why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Nefarious Elliot]

anyone have personal experience with situationships, "talking stages" & such? and what motivates hookup culture, how it actually works? ive been thinking of making an effortpost regarding why shit is so skewed today compared to the late 20th century, because as we all see things nowadays are far worse. however the hookup culture, playboys, promiscuity that is often blamed as the cause was arguably more prevalent (for men) back then compared to now. so what gives? are the shitty conditions today the result of women sleeping around too much? is it the result of hookup culture spreading out of nightclub quarantine into relationship territory, with the new development of situationships? we are in deep thoughts after all.

It's because, ever since 1920 or so, people have been using mental gymnastics to justify not subjugating women. Oh, she's "dating" because her parents didn't tell her what to do. Or something.

Everything beyond this is cope. I have, myself, denied this time and time again, moralfagged at every opportunoty, and my attempte to take "them" seriously seemed only to ever skew me in the "wrong" direction...

 

[We Are The Witches]

I have even heard of a person who liked being "cold approached".

I think that probably only works for the women who have the intention of engaging in casual sex, if they find the person very attractive, if they can leech resources out of him, if they're drunk enough, etc, and a combination of the previous.

You don't want to be in any of those situations though.

So honestly, given that dating apps are complete shit, one of the "natural" ways of establishing a relationship should be through a common hobby/occupation, and after some form of friendship has occurred (sometimes it needs to develop, and other times you can clearly see that it "sparked" in her, but this is so capricious).

The thing about searching a partner in this way is that it's hit or miss, luck is kind of involved, and time & effort are precious resources. My advice is to not obsess over romantic relationships, maybe put yourself online (in less toxic websites/apps than Tinder), or look up what hobbies or activites you could do that would raise the chance of meeting someone (activities that you enjoy of course).

Never betray who you are though, there's a difference between being tolerant & flexible, and completely reshaping who you are to accomodate the standards of this woman. Because if you do, there will be lots of times where you question yourself if this is how you want to live. Freedom before being subjugated to the nonsense of someone.

 

[marvlouslie]

Why am I still single? Because I genuinely believe that I'm not good enough for anyone, so I don't even bother. Modern women's standards are too fuckin' high, and even women with low standards, THEY have issues. Dating in the modern age isn't feasible for me. 1, I have no car. 2, I'm disabled. I don't see any woman going for that at all. I'm not deliberately going to put myself out there in the dating scene only to get laughed and mocked at. The only winning move is not to play.

 

[Lime]

Well, anyways, given that the average salary for US folks does not reach that, have fun trying to set that standard.

I'm just stating what needs to be done if a man is trying to set up a nuclear family with a house wife. 2.5 kids, white picket fence and the like. If you both or child free it doesn't matter I guess.

 

[Alaska20k]

Can only get fat girls on hinge to like me

 

[HOMO FOR LIFE RETURNS]

on hinge

Well there is your problem.

 

[Spock]

From someone who doesn't have any "spaces" outside work, internet, small friend group, could you provide some examples of "the worst shit about women that I've ever heard"?

"All women are whores" "Women are disgusted by men's emotions" "Women are only good for one thing" "Women are stupid" "Repeal the 19th" "Women are holes" "Women ruined the west" "Woman? Opinion discarded" "Women always cheat" etc etc etc

 

[Waffle Iron]

To be clear, you're instructing me

I'm not. I'm saying that the world changed and so did daily life for the average person. With that shift it became far harder to meet people. My point was that boomers are delusional about how modern people are able to meet. It's the dating equivalent of "just walk in and give the manager a firm handshake". It's not just that giving a firm handshake doesn't work, but you can't actually get to the manager since every modern company uses keycards to provide access to anything past the lobby.
This isn't some kind of actionable advice, this is an observation about the world and dating.

 

[Montalbane]

"All women are whores" "Women are disgusted by men's emotions" "Women are only good for one thing" "Women are stupid" "Repeal the 19th" "Women are holes" "Women ruined the west" "Woman? Opinion discarded" "Women always cheat" etc etc etc

Replace that with men amd now you have the entirety of gender relationships in the last 15 years.
Petsonally i blame semites.

 

[slide on an egg]

I enjoy doing what I want and relationships take away a lot of personal time that I prefer having for hobbies and enjoying my life. Being single is freedom.

 

[Nitro!]

Can only get fat girls on hinge to like me

Out of curiosity I had to look this up. App previews showed a nigger, an androgynous 56%er and a fag. Bleak if that's the cream of the crop for singles.

 

[Vlad the Implier]

Another day, another date, another fucking socialist.

Don't talk to me about class consciousness

Won't shut up about politics on first date/having their politics on their bio is a red flag in my experience. People who are so obsessed that it spills over like that are usually turning to politics as a way of avoiding dealing with emotional/psychological problems.

You likely dodged a free helicopter ride.

 

[Nick Obre]

What the ffuuuukkkk?!??? Why are they like this???

It's what the Left does to women. They're already prone to forgo accountability, but infected by an ideology that's entirely about making everyone else accountable for you instead of yourself, all the freedom in the world with none of the responsibilities, it's amplified x100.

I'm happy to say before this socialist woman I had an amazing date with a different woman. We talked politics briefly and while she's a lefty, she's also reasonable enough to adopt right-leaning positions/policies/proposals/candidates when she agrees with them on significant issues, and so on. Like, you know, a normal person.

I only went out with Socialist because Reasonable had sort of pulled away and was giving signs of disinterest, which has happened to me after good dates enough times to detect and even get paranoid about. So I had assumed it was a write-off.

We talked recently, and turns out she's still totally into going out again and continue getting to know each other, she was just too swamped with work (2 jobs, and also is a small fashion entrepreneur) and with preparations to move to a bigger place (to have space for her workshop).
So we're going out this Saturday and next Friday.

What I'm trying to say is, avoid hard left women. Bitches be crazy.
And avoid hard right women. Bitches be Venezuelan.

Won't shut up about politics on first date/having their politics on their bio is a red flag in my experience. People who are so obsessed that it spills over like that are usually turning to politics as a way of avoiding dealing with emotional/psychological problems.

You likely dodged a free helicopter ride.

She had nothing on her profile about it, and politics came up (reluctantly on my part, I hate talking about it) near the end of the date, after she regaled me with all that wonderful info about her luxurious life.

 

[long waters]

Has anyone made an AI driven matchmaking app yet? Something where you just chat with the AI, it profiles you, and then matches you with a woman near you that it thinks you would get along with.
I hate the thought of sharing too much information with the machine, but if it means I wouldn't have to deal with dating I'd try it. Not that I've been dealing with that so far, I just don't do it at all.
By the way one thing I find very annoying, both my GP and my therapist have mentioned on some occasions that they do indeed have many female patients who are struggling to find a bf too. But if there are all these women struggling to find a bf, and all these men struggling to find a gf, how come none of them seem to find eachother? Feels so frustrating how everything is so interconnected and disconnected at the same time.
Maybe they should make a therapy-dating combo service too.

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

But if there are all these women struggling to find a bf, and all these men struggling to find a gf, how come none of them seem to find eachother?

Nobody like that goes outside and approaches each other anymore. When is the last time that you flirted with a woman?

Edit: Wait, aren't you the guy that went on a date with a commie? In that case, I concede my point. I don't know why people aren't fucking.

 

[Sperg_rancher]

Alright boys, I'm willing to put down my Model trains and HAM radios. What hobbies do I start to crush major poon (in a "til' death do us part" manner)?

 

[Nick Obre]

Alright boys, I'm willing to put down my Model trains and HAM radios. What hobbies do I start to crush major poon (in a "til' death do us part" manner)?

For some reason they all love hiking

 

[long waters]

Nobody like that goes outside and approaches each other anymore. When is the last time that you flirted with a woman?

Technically never? I'm not sure if I know how to flirt. I think I might have at some point?
Either way, when I was young I figured I'd just go to university, get a degree, get a job, make money, and then somehow women would magically appear in my life. Ridiculous, I know now.
In more recent times, I did get a hobby where there are plenty of women. But then I realized I don't actually know how to strike up a conversation with anyone. At all. I never really talk to people casually irl. All conversations that I initiate are strictly transactional or business oriented. If someone else starts talking to me I can yap for an hour, but I can't initiate a conversation myself. It's like I'm missing some handshake protocol spec.

Edit: Wait, aren't you the guy that went on a date with a commie? In that case, I concede my point. I don't know why people aren't fucking.

No, wasn't me. I think that might have been Nick?

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

In more recent times, I did get a hobby where there are plenty of women. But then I realized I don't actually know how to strike up a conversation with anyone. At all. I never really talk to people casually irl. All conversations that I initiate are strictly transactional or business oriented. If someone else starts talking to me I can yap for an hour, but I can't initiate a conversation myself. It's like I'm missing some handshake protocol spec.

Yeah, if you don't initiate, you're not going to get laid. There's a portion of women like that as well. They're not going to initiate (they're women, duh) and if a man does, they'll be too afraid to reciprocate. An increasing number of people is just incapable of socializing in a sexual or romantic manner.

Either that or there's a plague of men just rejecting the advances of sexy commie women. There's at least one on KF.

 

[long waters]

Yeah, if you don't initiate, you're not going to get laid.

I'm not interested in sex just for the sake of sex. I mean, on some subconscious level I am, but the thought of having a physical relation with a woman whom you're together with for short term disgusts me too much to do so. I'd have to know a woman for at least a couple of months before considering this, and she would have to be down for a long term relation (1 year +). Otherwise it just seems pointless to me.