why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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Last time I went on dating spree, I actually had a lot of luck but it still became a drag just going on dates. It's like, women just don't know how to hold a conversation or even talk about themselves in a way that's interesting. It's almost always only slight variations on the same lines too: "Who are you?" "Where am I?" "Why are you doing this?" "Please let me go." "I promise I won't tell anyone if you just let me go." "I just wanna see my kids again." "Please!" "Oh god no!" "Get that thing away from me!".

But believe you me, you know I had those girls screaming all night long.
 
Max Caulfield said:
Last time I went on dating spree, I actually had a lot of luck but it still became a drag just going on dates. It's like, women just don't know how to hold a conversation or even talk about themselves in a way that's interesting. It's almost always only slight variations on the same lines too: "Who are you?" "Where am I?" "Why are you doing this?" "Please let me go." "I promise I won't tell anyone if you just let me go." "I just wanna see my kids again." "Please!" "Oh god no!" "Get that thing away from me!".

But believe you me, you know I had those girls screaming all night long.
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The worst part is when you have to carry the shovel yourself after the morning hike with them.
 
I had to pull the trigger and end it with my ex and the regret and isolation is really starting to set in. Every time I repeat the reasons why in my head, my choice is justified and numerous people have told me the same whenever I talked about it. The sunk cost fallacy is a bitch though. She had multiple red flags and I'd already lowered my standards quite a bit for her.

But now what? I literally have no future plans besides working, shitposting and occasionally doing IRL hobbies where I never fucking meet anyone new. I doubt I'll ever meet anyone to date again because the conditions just aren't fucking there anymore.
 
Of the two long-term relationships I've had, one girl was bipolar and the other BPD. The first was diagnosed after the relationship ended and the second I didn't find out about until things were about to end. The second destroyed some of my soul.

I'm not a misogynist, but BPD feels like an exaggeration or weaponization of certain stereotypically feminine traits. I don't think I'm able to articulate my feelings about women now very well, but I'm not willing to extend them much grace at the moment and I'm not really interested in dating. At the moment there's a lot of behavior women are prone to, not all of it necessarily "bad," that I just can't psychologically put up with. I don't think I'll be able to date for a while.
 
Male-brained autistic and ugly, even the fucking mathbowl kids growing up made fun of me for being awkward and unattractive. I don't think there's any coming back from that, lol.

Autism gamer gfs are only cool if you're an attractive woman with the quirky relatable autism tacked on. Now I'm nearing my thirties without having so much as been on a date in a decade and having to accept I'll probably just end up alone.
 
I only cared about/had a crush on a single woman in my entire life and that was 20+ years ago. I was never lustful enough to actively seek out a relationship and never wanted to have kids. Nowadays I don't go out or see enough new people to even have a chance of meeting someone. I'm not dumb, unattractive, shy, short, balding or anything like that.
 

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I don't go outside, because I don't have anywhere to go. At best I could establish relationships with the local wildlife, but even that avoids me like the plague. I probably pissed away any and all chances to meet people and I'll end up working myself to death in a factory given how those are the only job offers in the area.
 
I give up.

Two long relationships, like 5-years+, ended in a complete disaster. Tried to take it slow, tried to be supportive, tried to even show my loyalty to them like giving gifts. Its not enough. The modern generation are too thin-skinned to tolerate time. They claim that no progress is made yet time and time again, varied couples from all over the world have shown that dedication and pure love can overcome any adversary. Now its the 2020s and everyone immediately drops the towel when even 1 year passes.

At this point, I am fucking convinced that it is simply zoomers unwilling to put actual effort, patience and dedication for a relationship. They put all their lives when it comes to academics, work and even the fucking games they play, but love? They don't care.
 
I don't think I am capable of love. I get the "ick" over everything. I'm too much of a perfectionist and I guess I expect the same from others :/ So I eventually start to resent the person.
 
It's not so much that damaged girls are attracted to me. Most men end up dealing with crazy chicks at some point in their life and they learn how to handle it, much like I have. It gets tiresome and I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately.

No, the problem I have is that thus far, ONLY damaged neurotic women are attracted to me and that has to mean I'm the common denominator here. What the fuck do I do to make sure this doesn't happen again? Did I just come off as the safe guy who'd put up with her bullshit when no one else would? My standards are a lot higher now and next time the BPD makes itself apparent, I'm bailing.
 
Ravier Xavenblood said:
I had to pull the trigger and end it with my ex and the regret and isolation is really starting to set in. Every time I repeat the reasons why in my head, my choice is justified and numerous people have told me the same whenever I talked about it. The sunk cost fallacy is a bitch though. She had multiple red flags and I'd already lowered my standards quite a bit for her.

But now what? I literally have no future plans besides working, shitposting and occasionally doing IRL hobbies where I never fucking meet anyone new. I doubt I'll ever meet anyone to date again because the conditions just aren't fucking there anymore.
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Next time you pull a trigger it needs to be a gun blowing your brains out you faggot
 
Ravier Xavenblood said:
But now what? I literally have no future plans besides working, shitposting and occasionally doing IRL hobbies where I never fucking meet anyone new. I doubt I'll ever meet anyone to date again because the conditions just aren't fucking there anymore.
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Grats, you figured out why people have kids. Easier than a hobby, finding purposeful shit to do in life or to generally care more than simply surviving day to day. I hit it off well with a hoe on a dating app but after 2 weeks I realized "wait, there's nothing here but flirting". We had no worthwhile discussions and only the thought of starting down the path to kids was of any appeal, even though I don't care much for them. Being single for life is fine if you end up going places and seeing shit. Being a secondary parent in some sports club or what have you.

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My life improved drastically when I realized that I am not responsible for other people's wellbeing and it's not even warranted for me to improve their lives. Mind you, I still forget that rule sometimes.
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Oh the amount of stories I've read of a guy who stooped to fix a broken woman who then moved on once her ego was nurtured. I'm sure it's a byproduct of all those armchair therapists who helped a 39 year old through a divorce at 14 in WoW.
 
I've tried dating apps recently and all the local non obese women that like my profile fucking look like this. Needless to say, I ignore their advances now that I know better.
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I think I'm better off meeting women IRL even though I suck at it. But FUCK I HATE HATE HATE being a magnet for these fucking trainwrecks. Why did god curse me so?
 
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