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- Aug 11, 2019
@estacks
I want to start off by saying that posts like yours is a reminder that you'll get help from the most "unlikely" of places. Kiwifarms truly is unique on that sense. I was taking a few days to chill, focus on other things, play some shit I actually enjoy. I wont say Im 100% but Im better than before (doesnt help Discord now has that feature where they show "people you spoke to the most" and guess what, its those pricks, so its always visual there). I appreciate your kind words and, I know its just "words", but they do go a long way.
The fucked up thing is that the fact Im feeling like this just goes to show how I took the whole thing seriously, while they didnt whatsoever. Even when I made it clear to others, they didnt care to at least argue my case and why? Are they afraid they'll be banned too? If so, great friend group there, huh? And its not like there are many left, its more like 4-5 active members while others just come to say "morning" or something. I was one of the more active members, trying to keep conversations and memes chains going.
Its disgusting, frustrating and etc. I already put it out there how it made me feel so I wont risk the chance of sounding redundant.
Be that as it may, I'll try to give highlight to particular parts to your post I feel in the need to comment to put something out of my chest (if it adds something) or/and add some context.
Anyway...
Idk if I would describe it as a "dear leader" situation here, the dudes were legit pleasant but apparently I wasnt? I was ocassionally accused of "coal mining" and, like I said, I could throw some political meme in there (a reminder that it was pretty conservative leaning so it wasnt a case of misaligned politics) but I would stop and post more "generally" funny things.
Point is I could make a few mistakes but not only I was trying to keep things active but when it was brought to my attention, I'd change course and wouldnt argue about.
The "Spiritual" one is in college (cant recall whats his major, not the sort of thing that ever "naturally" came into topics) and he does have some of that "pretentious" energy, even if I do think it was manageable and he was still a good friend despite it. I do notice I often try to "work" with people's shortcomings as to focus on the good but, alas, they didnt feel like doing the same for me.
There is also an annoying 3D artist teacher who couldnt help but be antagonistic towards me but I guess it what it is. Kind of felt we were "competing" tho Idk for what.
Idk if they are "afraid" of annoying "dear leader" but clearly they dont want to bother argue my case so, likely, its a bit because of that and because they're lazy/self centered.
Not the first time this happened neither. There was one that was a father with children that just quietly "disappeared" one day...
I'll add some context here. The "alcaholic" could be a tad confrontational when he got drunk but it was like dealing with a drunk IRL, they're harmless at the end of the day and they tend to give an apology if they went a bit too far. I mean, I'd say that giving a timeout until morning would have sufficed but...guess they didnt want to bother.
Dude was friendly enough and I still felt upon myself the proactive role to try to "aid" the situation, especially since apparently him and "dear leader" had history before so...
So, again, he did mistakes but nothing that justified going this far.
Im not sure if I gave the whole context of what happened so I'll give sort of a "recreation"
D.R: I'll return to streaming in 2026 after moving to my own place! I'll mostly stream Runescape tho...
Me: But "x", you should stream modern good games, like.................like......hmm......Yeah, nvm, better stick with shit old enough to drink.
D.R: Old game good. New game bad. / (maybe he was being sarcastic, maybe not. He did post a wojak of a caveman)
Me: They can keep their body types. I've got my binary gender choices. *posts image of Pokemon "Boy or girl" choice*
D.R: Why bring culture war shit into this this? You always do this"
Me: Im sorry, it wasnt my intention. I was just making fun of modern gaming. I can also bring up the fact that the UE5 is butt ugly.
D.R: If you think thats a better argument, then the brainrot has truly taken over.
(argument kept going for a bit longer until I kind of got a bit tired of it)
Me: "x" calm your tits, alright?
Cue me getting timeout for a week.
Me: *posts in his DM "Dick move but alright". Posts a few memes later on to show its all fine between us.*
Cue me getting banned altogether.
Dear Leader has a tranny sister, soo...LOL
Easier said than done, even more nowadays for reasons Im sure all of us are very very much aware. I work two jobs (morning and night, afternoon Im resting) so I dont have much time or energy to go searching (and assuming I did, I wouldnt know where to start, most men spaces have been infiltrated if not full on wiped out cuz "feminism" or something. Then there is the aspect of being in the same age range and etc...)
But I wont let it keep me down.
Thanks, brother. One day at a time. You helped quite a bit, dont forget that.
Imagine finally getting actual good advice here of all places. How fucked up things "out there" need to be when HERE is the place where someone gets actual sound advice?
Its scary to be vulnerable out there, actually vulnerable because a lot of the "normal people" will often look down on you, avoid you or even take advantage of you. So it feels good to see actual empathy from the place "normies" say lacks it the most.
Dude, dont let them hold you down and focus on getting yourself back in good health, physical and mental. Do what is necessary and keep going from there.
Focus on the support you get than the opposite. Easier said than done but do try.
I want to start off by saying that posts like yours is a reminder that you'll get help from the most "unlikely" of places. Kiwifarms truly is unique on that sense. I was taking a few days to chill, focus on other things, play some shit I actually enjoy. I wont say Im 100% but Im better than before (doesnt help Discord now has that feature where they show "people you spoke to the most" and guess what, its those pricks, so its always visual there). I appreciate your kind words and, I know its just "words", but they do go a long way.
The fucked up thing is that the fact Im feeling like this just goes to show how I took the whole thing seriously, while they didnt whatsoever. Even when I made it clear to others, they didnt care to at least argue my case and why? Are they afraid they'll be banned too? If so, great friend group there, huh? And its not like there are many left, its more like 4-5 active members while others just come to say "morning" or something. I was one of the more active members, trying to keep conversations and memes chains going.
Its disgusting, frustrating and etc. I already put it out there how it made me feel so I wont risk the chance of sounding redundant.
Be that as it may, I'll try to give highlight to particular parts to your post I feel in the need to comment to put something out of my chest (if it adds something) or/and add some context.
Anyway...
Idk if I would describe it as a "dear leader" situation here, the dudes were legit pleasant but apparently I wasnt? I was ocassionally accused of "coal mining" and, like I said, I could throw some political meme in there (a reminder that it was pretty conservative leaning so it wasnt a case of misaligned politics) but I would stop and post more "generally" funny things.
Point is I could make a few mistakes but not only I was trying to keep things active but when it was brought to my attention, I'd change course and wouldnt argue about.
The "Spiritual" one is in college (cant recall whats his major, not the sort of thing that ever "naturally" came into topics) and he does have some of that "pretentious" energy, even if I do think it was manageable and he was still a good friend despite it. I do notice I often try to "work" with people's shortcomings as to focus on the good but, alas, they didnt feel like doing the same for me.
There is also an annoying 3D artist teacher who couldnt help but be antagonistic towards me but I guess it what it is. Kind of felt we were "competing" tho Idk for what.
Idk if they are "afraid" of annoying "dear leader" but clearly they dont want to bother argue my case so, likely, its a bit because of that and because they're lazy/self centered.
Not the first time this happened neither. There was one that was a father with children that just quietly "disappeared" one day...
I'll add some context here. The "alcaholic" could be a tad confrontational when he got drunk but it was like dealing with a drunk IRL, they're harmless at the end of the day and they tend to give an apology if they went a bit too far. I mean, I'd say that giving a timeout until morning would have sufficed but...guess they didnt want to bother.
Dude was friendly enough and I still felt upon myself the proactive role to try to "aid" the situation, especially since apparently him and "dear leader" had history before so...
So, again, he did mistakes but nothing that justified going this far.
Im not sure if I gave the whole context of what happened so I'll give sort of a "recreation"
D.R: I'll return to streaming in 2026 after moving to my own place! I'll mostly stream Runescape tho...
Me: But "x", you should stream modern good games, like.................like......hmm......Yeah, nvm, better stick with shit old enough to drink.
D.R: Old game good. New game bad. / (maybe he was being sarcastic, maybe not. He did post a wojak of a caveman)
Me: They can keep their body types. I've got my binary gender choices. *posts image of Pokemon "Boy or girl" choice*
D.R: Why bring culture war shit into this this? You always do this"
Me: Im sorry, it wasnt my intention. I was just making fun of modern gaming. I can also bring up the fact that the UE5 is butt ugly.
D.R: If you think thats a better argument, then the brainrot has truly taken over.
(argument kept going for a bit longer until I kind of got a bit tired of it)
Me: "x" calm your tits, alright?
Cue me getting timeout for a week.
Me: *posts in his DM "Dick move but alright". Posts a few memes later on to show its all fine between us.*
Cue me getting banned altogether.
Dear Leader has a tranny sister, soo...LOL
Easier said than done, even more nowadays for reasons Im sure all of us are very very much aware. I work two jobs (morning and night, afternoon Im resting) so I dont have much time or energy to go searching (and assuming I did, I wouldnt know where to start, most men spaces have been infiltrated if not full on wiped out cuz "feminism" or something. Then there is the aspect of being in the same age range and etc...)
But I wont let it keep me down.
Thanks, brother. One day at a time. You helped quite a bit, dont forget that.
Imagine finally getting actual good advice here of all places. How fucked up things "out there" need to be when HERE is the place where someone gets actual sound advice?
Its scary to be vulnerable out there, actually vulnerable because a lot of the "normal people" will often look down on you, avoid you or even take advantage of you. So it feels good to see actual empathy from the place "normies" say lacks it the most.
Dude, dont let them hold you down and focus on getting yourself back in good health, physical and mental. Do what is necessary and keep going from there.
Focus on the support you get than the opposite. Easier said than done but do try.
