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In my senior year at university, and planning ahead for doing my Masters. Im just so burnt out and drained to be honest. I know I cant complain since my university schedule doesnt even compare to someone working full time, but it's like im drained of all willpower and motivation.
This morning im told I have another Academic hold on my account, meanwhile im balancing 4 classes at once and my attendence is terrible.

Its just soul sucking, to be honest
 
It's been a bit over a year since I posted in this thread, and I'm doing so much worse. Diet hasn't really changed, and the suicidal ideation is still mostly gone, but I'm just a bundle of negative thoughts. Here are some of them, in no particular order.
My mind is so scrambled from a literal lifetime of psychiatric medication that the fact I can think at all is a testament to the resilience of the human brain. Motivation is fleeting in a sea of emptiness, made worse by the fact that I know I could just take more meds to counterbalance that. My mood doesn't really change day to day in much the same way a shipwreck at the bottom of the ocean doesn't notice if it's raining. That I haven't killed myself yet is twofold: A. I'm terrified of fucking it up and living through the attempt and B. I'm terrified that it doesn't end at death, that my consciousness continues for eternity. I prefer to quietly waste away, hiding whatever pain I may feel.
 
I'm really grateful I cut out certain people from my life earlier this year. It wasn't easy. They were people I knew in my past but had warped into strangers.
I've gone from 130 contacts on Steam to 6. Sometimes I think "damn, at least 4 of those could've been good friends if I-". If I. Why do I always have to? The few friends I've left on steam are perma-offline until they pop online at the same time to play together. I ain't been a someone to anyone in fucking years, and that's when I realize anew that I could've kept all those contacts around and gained nothing from it. What I have gained however is no longer having those "what if-" thoughts. What if I said hi for the 8th time to no reply? it'd totally turn things around!

nah, now I'm bored enough that I can sit down and read with no fomo.
Made it through my first week at a new job and I’m loving it.
I'd be loving mine if I just smiled and accepted the money. I get slaps on the wrist over being too involved when my office partner don't do half the work and when I do work, I'm told to just pass emails along with stock phrases, no "I understand" or "maybe it's-". I need to be a 9-to-5 drone and it sucks reducing myself to that.

In my senior year at university, and planning ahead for doing my Masters. Im just so burnt out and drained to be honest. I know I cant complain since my university schedule doesnt even compare to someone working full time, but it's like im drained of all willpower and motivation.
Every time I look back at my h*manities degree, I think "nah dawg I should've been based and done something that'd get me a job", and then I'm reminded how fucking dogshit university is, and mine was technically free and I did one of the easiest degrees. Shit I should've worked during my degree and gotten full-time hired out the game. The joy of not having any paternal guidance.
 
It is a beautiful day and I am typing this from my swimming pool despite having a throbbing headache. It's gonna be okay.
 
This fucking government I swear... 4 years of doing nothing and since it's elections year, now they decide it's time to bring all the lefty commie love-foreigners-more-than-locals shit that's been happening in other countries. Just blame it all on whoever takes over next year!
 
In my senior year at university, and planning ahead for doing my Masters. Im just so burnt out and drained to be honest. I know I cant complain since my university schedule doesnt even compare to someone working full time, but it's like im drained of all willpower and motivation.
This morning im told I have another Academic hold on my account, meanwhile im balancing 4 classes at once and my attendence is terrible.

Its just soul sucking, to be honest
Hang in there. And you can complain - your situation is yours, so comparing to others is only helpful if it helps you. Otherwise, try just to dig down into your own.

And bear with me here, but would it possibly help you to have a couple more obligations - like a very PT job or regular volunteer commitment or some 1-credit class that is more physical than academic? Depends on the person/ personality, but I've found I perform better and meet my mundane obligations better when my schedule is both busy and varied. And I see the same in my (university-attending) kids, to a significant degree. Short version: a busier schedule can encourage engagement and efficiency...which in turn can spark more energy and motivation. Sometimes - and again, this may be person-specific - having more to do can create a momentum and a higher base-level of energy and interest.

That said, consider talking to someone at your school's mental/emotional health center. Doesn't mean you're crazy or critically malfunctioning, and I'm not saying it will solve life. But an hour or few of getting things off your chest or collaborating on things can be relieving and eveninspiring. May be useless, maybe not. But you've got a lot at stake, and especially if you're aiming for more schooling, better to see if you can sort it out sooner rather than later.

Also going to recommend the old faithfuls of assessing your eating habits, sleeping regularly, physical movement, and looking at whether there are any habits or patterns that suck you in or decrease motivation.

But for real: The attendance factor is concerning. Regardless of the % it may or may not count toward your grade, missing class, even if you can watch video replays, is typically going to hurt your performance because you are less engaged, and will also probably ratchet up the stress or lack of motivation when exams or projects roll around. If it does count toward your grade, you are missing out on an easy check-the-box 10 or 2 or whatever percent. And even if it does not, if you're not there, and not attending office hours or meeting with the professor occasionally, then if things ever come down to a borderline grade, you've lost that benefit of the doubt.
 
That said, consider talking to someone at your school's mental/emotional health center. Doesn't mean you're crazy or critically malfunctioning, and I'm not saying it will solve life. But an hour or few of getting things off your chest or collaborating on things can be relieving and eveninspiring. May be useless, maybe not. But you've got a lot at stake, and especially if you're aiming for more schooling, better to see if you can sort it out sooner rather than later.
Yeah, Im seeing the University counseling center at the moment, but they are limited in the scope of what they can do and how often we can meet. I have a meeting with a coordinator setup to help find a more professional and local Clinic that can help me weekly.
But for real: The attendance factor is concerning. Regardless of the % it may or may not count toward your grade, missing class, even if you can watch video replays, is typically going to hurt your performance because you are less engaged, and will also probably ratchet up the stress or lack of motivation when exams or projects roll around. If it does count toward your grade, you are missing out on an easy check-the-box 10 or 2 or whatever percent. And even if it does not, if you're not there, and not attending office hours or meeting with the professor occasionally, then if things ever come down to a borderline grade, you've lost that benefit of the doubt.
I think I'm gonna email my professors and let them know of my situation, and then Ill figure out which classes I need to pay more or less attention to for the sake of my degree plan.
Every time I look back at my h*manities degree, I think "nah dawg I should've been based and done something that'd get me a job", and then I'm reminded how fucking dogshit university is, and mine was technically free and I did one of the easiest degrees. Shit I should've worked during my degree and gotten full-time hired out the game. The joy of not having any paternal guidance.
I'm going to University for a Geography Major and double Minoring in History and International Studies, since I thought "oh I'd like to study and work in a feild that I enjoy learning about." I keep telling myself ill contact the internship advisor or get in contact with coordinators from the American Association of Geography, since they have internship programs and help people get jobs in the feild.
 
@Talisin
Yeah, Im seeing the University counseling center at the moment, but they are limited in the scope of what they can do and how often we can meet. I have a meeting with a coordinator setup to help find a more professional and local Clinic that can help me weekly.
Yeah, they are usually pretty limited, but from what I've seen they can be good for patching things and referring you out - glad you're doing that!

I think I'm gonna email my professors and let them know of my situation, and then Ill figure out which classes I need to pay more or less attention to for the sake of my degree plan.
Perfect plan. You have a grip on prioritization, and pulling in other people to help sort that is really good. Some people get overwhelmed and can't think about or don't realize that they need to look through a lens of "OK, what is most critical here," so you're way ahead of many.

I keep telling myself ill contact the internship advisor or get in contact with coordinators from the American Association of Geography, since they have internship programs and help people get jobs in the feild.
Perfect plan. And again, I'm projecting, but sometimes having things to work toward can light a fire.

But so I'm curious (bc I have no idea, not bc I'm skeptical): what kinds of jobs are in the field of geography?

Also, you might talk about it with profs - if you get a good/ engaged one, they might have opportunities for you, or know people who do, or have ideas about opportunities even beyond the AAG ones.

Tbh, sounds like you're thinking about things in a good way, so even if you feel burned or lackluster atm, it does sound like you are approaching things in a smart and comprehensive way.
 
But so I'm curious (bc I have no idea, not bc I'm skeptical): what kinds of jobs are in the field of geography?
Uhhhh, so at my University specifically, a lot of the Degree's and work is focused more on the Environmental side of Geography. A lot of people here study and work towards Environmentalist jobs.
Ive thought about teaching Geography in Highschools (which I have some concerns with but thats so-and-so) or trying to teach / work at a community college if I go through with my Masters.
Theres also Government departments and agencies which deal with urban/public planning and natural resources (which falls in line with Environmental majors or Water-resources majors.)
Doing virtual mapping with drones is a BIG up and coming industry, which I just recently learned is required to learn now. GIS, or Geographic Information Systems, is using drones and computer software to map out and review landscapes and peices of land. This is extremely profitable as contract work and my old community college professor actually specialized in GIS, having a drone fleet on campus worth ten's of thousands of dollars. You can get certified in this all, but im not really a big tech person, and I focus on Human Geography inline with culture, economics, and religion; So-and-so.

Sorry if this isnt really a satisfying answer, as ive dealth with an inquisition of questions from extended family asking the same thing; Ive never exactly had a good or satisfying response. I dont know what career ill go into, I simply chose this because its a topic I love.
 
Had a really positive day today. Parents and one of my friends came and hung out all day. Brought good food so I didn't have to deal with the shitty hospital food. Laughed a lot for the first time in awhile.
 
Had a really positive day today. Parents and one of my friends came and hung out all day. Brought good food so I didn't have to deal with the shitty hospital food. Laughed a lot for the first time in awhile.
what type of food did you get to have? sounds like a good day
 
shaking and crying rn i nearly just lost my life
i was on the toilet when a dark blur moves in my peripheral vision
i look up and it's a SPIDERRRRRRRRRRR A BIG HUGE FREAKING SPIDER INCHES FROM MY FACE
THEN SUDDENLY IT DROPPED ONTO THE FLOOR AND STARTED RUNNING
CAN YOU FEEL MY TERROR
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I have had raising canes for fhe first time in months after trying to start cleaning up my diet, and now i have not been able to shit for the past 3 days, i want to kill myself.
 
what type of food did you get to have? sounds like a good day
Home made lasagna and garlic bread. Parents brought me coffee in they brewed before they left. Beat the hell out of the eggs from a carton and mystery chicken the hospital would have served. Was absolute bliss to eat something with taste lol.
 
Home made lasagna and garlic bread. Parents brought me coffee in they brewed before they left. Beat the hell out of the eggs from a carton and mystery chicken the hospital would have served. Was absolute bliss to eat something with taste lol.
mm I could go for some garlic bread tbh, some texas toast.... Glad you got to have some good food
 
Uhhhh, so at my University specifically, a lot of the Degree's and work is focused more on the Environmental side of Geography. A lot of people here study and work towards Environmentalist jobs.
Ive thought about teaching Geography in Highschools (which I have some concerns with but thats so-and-so) or trying to teach / work at a community college if I go through with my Masters.
Theres also Government departments and agencies which deal with urban/public planning and natural resources (which falls in line with Environmental majors or Water-resources majors.)
Doing virtual mapping with drones is a BIG up and coming industry, which I just recently learned is required to learn now. GIS, or Geographic Information Systems, is using drones and computer software to map out and review landscapes and peices of land. This is extremely profitable as contract work and my old community college professor actually specialized in GIS, having a drone fleet on campus worth ten's of thousands of dollars. You can get certified in this all, but im not really a big tech person, and I focus on Human Geography inline with culture, economics, and religion; So-and-so.

Sorry if this isnt really a satisfying answer, as ive dealth with an inquisition of questions from extended family asking the same thing; Ive never exactly had a good or satisfying response. I dont know what career ill go into, I simply chose this because its a topic I love.
No, it's a great answer! ...I studied what I loved in college, and my undergraduate degree had maybe fewer obvious or specific immediate career paths than some (I knew I'd be going to one kind of grad school or other for more practical credentials/ study, so undergrad was primarily for the love of it). But my field was far from yours, and I'm always curious about different paths people take. And there a billion occupations I had/ still have no clue about. So thanks!
 
Getting less stressed, I'm changing to a new job for higher pay, less hours, and I don't have to work weekends anymore. Sort of reconnected with an old friend of mine after falling out, but got more distant with another friend.
 
Sort of reconnected with an old friend of mine after falling out, but got more distant with another friend.
Had something similar happen recently, except I made a new friend that feels like we've been friends for ages due to our similarities. But recently my best friend of 10+ years has been blowing me off. I know work has been stressful for him lately so I'm hoping maybe it's just that.
 
Don't you love when you have your first weekend off in two weeks and then it gets halved? "Can you come on Sunday, if you have no plans?" Yeah, I had one, it is called NOT WORKING ON MY DAY OFF! But since I was on a thin ice recently and I still haven't found another job, what do I have left? I am so tired of choosing between bad and worse.
 
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