfortable and it is very unlikely to have a good outcome. Insist. Accept less frequent or shorter one-on- one sessions if need be. There is no reason to go through this.

 

[Core Theorist]

I was talking to a japanese friend about politics and what I wanted to say got censored, I have literally never been more upset while using software. Total Technocrat Death.

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

Spoiler: tmi

been dealing with a uti since mid september. shit doesn't come up in the urine culture or urinalysis but the suffering is real. 98.6° fever and kidney pain are my biggest concerns. trying to survive the weekend until i can get a same day appt

i feel like this

 

[Foxymophandlemama]

Just came back from the club. There's something therapeutic about singing Mr Brightside at the top of your lungs along with 500 other drunk people.
At that moment, everything was alright.

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

Just came back from the club. There's something therapeutic about singing Mr Brightside at the top of your lungs along with 500 other drunk people.
At that moment, everything was alright.

 

[Juan But Not Forgotten]

I had this excruciating pain under my shoulder blade 20 years ago, but after several months it got weaker and stopped. Now it came back and it is so severe that I have hard time taking deep breaths and I had little to no sleep in two days. I just hope it's growing pains from me trying to unfuck my posture for good, but it sucks it all came back right after I went back to work. Getting old is not fun.

 

[Overly Serious]

I tried a new therapist, who talked to me for ten minutes and recommended me to Intensive Outpatient Therapy.

Fine. I probably needed this a long time ago.

The base cost covers group therapy 3 times a week.

I don't want group therapy. I despise the idea. If you believe, at least to some extent, you are the average of the five people that you spend time with the most, how much improvement can you expect if you're spilling your problems to a bunch of people that aren't doing any better than you are?

More to the point, I've spent a lot of time feeling vulnerable in front of a lot of people that I didn't want to in the service of dating. The last thing I want is to be vulnerable - in fact, probably the worst version of myself - in front of even more people.

I understand the principle, and maybe it's more of an encounter thing rather than a talk therapy thing, I just don't want to talk about my problems in front of complete strangers, nor do I think it's terribly healthy.

Group therapy might help someone who feels their problems are unique and isolates themselves because they're ashamed of their issues or experiences. It can be good to know that you're not alone or to see other people and think "If I don't blame them for what happened to them, why should I blame myself for what happened to me."

But if neither of those are your problems, it's not something I'd be a fan of. I'm a reasonably private person and though I'm comfortable sharing with someone I choose to do so with, the last thing I would want would be being pressured to do so in front of random strangers.

Also, from a practical point of view, given time constraints you're effectively competing with others for support which is horrible on multiple levels.

Personally, though this is probably influenced by being male, I'm more of a fan of practical techniques to improve my outcomes than expecting some insight to suddenly resolve them. That includes trying to be around healthy and productive people because that gives me reason to fit in and be healthy and productive myself. As opposed to be people who will talk about problems and issues all the time. It depends whether your issues are things that can fade away over time by no longer looking at them, or something you really do need to unpack and tackle. And there's no reason both approaches can't be taken to the same thing (some self-examination, some simple habits to change behaviour or emotional state). IMO, Freud gave Repression a bad rap.

Anyway, you're not alone in finding group therapy unhelpful (ironically). I hope you can get the help you need in a way that suits you best.