Well it’s official, I’m 100% ugly been at uni a week and the only people chatting me up are foreigners I’m not fat, am I really that ugly??? Dm me if you’re a british male under 30 ig lol
Part time caretaker for family when I'm not at work, which drastically cuts into my social opportunities. I also don't make nearly enough to afford to live on my own as wellas take care of my family, or to pay someone else to take care of them(nor do I trust "professional" caretakers anyway) and no self respecting woman is gonna go on a date with a dude who still lives at home. I've had people tell me this isn't true, but they're all married to their highschool sweethearts so
Your situation isn't really what people mean when they say "still lives at home". What you're doing is noble at best, at worst an unfortunate circumstance, but not simply the implied failure to launch.
Will the distinction help? Or be perceived by the wömen? I don't know, man. But I hope so.
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On my side, I have probably said part of this but, after 4 years of being in a hole after my 15-year marriage ended, early this year I decided to start trying to make friends and have dates again. Started on the apps. The results?
-2 brief relationships with great women, that unfortunately ended for external reasons. Just bad timing.
-1 brief relationship with a woman who seemed great and compatible (and really, is still a pretty cool person), but got waaay too invasive real fast, particularly regarding these previous 2 relationships. I got uncomfortable and ended it.
-A few dates with women resulting either in me feeling no chemistry, or them being very flip floppy and things ending before they began.
-1 somewhat longer relationship with a pretty cool woman, who was very different from me, to the point of making me confront some things about myself*. But things seemed to be stuck in this halfway point of too casual and sporadic but also too involved, (which is to say, talking every day throughout the day, but her schedule not letting us meet more than maybe once every two weeks) with no seeming intention to change. One day I asked her directly, "Do you actually have time for this?", and the answer wasn't "No", but in practice it meant "No". I stuck around a little longer to see if anything changed, but it didn't, so I ended it.
To be honest, there were some little things that bothered me about her, and at one point I wondered if I was there just to not be alone. A moot point, in the end.
So now I'm single again.
I've had some matches on the apps, but they're the kind where the woman doesn't even answer. I know no one wants the same boring conversations every time but if you cared enough to swipe right, at least return the greeting and see what happens from there.
In any case, the next month is gonna be very busy for me, I'm moving, and there'll be significant (positive, but demanding of careful navigation) life changes after that. So I probably shouldn't bother with this for the time being.
I may have also posted about this before but the thing I had to face was that, she had all these stories about things she had done along her life, stuff from childhood, from her family, from college, parties, exes, drunk shenanigans, her friend group, her colleagues, her students, the students' families, and so on. Me? Because of the circumstances of my family, and the way I was raised, and the personality I have as a result (which once an adult, I take responsibility for, can't just put it on the upbringing at that point), and despite having achieved some things like some relationships, the marriage and having a kid, I don't have many fun stories to tell.
I'm boring, once you get down to it. I lack a lot of the fun traits that women look for in a man. I consider myself fairly intelligent, and I can have those deep conversations that everyone loves like the best of them, but I'm worthless if you wanna go out dancing. I can be a loving and attentive partner, but I don't get any excitement from the idea of traveling.
On the one hand, I wouldn't want to be with a woman who doesn't understand that. On the other, it's never too late to change.
Recently I saw a quote somewhere that put things into perspective for me, but like a retard, I didn't save it. It was a cliche thing, but it made sense to me, it was something along the lines of "Stop working so hard on limiting yourself to what you think you are".
I don't want to change everything about myself, but it's true, some of the things I don't do are simply because I consider them outside of "what I am", and it doesn't have to be that way.
Fortunately the life changes will afford me some more freedom to break out of my mold and do and learn things. We'll see.
I rejected a single mom yesterday who matched with me even though my profile specifically said that I don't want kids. At least she was honest and civil about it but my disappointment was immeasurable when I asked what she was looking for and mentioned "someone to take care of her kids". Not even 30 yet and these bitches have more fucking baggage than the PDX international airport. I can't deal with that, especially after my ex.
Recently I saw a quote somewhere that put things into perspective for me, but like a retard, I didn't save it. It was a cliche thing, but it made sense to me, it was something along the lines of "Stop working so hard on limiting yourself to what you think you are".
All I get is the attention from nigger bucks. I’d rather have a white man or a high Spaniard Latino. Or maybe my nigger brother in law was right. I have a face only a nigger could love. It almost like a stab right through the heart. Haha
I'm stuck in a culture that I do not accept and will surely not accept me, which would make it very hard to date and eventually marry (which is my ultimate goal). Needless to say, I am depressed
Because all the women I meet online who aren't fat or single moms end up being like vid related. It's fun till it ain't fun anymore and I'm well past that point.
I know the feeling.
Tattoos can look good if the woman understands art and how art must fit the form and her desired image, but random BPD/Drunk tats just register as a rash or visual noise to me.
Honestly, at this point in my life (I’m 26), I’m starting to wonder if I should go full Scott Pilgrim and try a younger girl. Not high school, obviously, but like 18 or 19.
I’m starting to wonder if the age gap thing is a feminist psyop to cope with the fact that they’re past marriage age while the men their age are still getting pussy. You always hear about how it’s wrong that a man in his 20s is in the wrong for dating someone younger. Meanwhile, my parents had an eight year age gap, and they were married until this year. Plus, despite my one aunt having the dubious honor of meeting her cop boyfriend when she was 15, they’ve been happily married since the 80’s. It honestly makes me wonder if we should retvrn to tradition (though perhaps not too traditional, if you catch my drift).
I've settled into my friend groups and hobbies, both of which I have multiple of, but there are no girls in any of them. I've passed 30 already so most of my friends are married or in longterm relationships. I've even asked a few if they know anyone ergo they could introduce me to, but no luck...
Just got out of a two year relationship, I've had a lot of attention since then but it's nobody I'd want to partner with. I need to start settling back into myself and focusing on my health and my career, I tend to put all of that aside when I get into a relationship and it doesn't do favours for anybody.
I haven't used a dating app since the 10s, but I was kind of curious to see what they're like these days. Last time everybody just wanted to hook up, which isn't something I do, so I didn't use it very long.
Just got out of a two year relationship, I've had a lot of attention since then but it's nobody I'd want to partner with. I need to start settling back into myself and focusing on my health and my career, I tend to put all of that aside when I get into a relationship and it doesn't do favours for anybody.
I haven't used a dating app since the 10s, but I was kind of curious to see what they're like these days. Last time everybody just wanted to hook up, which isn't something I do, so I didn't use it very long.
if you're a woman (real) you'll be bombarded with dozens or even hundreds of likes on your first day from thirsty men that want you to show bobs and vagene, serial killer manipulative types that think andrew tate is the second coming of Christ, overweight incels in denial that want to show you their toenail collection, and maybe one out of a hundred guys that are actually good. it's your job to filter them, have fun.
if you're a man you'll get one like per week and it will either be a beefgoblin, a troon or a bot account asking you to follow them on snapchat then unmatching.
I do not go outside and even if I did, there's nowhere to go. I also don't have a car so I realistically can't go anywhere because I'm in a miserable suburb with barely any places around. The few places that are here take forever to walk to and are boring after the first 5 times you visit them so I'd just rather just stay home.
It definitely doesn't need to be said but all of this pretty much hinders my ability to pull a girl.
God I fucking hate living in this shithole. It's so lonely and depressing. I just want to burn it all down to the ground.
Don't fall in the online dating trap. Even chatting up lost causes at pub closing times will net you better, more fun and less frustrating results than that bullshit. I never had to resort to using something like Tinder but every single dude in my social circle tells nothing but horror stories about it, even if they got dates or hole out of it it's usually terrible. Even my zoomie brother, who is literally male model-tier (he got all the good genes in the family) told me how much he had to struggle getting girls to invite him over, we are in a ~4 mill bug hive as well.
Depends on your age and culture (it's usually no biggie in Italy even if you're 25+) but in general i'd agree. Might have changed due to the dire housing situation in virtually any city of this world.
I do not go outside and even if I did, there's nowhere to go. I also don't have a car so I realistically can't go anywhere because I'm in a miserable suburb with barely any places around. The few places that are here take forever to walk to and are boring after the first 5 times you visit them so I'd just rather just stay home.
It definitely doesn't need to be said but all of this pretty much hinders my ability to pull a girl.
God I fucking hate living in this shithole. It's so lonely and depressing. I just want to burn it all down to the ground.
Spent a week away so I fiddled on some apps just to see what the market is like away from home. It's somehow even worse. Matched with a few that fit my general quality and interests and even then it was just a fucking drag to pull any words out of them. And the few who were quick to flirt in way of sexual remarks are the ones who do it to anyone willing to give them the time of day.
Every time I feel ready to put in some effort not to be single, I'm shown why I shouldn't.
Spent a week away so I fiddled on some apps just to see what the market is like away from home. It's somehow even worse. Matched with a few that fit my general quality and interests and even then it was just a fucking drag to pull any words out of them. And the few who were quick to flirt in way of sexual remarks are the ones who do it to anyone willing to give them the time of day.
Every time I feel ready to put in some effort not to be single, I'm shown why I shouldn't.
Now angle the same advice to a woman: "Uh land someone rich, and change nothing about yourself cause you won't have to".
I'm not really sure about what point you're making. Yeah hot enough women can gold dig (and many not hot enough ones waste their youth believing they can). Doesn't change the fact: The man said he had nothing to do and nowhere to go in his life. That situation needs to be addressed before anything else.
been at uni a week and the only people chatting me up are foreigners 
I’m not fat, am I really that ugly??? Dm me if you’re a british male under 30 ig lol
