I didn't think he was so bad. He's a sad sack loser to be sure. He's been out of work for 6 months (due to a leg injury, but still...doesn't he have a job where he can sit down?). He's an alkie who also appears to be a bad drunk (being an alkie is never good, but if you have to be one, good drunks are far more lovable than bad drunks). He is obsessed with Chantal to the point that he appears to be visibly jealous of Nader, and righteously pissed about how she "lets guys she doesn't even know meet her in the parking lot and get inside her", a point he (insanely) repeated about a dozen times, looking visibly riled each time. He admits he gave her money because he liked the attention she gave him, which was evidently little more than "hiiiii sjam!" in her livestreams. He says he is not gay, but bi-curious (not sayin' anything wrong with that, but I'm an old fart who thinks 'bi-curious' is gay). He's in his thirties but lives with a roommate (again, this isn't a crime, but it also doesn't scream success). He's very wound up about certain Beezers who give him shit.
So, it is safe to say: this guy has got issues.
In his defense, he pointed out that he called her 30 times in one day just once, when she was drunk off her ass (the infamous school shooting stream...I think?). I do recall his posting in Beezer Chat something like "Answer your phone! I have called 30 times!!" While this is pretty crazy, he defends it by saying he wanted to tell her to cool down a little, and make sure she was OK. I think that is a stupid thing to do, but I can kind of imagine the impulse, if he felt they were internet friends and not merely in a star/fan relationship. When Chantal showed his DMs and calls, it looked like he was calling her nonstop for months, but most (80-90%) of those calls were made on this one day. Only a handful of the others were on different days, and it didn't seem like he tried more than once or twice on the other days. This doesn't make him appear sane, but it does mitigate how insane she made him look.
As for his "history" of hanging with fat ladies, he says they are just friends and that he is still friends with them. He met them when he was 16 or 17. He sent them some Canadian money just as a souvenir because it is colorful, and sent some dollar store items for the kid. He claims he is not sexually or romantically interested in Chantal, doesn't like gunt (or 'fupa' as he calls it), and even said (paraphrase) "how can you think I am into her that way? What, you think the bald head does it for me?"
I'm not quite sure I buy the last part; he did seem ruffled when the topic of Nader or her trysts in the parking lot came up. However, his response to that is (paraphrase) "I just can't understand why she'd be friends with such shitheads, but think that I am a crazy stalker" That's somewhat disingenuous of him, but at the same time, I can see his point.
He explains the 8 hour drive by saying that it is really a 5-hour drive, but an additional 3 hours were spent stopping, shopping, and sightseeing. An 8-hour drive in and of itself is not insane; lots of people enjoy long, exploratory drives. Popping in on an out-of-state friend as a surprise isn't even the craziest thing in the world, if you have a friend you know would welcome such a surprise. He claims he misjudged the level of friendship here, and expected she'd find it a fun surprise, but now he realizes they did not have that close of a friendship. That can happen; not everyone is a good judge of how deep their friendships are. It's pretty stupid. But not necessarily evidence of psychotic behavior.
He stuck by his story that he would have been satisfied just to drive by and wave. I also recall him saying this in her chat about two weeks ago, and she responded to it positively. Paraphrasing again, he said something like, "I'll just drive by and wave at you" and she said something like (paraphrase) "that would be so cool" or words to that effect. A normal person would probably confirm whether she really meant that, since it was just part of her usual jibber jabber with her Beezers. But he took it as an official OK.
So, in the final analysis, my verdict is he is not dangerous. He's not really a stalker, and he is unlikely to do her any harm.
I do think he is a true Beezer though, in the sense that he is fairly stupid (he doesn't sound especially educated), he's a drunk who misreads people and obsesses over things, he's lonely and resorts to the internet to find friends, he's got at least a sprinkling of autism in him and can't read cues, he kind of means well but is also a frustrated loser incel. He's emotional and easily wounded. He's fat. And maybe he did have a bit of a crush on Queen Beezer.
So he is kinda nuts, and probably needs AA. Maybe if he sobers up, he'll find some friends, He doesn't seem like a bad guy really. He's probably better than she deserves, anyway.
He reckons he won't give her any more money because he does feel humiliated by her outing him in public, so her refusal to wave just cut her thinning monthly take by a few hundred or so. If I were in her shoes, I woulda waved at the poor dope. Maybe even met him for coffee. Business is business. But I'm not in her shoes.
I can't say I like sjam. But in the cast of Chantal, Nader, DeeDee, Peetz, and Roman, I find him the least detestable. Bits of his story were semi-relatable.
