why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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I don't know were i can find Women in reallife. I can't just talk to them on the Streets.
Get a hobby/do sports (not a gym - actual sport/club). Even if you can't meet women you will get fit doing exercise, which is a positive and might get you out. Got a few women in my kickboxing gym to talk to.

ATM its laziness/getting sick. Too lazy to get on the app and keep getting sick so don't go to my hobbies to see/try and meet women.
 
I'm not saying I'd definitely get someone if I tried, but I barely get enough money or hours at work to support myself. I don't think I'm in a good position to pay for even the occasional restaurant date, so right now I'm not even bothering with getting a girlfriend.
 
All of you niggers saying women are difficult to read... It's because they're not really into you.

Not saying this to put anyone down, but to stop men wasting their time.

Trust me, when a woman is actually attracted to you, things are easy. She will let you know it. She will initiate. Of course you still need some game, but every interaction will come with a positive momentum that is completely unmistakable.

Anything else? You're just an orbiter to her.
 
All of you niggers saying women are difficult to read... It's because they're not really into you.

Not saying this to put anyone down, but to stop men wasting their time.

Trust me, when a woman is actually attracted to you, things are easy. She will let you know it. She will initiate. Of course you still need some game, but every interaction will come with a positive momentum that is completely unmistakable.

Anything else? You're just an orbiter to her.
While this is true in the strictest sense, there are millions and millions of men out there who will NEVER be in a position where a woman is sufficiently attracted for things to be "easy" or for her to initiate.

It's akin to advising women "just go out to social spots looking nice until a multi-millionaire walks up and says he wants to buy you lots of nice things". That's probably true for a tiny minority of outrageously attractive women, but it's irrelevant to the 5/10 who lives down the street.
 
I will be as honest as I can: I'm just boring. I just like to read books, play games, watch documentaries on youtube all day, and I'm pretty satisfied with that but know, realistically, very few women would be. I also don't look better than a 5/10 on my BEST day, probably a 3-4 on most days.

My only chance at this point would be to be solid financially. I do well enough there, but not enough to overcome a lot of my shortfalls I would feel. Oh well, I learned to just go with it. The Lord keeps me grounded and I lean on my faith more than anything now.
 
A lot of you fags put yourselves down for no reason. Unless you're some schizophrenic rapist, you're fine. It's just that the places where people met up after their schooling just don't exist anymore. It doesn't help that everything has become only about appearances and not the actual substance of the connection. Dating apps are not an option unless you want to deal with used whores who come and go easy (in which case, why not go to Mexico, Italy or some other foreign country and fuck broads there to make it more memorable).


Shit sucks because people are to insecure to be authentic and put themselves under 10,000 layers of irony because of some gay Internet shit. 15+ years ago, you'd probably wouldn't be single (or at the very least, you wouldn't be so self-loathing for being single) because the Internet/smartphones/social media hadn't encroached on the real world and raped any sense of normality. If you keep on blaming yourself for you being single, you are a gay retard.

Also, being in a relationship isn't a plus in and of itself . Many couples and married people grow to hate each other and their beds become sexless as the years go on because they never had a real connection past the basic sexual one (which you can get with any whore). Don't gaslight yourself into thinking that there's something unfixable about you that is why you are single. It's just bad luck and you should focus on making yourself feel good about yourself by doing shit like exercising and going to the gym, picking up a hobby you like and just enjoying life. Don't do it to impress others. Do it because you like it and makes you happy.
 
While this is true in the strictest sense, there are millions and millions of men out there who will NEVER be in a position where a woman is sufficiently attracted for things to be "easy" or for her to initiate.

It's akin to advising women "just go out to social spots looking nice until a multi-millionaire walks up and says he wants to buy you lots of nice things". That's probably true for a tiny minority of outrageously attractive women, but it's irrelevant to the 5/10 who lives down the street.
If you're not in that position, your time is better spent working on yourself (financially, physically, socially). Then no matter if you get pussy or not in the end, you have still done good things for yourself.

Chasing women who ultimately does not want you is not only a waste of time, but soulcrushing. Stacy who regularly leaves you on read and only responds when you initiate will not suck your dick eventually. She already knows that, only you don't.

Of course you still need to do some hunting, women has to know you exist. You also need to situationmax. That is, find yourself in a situation where you are at your best, and have weaker competition. Put yourself in a favorable social setting, or even go abroad if you're into that.

Not saying any of this is easy. Especially if you have a bad social life to begin with. But it's pretty much the only meaningful approach.
 
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I just opened Tinder/Hinge/Bumble and I'm scared for life. The sheer amounts of Lainey Molnar types are fucking depressing.
 
im just tired of dating apps, every woman on there is the most basic bitch "i heart beer/queso/my dog/helen keller wasn't real/words of affirmation" bullshit i can't stand. i know that dating apps are not how the majority of women actually are but there's zero opportunities where i am to meet "real" women. the few times i do match with someone its a bot account begging for money or some grossly overweight beefgalaxy that i wasn't paying enough attention to when i swiped right. i've been doing gym the past year or so and have noticeably improved my appearance but there will always be the feeling that i'm not good enough for any of them. i don't hate them or feel entitled to sex, i don't even want sex, im just exhausted.
if cwc somehow fathers children before i do i might actually kill myself
 
im just tired of dating apps, every woman on there is the most basic bitch "i heart beer/queso/my dog/helen keller wasn't real/words of affirmation" bullshit i can't stand. i know that dating apps are not how the majority of women actually are but there's zero opportunities where i am to meet "real" women. the few times i do match with someone its a bot account begging for money or some grossly overweight beefgalaxy that i wasn't paying enough attention to when i swiped right. i've been doing gym the past year or so and have noticeably improved my appearance but there will always be the feeling that i'm not good enough for any of them. i don't hate them or feel entitled to sex, i don't even want sex, im just exhausted.
if cwc somehow fathers children before i do i might actually kill myself
I run into OF whores too and the script is always the same. They get you off the platform, lovebomb you with attention then drop their OF link. I’ve reported two profiles for this so far and it gets really tiresome.

It’s not like the few “real” women who message me are much better tbh. I get the odd hamplanet (I myself am not fat, therefore I can reject them.) but even then, I keep running into BPDemons. Just blocked another one last night and now I just dip the moment a girl shows signs of being a psycho bitch. At least I’m more experienced and far better at spotting them than I was a few years ago.
 
im just tired of dating apps, every woman on there is the most basic bitch "i heart beer/queso/my dog/helen keller wasn't real/words of affirmation" bullshit i can't stand. i know that dating apps are not how the majority of women actually are but there's zero opportunities where i am to meet "real" women.
I've matched a few good women in the 2 days they're on Tinder before realizing their loneliness isn't -that- strong. Even then they just end up uninstalling without replying that last time, so even the odd unicorn isn't worth it. I read a thread of people talking about how they found their partner and it was either "early WoW", "early Tinder", or "school". If you don't land a partner during those early years of something new where everyone regardless of creed flocks it, you're done for.

I've honestly not met any OF thots or bots, but I do see a lot of likes from asian women 2500 miles away. The odd time I get the urge and energy to set up a profile, I get 3 matches and 10 likes from tropical-background-dark-skin individuals and I go just go "Oh, so the algoryfm already booted me into low priority". The amount of tricks required to match people from within your own filter is nuts. If you go without using Tinder for a few days, the second swipe will always be a match so you can basically weed them out. Lo behold: asians amass.

Get a hobby/do sports (not a gym - actual sport/club).
Pretending to be into things for the sake of pussy. Truly the move of all times.
 
Pretending to be into things for the sake of pussy. Truly the move of all times.
Yeah, expanding your horizons is a winning move, but it has to come from a sincere place. If you're doing it for a reason other than your own fulfillment, it's basically just a form of deceit. You take up dancing, you meet a woman who enjoys dancing too, fast forward a few years and a wife is wondering, "Why doesn't he want to dance with me? That's what brought us together. It's why we fell in love. Maybe he doesn't love me anymore...no no, that can't be it...can it?"
 
every woman on there is the most basic bitch "i heart beer/queso/my dog/helen keller wasn't real/words of affirmation" bullshit i can't stand

I downloaded Tinder two days ago and no exaggeration, it's all nose abuse via piercings, wine glasses, horrible tattoos and that smile.
 
Yeah, expanding your horizons is a winning move, but it has to come from a sincere place. If you're doing it for a reason other than your own fulfillment, it's basically just a form of deceit. You take up dancing, you meet a woman who enjoys dancing too, fast forward a few years and a wife is wondering, "Why doesn't he want to dance with me? That's what brought us together. It's why we fell in love. Maybe he doesn't love me anymore...no no, that can't be it...can it?"
It's 1000% better to put yourself in ANY place to meet ANYONE. And you'll get so much enjoyment and passion out of it that you forget you wanted pussy to begin with, but even if you befriend a bunch of pensioners and kids and have the time of your life, you now replaced your own previous hobbies, probably organically acquired, with one that other people told you to pursue. "Getting women is so easy bro, just change yourself fundamentally to find the equally fundamentally shallow ones who consider the gym their mecca".

I downloaded Tinder two days ago and no exaggeration, it's all nose abuse via piercings, wine glasses, horrible tattoos and that smile.
Living in the midst of endless amounts of fit, blonde aryan women, I'd much rather that. They're all the same. Surface level, shallow, good looking and inoffensive. The kind your average pajeet would kill for. During covid when everyone went 'international' on Tinder, I saw quite a lot of different people I'd much rather shift through than 20 of the same. I'd still go for a nerdy chick but as time goes on, that's just a catch-all term for aspiring twitch streamers, working onlythots, or those who basically never matured into self-discipline and just eat in place of developing any actual hobbies.
 
It's 1000% better to put yourself in ANY place to meet ANYONE. And you'll get so much enjoyment and passion out of it that you forget you wanted pussy to begin with, but even if you befriend a bunch of pensioners and kids and have the time of your life, you now replaced your own previous hobbies, probably organically acquired, with one that other people told you to pursue. "Getting women is so easy bro, just change yourself fundamentally to find the equally fundamentally shallow ones who consider the gym their mecca".
When I made the initial suggestion of picking up a sport. It was because I wanted to do the sport. The meeting of women came months later, which is why I suggested it. Not the case of "I want to meet women so go do a sport", more "go do sport that interests you and might meet women/their friends". An even if you don't. hopefully it ends up with enjoyment, getting fit, increased social interaction, etc - all that shit.

Better than spinning your wheels going "whuh...what do I do"?
 
Part time caretaker for family when I'm not at work, which drastically cuts into my social opportunities. I also don't make nearly enough to afford to live on my own as well as take care of my family, or to pay someone else to take care of them(nor do I trust "professional" caretakers anyway) and no self respecting woman is gonna go on a date with a dude who still lives at home. I've had people tell me this isn't true, but they're all married to their highschool sweethearts so :story:
 
no self respecting woman is gonna go on a date with a dude who still lives at home.

Bro, its the exact opposite for me. When I was stuck at home due to college loans and because I was an idiot, there wasn't a shortage of women. Now, 10 years later when I have my own property, multiple cars, a decent paying (time consuming) job, it's slim pickin's. I'm lucky to land ONE short term fling a year it seems. It may be that now im not as arrogant and ego driven as I was then. Women really seem to be into that, regardless of what they say.. funny..

Edit- then again, 99% of the women my age have multiple kids and I have none and im not interested in single moms. Also a good number back then also did, but it wasn't as hard to find one who didn't.
 
I will be as honest as I can: I'm just boring. I just like to read books, play games, watch documentaries on youtube all day, and I'm pretty satisfied with that but know, realistically, very few women would be. I also don't look better than a 5/10 on my BEST day, probably a 3-4 on most days.

My only chance at this point would be to be solid financially. I do well enough there, but not enough to overcome a lot of my shortfalls I would feel. Oh well, I learned to just go with it. The Lord keeps me grounded and I lean on my faith more than anything now.
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