why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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long waters said:
This might also be me projecting because I don't have a PhD myself hah.
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You're not projecting. I'm in STEM and about half of my classmates are straight up retarded. I'm a humble person so I'll say I'm quite retarded myself.
Cheating is getting easier each year, I remember my first degree (also in STEM) being significantly more challenging.
And PhDs are about hard work but also (not always but most times) about just how much dignity you're willing to lose sucking the metaphorical dick of your superiors. Personally, I'm only pursuing a PhD as a last resort, if I can't find a job anywhere else. I should've gone to trade school.
 
Spock said:
I suppose that going full circle would involve "becoming the woman these types of men want to date", but 1) I don't know what that is, 2) things like dresses, skirts, make-up, are uncomfy and bad (to me), 3) I like who I am. Self-fulfilling prophecy here, but I think if I came to the ultimate conclusion that the only way to be loved was to "fake it to make it" I would resign myself to loneliness or just kill myself. That's just life with autism, though.
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The men you would attract wouldnt be in love with your true self anyway. If I would pretend to be into parties and knitting just to get a girl I know that is into that sort of thing, I would probably go mad trying to keep up the charade. Maybe it's my inner moid speaking, but as a woman you probably have more choice if you're looking for "introverted nerd" than as a guy.
Spock said:
But the main reason is that I need to be able to relate to him and talk to him. I have a group of friends who have gone to college, and a group of friends who haven't gone to college. I appreciate these friends equally, but the college friends I can relate to more
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I think you're right, even if it sounds rather harsh and stuck up. I have people I care for deeply, but being unable to share some of the more complex thoughts I have with them is always disappointing. Not being understood by your girlfriend (or boyfriend for you) would make the relationship feel flat.
souschef said:
I think RBF is a charming trait
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Me too.
 
Tsukasa Kadoya said:
The thing is, there are women in their mid 20s who don't have kids, but everyone screams PEDO if you date someone 10 years your junior.
I get it if I was dating an 18 year old it'd be gross, but someone around 23-25 years old isn't me grooming someone its me dating in a legal, acceptable age range.
I fucking HATE the idea that the age gap between men and women HAS to be close, otherwise the man is a predator groomer. A 34 year old dating a 24-25 year old isn't that big of a deal.
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The thing is, regardless of age, women are stupid, like children (or dogs, yaaah)
 
HOMO FOR LIFE RETURNS said:
A 20 year old woman asked me out today and I rejected her. I'm in my 30s.

Id say she was 8-9/10.

Am I a faggot.
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Look, according to the widely accepted calculation, half your age + 7, if you're minimum 30, that's 15 + 7 = 22; you say she's 20, not just in her 20's, so if you'd accepted

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YOU'D BE A PEDO!
 
Even in my dreams I can’t escape chaotic, unstable women. Last night I dreamt that I was at a family member’s wedding function and this decent looking woman approached me. She seemed normal at first but then went on about her girlfriend, some “alternative lifestyle” and hinted at them being in an open relationship. After she brought that up, I found an excuse to end the conversation and walked away.

Perhaps this was my subconscious telling me I’m getting better at spotting red flags.
 
I am a young guy. My father is a very wealthy man as far as the middle class goes, and he provides everything for my mom. These mfs literally travel the world in their old age. High standard I guess

I can’t shake this feeling that I need to be in that state before I get a woman. My last relationship was years ago, had this realization after…so I am still single.
Recently one of my cousins my age had a baby with a girl he isn’t even married to yet, let alone dated over a year and a half. He works at game exchange part time and they’re on SNAP. Sometimes I wonder if I’m over-thinking this but I pine for a woman of my own, yet want to be a put-together man first.
 
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Sasmate said:
What is even mildly attractive about a
constant expression that comes off as grumpy and standoffish?
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I don't think I'd be attracted to a guy who was chipper all the time. Would be weird. Ik that resting bitch face is more attributed to women, but I think that's more because women are expected to smile (I've had plenty of men ask me to smile), so when they don't it's more noticeable. Grumpy =/= neutral, you're just reading the expression wrong. It's only a correct read if, after initiating interaction, they are still grumpy. I personally don't trust people who smile or look happy all the time, because then you can't tell when you've actually made them happy. Seeing eyes light up from a previously neutral state is great, imo, and more attractive than having a dopey look all the time.
 
Sasmate said:
What is even mildly attractive about a
constant expression that comes off as grumpy and standoffish?
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It's like trying to explain why I'm attracted to breasts, I just am. Maybe they look grumpy because they think more seriously about things. Maybe because they tend to be more introverted. Maybe because I just like the face when they look grumpy.
 
I have no desire anymore, and I'm ok with that. It's not that I hate women. I'm just tired of having to play the game.

I also can't read the fucking room when texting
 
Dysfunctional family, growing up poor in a shit hole and autism.

I'm soon 30 and I never dated or asked out any woman. I don't wish to cope but on the bright side, I never spent any money or had to deal with woman's bullshit. I read online how bad the dating situation for a male like me is and wanna try it myself this year.
 
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