@Big Miss Steak should chime in as well.
This isn't some profound revelation Freud desacralized the family with. Kids do get jealous when a parent pays attention to the other one (or a sibling, or literally anything else). A 6 year old boy resenting dad for stealing moms time and affection? Totally normal toddler or preschooler stuff, its about attachment needs, security, and learning to share love and resources in a family system. Thats not hidden 'unconscious drives' requiring Freudian excavation its just basic human emotion and development.
Modern psychology explains this without the oversexualized baggage or untestable pseudoscience.
Attachment systems articulated by John Bowlby and beyond covers jealousy, competition for caregiver attention, insecurity when a parent is taken away, even for couple time, and resentment toward the rival - say dad, in your example.
Its about emotional bonds and safety, not innate sexual rivalry. Kids protest exclusion because they need proximity to their primary attachment figure for survival and comfort and its super obvious, no need to invoke phallic stage incest fantasies.
I have 4 children, and this pervert pedo jewish shit is garbage. Period.
Normal family dynamics include rivalry, envy, shame, and messiness. Freuds leap that this stems from literal unconscious sexual desire for the opposite sex parent and wish to eliminate the same sex one is what is complete god damned garbage.
Modern views see the Oedipus complex as lacking empirical evidence. No large-scale studies confirm it as universal, go find one if you can - Freud relied on single cases like Little Hans, which dont hold up.
Outdated and sexist - sexist stuff being penis envy for females are supposedly the root of all behavior, pure trash. And I loathe uttering that word, sexist.
Most therapists have dropped (younger ones) or heavily revised it (older dinos clinging to this garbage) in favor of broader early relationships, pre oedipal issues, trauma, or attachment.
Freud did notice family life isnt all idyllic filial love, jealousy and competition exist .. but he wrapped it in a sexual reductionist framework thats been debunked or sidelined. People arent upset because he exposed ugly unconscious processes theyre upset because he insisted normal kid emotions are repressed incestuous wishes, turning therapy into endless, expensive interpretation of nonsexual stuff as sexual.
The holy family ideal? Sure, some cling to it. But rejecting Freud sex-junk isnt moral panic its science moving on to testable models that actually help people like CBT and attachment-based therapies work without pathologizing everyday rivalry as deep sexual drama.
Family dynamics are messy and irrational sometimes? Yes.
But nobody needs Freuds nuclear family sex drama myth to explain that.
Just read Memories, Dreams Reflections and look into mind maps and liberate yourself from this Fruedian garbage.
Poor woman.Perfomative christians really need to learn to off themselves
Thanks for calling out "performative" Christians and not all Christians. There are good people out there, both non-Christian and Christian that do good in the world. Elijah, however, could have gone trad and been happy or kept his needs on the side and lived a lie to provide a stable home for his kids. But no, there is something within Elijah that is driving him in this escalating self destruction cycle.
Elijahs mother died of cancer. This is going to cause abandoment and attachment issues. Closeness to another can be misinterpreted as a source of loss, if I love wife as much as mom she will be gone son.
Needing constant attachment reinforcement and cheating in this lens can be anxious attachment seeking, not just lust. I also have seen in his interactions with Kez and he seems to have control issues. Like she was totally demure but he had to lord over her despite that.
If grief from mothers death was never processed (especially in a religious, stoic household), it can turn into fear of intimacy, emotional dysregulation
Substances and sex can both function as numbing tools, I honestly think at this point he doesnt even enjoy sex, he seems to be trying all things and trying to see if he can enjoy anythying.
Religious Upbringing and a job that is Image Management all the time... Elijahs father is a church leader this creates high moral pressure and public image control.
Suppression of “forbidden” impulses, split identity (public purity, private chaos), shame-driven secrecy
The more rigid the moral system, the more extreme the swing when it breaks.
Addiction spiral including cocaine, heavy drinking, compulsive sex, heavy testosterone use
T and Tren and cocain and booze - impulse control issues, thrill-seeking, using stimulation to avoid internal discomfort
I dont even think Elijah is a legit fag. I think he was fag raped and has a mountain of shame from that. In addition, I think its less about sexuality specifically and more about chasing intensity. Like drug fueled insanity mixed with an identity crisis coupled with shame, its a mess.
Testosterone (and possibly Tren) at his age is not good. This will increase impulsivity, increase aggression, increase libido, decrease inhibition. He is bathing himself in exogenous hormones. Not a great plan.
He has control over the physical self when internal life feels chaotic, so he might look in the mirror and see a fit man with his shit together, and the image looks the part, but he is a complete mess.
Now its a self sabotage loop Elijah is stuck in.. Loss of mother, religious moral absolutism, shame, ridiculous substance abuse - this is full blow. His father should probably try and help intervene.
This is just going to escalate and loop. He should be put into a psychological facility and weaned off the drugs. If he did this he might have a path to redemption and blame the drugs, but he could be going insane - but this seems a bit late at age 31 to start going schizo.
Curious what the hell his father is doing, he used to come on his show, and they seemed to get along.
Elijah should be punished for this wrongdoings as well, and the Farms felting the shit out of him and contributing to the pig pile is medicine at this point , he needs to hit the wall and retool.
