Virginity & Society - how virginity effects the social lives of people

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are you a virgin?

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Virginity doesn't mean shit, Way more people are virgins then they're willing to let on and yeah, its understandable why. The pain and humiliation of the first time, pregnancies, std's, sexual assault, forced marriage and how sex means way more about yourself and how society defines you then it did before. Sex is scary shit and orgasms and a heated bodypillow afterwards aren't exactly the best compensation.
The first time will almost always be the worst time, awkward, embarrassing, terrifying, painful, messy and uncomfortable. But usually, it'll only ever go up from there. eventually once you've grown a spine and learned to accept yourself in the situation, you start to enjoy it and toy around with it. At the end of the day, it's yours and someone elses bodies, nothing more or less, you're allowed to enjoy that once in a while and its ok to feel cautious at the drawbacks at having something that could in the long run, cause you some trouble.
If you're scared about the first time, you don't have to be. It would be a lie to say it's a magical experience like in every erotica but it won't ruin your life and it won't break you, it's just parts going places and if you think it's a soulful or spiritual connection to the person you'll lose it to, forget it, you'll just feel let down and embarrassed, probably as much as them.
Get it over with or save it for a rainy day but don't fear it. It's not the end of the world whether you have it or don't have it.
 
I think the stigma surrounding virginity (or lack thereof) seriously complicates and adds stress to something that should come naturally and be fun and enjoyable. When you're a virgin who's getting serious with somebody your focus should be on how to make the sex you're having safe, not what other people will think about you becoming sexually active for the first time.

I've also seen the phenomenon of boys revealing intimate details about their 1st sexual partner in order to brag about losing their v-card, which is a total violation of privacy and almost always has repercussions for the girl. Usually leading to her being called a whore or a slut and shunned to some degree. Which is sad and :autism:.

On a semi-related note, I remember a big debate a couple of years ago about whether lesbians can lose their virginity. Most dudes disagreed because lesbian sex doesn't involve a penis, and the lesbians obviously disagreed with that because sex is sex. What do you guys think?
 
Old Wizard said:
On a semi-related note, I remember a big debate a couple of years ago about whether lesbians can lose their virginity. Most dudes disagreed because lesbian sex doesn't involve a penis, and the lesbians obviously disagreed with that because sex is sex. What do you guys think?
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Sex is sex. If you've had sex, you're not a virgin. It's like that dumb shit with fundie chicks thinking they can take it in the ass and still be virgins, mainly sold to them by fundie dudes wanting to fuck fundie chicks.
 
Philosophy Nong said:
Then you agree it's not as good you idiot. Everybody likes masturbation.
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Of course everybody likes it. Feels good. Great for sleep issues and stress relief.

They both have ups and downs - Sometimes I'd rather just be by myself. We all have those days.

The plus for sex with another person is the romantic and emotional bond, which is beautiful, but sometimes it's great fun to just do it with yourself.
 
Van Darkholme said:
How would this topic come up in a conversation between two (optimally non-autistic) adults anyway?
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No idea.
But it's funny how incels, neets and people whose social life ended with high school basically think that "normies" talk and care only about things like these.

I have some online friends like these. You won't believe the shit they say.
 
Van Darkholme said:
How would this topic come up in a conversation between two (optimally non-autistic) adults anyway?
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A coworker of mine brought it up out of nowhere when introducing himself. The same guy is a thirty-something Asian who once practically had a tantrum when his favourite table to sit at in the canteen had leftover cheese on it just to give that some context.
 
The number of women I've talked to who at least once in their teens/early 20s had some guy friend begging her to sleep with him so he could lose his cursed virginity is depressing to me.

Ladies, is it a common thing in your experience to have had guys just openly whined that they wanted you to be a cumrag so that the chads will stop looking down on them? I guess I'll ask if any guys have gotten it from women too, although I suspect that wouldn't be as frequent.
 
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