I still can’t believe this all happened, like I knew my parents wouldn’t be happy but this was just a lot.
So my parents asked us to come out to lunch so they could ask questions. Once we got there my dad went up to the bar and called me over because he wanted to buy me a drink and my fiancé stayed at the table with my mom thinking it would be quick.
My dad later admitted they had originally planned to separate us hoping we wouldn’t be as strong separated. My dad said that I need to realize that my fiancé is unnatural and that something is wrong with her if she thinks she can ever be a woman. He said I need to leave her and find my faith so that I can see how terrible this is.
He also said he would not walk me down the aisle at our wedding because he can’t give his daughter away to “that”. I told me that he just shouldn’t come if he can’t be supportive of my relationship and he said
he does support me but doesn’t support any of my decisions or my relationship which makes no sense. He then went on to bible beat me and refused to listen when I corrected him because he wasn’t quoting anything correctly, and even said that trans people are just as bad as people who sa children. I got us after that and told my fiancé I’m going to the car. My mom then followed me out just to tell me that my dad is right, just said it in a nicer way, and said that
I shouldn’t throw away my family for this person because they’ve always been there and my partner is the one that tricked me into this relationship that they’re trying to save me from. When I tried to bring up all the times they haven’t been there for me, have neglected my needs, and abused me all she had to say was that I was making it all up because she would remember the “trauma” of failing her child. My mom also tried to lie and say my partner agreed to cancel the wedding and take a break from each other as long I agreed.
My fiancé came out soon after and she wrapped it up by saying if I actually care about my family then I would take a break from my partner and that this is coming from a place of love for me and my future children, and my children will need a strong male figure to look up to so I need them.
My fiancé’s conversation with my mother went about the same.
They did blame her for me not being close to them anymore even though they chose to live out of the country, and said that I’ve lost myself because of her because I’m not the same person I was when I was 18 and moved out (crazy to think that people grow up and change!) and said the whole family agreed.
This experience sucked but has definitely brought us closer together. We talked about what happened when they separated us and
it was amazing that we both stood strong and defended each other so well. I’ve never stood up to them before but when it was for her I didn’t care about what they thought. Not really sure where to go from here but
I’m trying to look forward to the great and supportive family I’m marrying into and not look back at the awful one I’ve lost.