The regular-degular girlfriend of a FTM winds up in OP's crosshairs for the crime of simply being... openly bisexual? I notice troons 'n' poons can never decide how much they hate bisexuality at any given moment - they are simultaneously the option of last resort, yet any bisexual with boundaries around dating them is somehow more wicked than homosexuals, because they should be
entitled to the bodies of bisexuals. How puzzling!
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I often compare myself to cis men with a di** and seeing her repost them on her private blog triggers my dysphoria. She mostly posts women ( 98% ) so that’s not the issue, I’m just uncomfortable not having a "real" cis di** and I don’t want surgery because I feel good in my body usually, but whenever she mentions stuff when she’s horny, it upsets me that I don’t possess it ( functioning cis male peen ) even though she doesn’t care about gender or genitalia and that I feel okay with my growth downstairs..
We are in a LDR and nevermet yet, so online intimacy is delicate and a huge thing for us. I’ve told her about my dysphoria before in that area and she’s been very comprehensive , but it still affects me and I don't want to seem too insecure 
She also deal with a lot of self esteem and insecurities, I know I am projecting my own desires / lack of onto her, but it doesn't make it hurt less. Does anyone have kind words or just support for me? That would mean a lot
A gay man's based sister seems to have become increasingly militant about her views on transgender people, which doesn't bode well for him because he's started imagining himself as a pretty girl with long hair. Despite the fact that it's still often verboten to speak ill of trannies, he doesn't have a single vertebrae in his spine and needs his mommy to stick up for him, but she doesn't back down. Love that for her!
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Hi...I need to vent/share something that got to me.
For context :
I'm a gay male, although I've been questioning my gender loads for years...so I likely am trans, which is hard enough to deal with internally as a 30 Yr old dealing with these thoughts and fears all alone (to not expose myself, to not hurt others feelings and cause I just don't know tbh what I want to do) and trying to work things out mentally whilst just living... anyways ..
So my sister, who is mostly liberal ..or so I thought, someone who tends to be rational, the other day said something that really shocked me, or better put, made me very uncomfortable, like my face started feeling hot like when your embarrassed and it's now stuck in my head...
So basically I was watching TV and changed the channel to a show with a guy dressed as a woman, for context: he's a gay guy that was playing a female character, anyways she said "change the channel I don't want my son seeing trans people" then went on to say "I'm fascinated by these like gay guys, I'm following this gay group( or channel) on Instagram that apparently features?
Or talks about, guys who transitioned then later de-transitioned , and how there are gay men saying they are against trans, it's a mental illness, and how feminine men should just be feminine men" ... This coming from someone a few years ago who'd watch drag race (meaning guys dressed as girls etc), but anyways,
my sister is a parent and teacher, and she's always seemed to have strong thoughts on trans people, earlier in convo she misheard me saying something like "you can be the first male president " when what I said was "you could be the first female president " this was said to my niece talking about what she wants to be when she grows up...anyways my sister said "please no, I want you to stay a girl" to her...
What was said will likely stay in my mind now, and
my mum (who I also don't feel comfortable talking about this stuff with) saw how visibilly uncomfortable I was, which I played off as making those hand gestures that showing "blah blah" meaning my opiniated sister is going on and on, but it made me uncomfortable, and
my sister then said to my mother "what's your opinion?" And my mother, having seen how uncomfortable I was , said something like "I don't really have anything to say" and my sister was like "so you don't have an opinion?"
for context,
both of them know me to be out as a gay man. My sister went on to say - being trans is a mental disorder, those people are mutilating their bodies, having to take hormones for the rest of their lives is dangerous, and has complications. That she believes it should be mentally treated, but then went on to say "if you are over 18 and you still want to transition, fine, but before then, it should be illegal, doctors should be fired for operating on kids" ...
I really needed to share this with someone, cause, heck it's not good bottling this up and so Reddit is the only place I can vent and ask for views , advice etc, in this case I dunno what to say, it made me a bit mad at my sister internally, but I didn't show that, all I said verbally was
"I strongly disagree, people should do whatever they want cause it's their bodies, only they know how they feel about that, yes it's important to take their time and do lots of research cause it's a serious thing , but it's each person decision, ok fair enough if you aren't an adult yet wait, but what if someone feels so uncomfortable in their body that it becomes a life or death situation for them to have hormones?" For context with me, physically I feel ok in my body, not physically uncomfortable or anything but I don't know if I'd be happier seeing a female one, see there are factors. Sometimes I like taking photos of myself and my appearance, but I'd have loved and preferred being a girl with long hair etc.
To end my post: from what I gathered, mostly the issue for her seemed to be how so many young people detransition later and regret the surgeries.
A retarded man walks into a women's restroom where he doesn't belong and is immediately surprised that people called the cops on him; in the comments, his fellow troons suggest litigious action, but the heyday for supporting hulking Liliths and Alices in women's bathrooms is rapidly passing. (Or at least, I hope.
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If you don’t pass at all like me, do yourself a solid and don’t go into the women’s restroom. Even if you are in a progressive space, people have said it’s ok, and the girls in there are chill with you, you are not safe inside. All it takes is one person who thinks you are a r**ist to call the cops on you.
Save yourself from the pain and just use the bathroom you hate to use because the bathroom that’s right for you is likely not safe if you are not passing.
A self-pitying tranny seeks comfort on Reddit because God did not bestow upon him a clique of handmaidens to turn this toad into a princess, citing that a lack of supportive peers is the reason he fails to stay on his medication regularly and why he's the size of a fucking barge. Most tragically of all, however, is that he can't find himself a proper lesbian to shack up with and has to settle for pansexuals (who are just bisexuals who would consider circuses to be an acceptable speed dating avenue).
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- I feel so left out of the young experience of being a girl. I hear about all the hairstyles and things girls did as kids and it gives me almost the worst dysphoria I've ever felt. Not even my body gives it to me this bad. I just hear about all these girls growing up and going to prom and homecoming and playing with certain toys I was banned from playing with (religious parents). Even into more my age problems i hear about women having the "girly groupchat" or whatever and im never even in the same sentence even though I've been out for years and everyone claims to be supportive.
- I know I dont pass at all. I suck at remembering to take my hormones and I dont have reliable enough friends to help remind me so I forget for weeks cause I get in my head I can only take it on Fridays and If I miss that i gotta wait till next week. I also live in a very very very conservative state and city (trump 2028 kinda conservative) so being out is terrifying cause ive already been heckled plenty and that for just wearing cupped bras under super baggy clothes and I dont wanna find out what happens if I wear a dress in an open carry state with a bunch of rednecks.
- With the not passing I am also a plus size person and my body fat is still distributed in a very masculine way and im to depressed to get myself out of bed and change that and once again dont have reliable enough friends to go with.
- I have friends but no one understands my internal struggle literally everyday. I do have a ftm friend and I literally would have never known unless he told me and I've tried to relate with him with trans things but its just so aggresively different even with how he was raised cause he was able to come out way younger than I was so started treatments way earlier and had accepting family.
- I am gay as fuck. Sure men can be attractive but I could never see myself being with one. I want to find an accepting amazing lesbian and I look at a lot of gay dating sites but all I get told is I should give up and look for a pansexual person which is fine and I have no problem with someone I am dating being pan but with everyone telling me that I'll never be able to find a lesbian becuase they are into women rips my fucking soul out. Like all I've ever seen myself as is a woman with like an expansion pack and when im told I cant find a relationship in what they consider a "traditionally cis lesbian relationship" it fucking hurts and just makes me feel like a guy hitting on lesbians.
I think this really comes down to i need more accepting and validating friends but I love the friends I do have so much and they've been through so much with me.
And to counter it, here's a li'l dood who is downright bereft that she didn't get to enjoy a proper boyhood with snakes and snails and puppoy-dog tails! Whenever I read about TiFs with brothers, the obvious "my parents favored my brother and it gave me a fucked up complex" just leaps out.
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i cant stop crying over how much this pains me
i never got to be a little boy playing with his friends in kindergarten, throwing around sticks like my brother did. i never got to have a dad and go play football or go fishing or whatever with a dad, like my brother did. i never got to go through male puberty and have male hormones do their weird thing, like my brother did. i never got called a son, brother or a boyfriend like my brother did.
my mom never defended me with "boys will be boys", like my brother got defended. i never had a "guy company" and was one of the "bros" like my brother was.
i wish i was a cis guy. that is all. i dont care about money or friends. i dont care whether im attractive or ugly. i dont want anything else. all i ever wanted was to be a normal guy. why do i have to take hormones or change my appearance drastically just to look what i feel like i was supposed to look like in the first place?
i dont know what i ever did to deserve this. i already feel enough of a burden when it comes to my mother because her child is severely depressed, autistic, AND trans. i just wish i was none of it. i wish i was a different person entirely. or i didnt exist and she had another normal child. im just tired aa
Case in point, this girl is
so angry that her brother is simply developing from boyhood to manhood that she straight up ignores him lest she mistreat him for... going through puberty. If you are related to a person of pronoun persuasion, I think you should be entitled to legal compensation, because regardless of their location on the family tree - a mother, a father, siblings, your own kid - they are always really fucking weird.
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Like the title says. Added spoiler cause of heavy feelings and hatred.
I know it's not rational, I know it's not his fault that im trans...But since he hit puberty, everytime I hear/see him i just get so damn angry at myself for NOT having those features and being trans and at HIM for being able to have that. I just feel mocked and like a damn clown. I have felt this exact way before as a child, once I noticed I will be forced into a diffrent puperty.
The thing is, I can't ignore this jealousy and envy to consume my every being. Its getting harder again to wake up or talk because I'm so fucking aware of how much I sound like a girl. I see him and everything, every braincell KNOWS that this should be me, that everything he has is something i should have had.I feel incredibly guilty that im so angry at my brother just because he is cis, and
now im just avoiding to talk to him (like i did when we were younger) because I can't talk about why I'm not talking with him and because I can't trust myself to not be unfair towards him. It's like life mocking me everyday. The worst part is, we look alike, so I KNOW what I would have looked like (hight and body built) if I had been born cis. It's making everything worse again. Like dysphoria wise I wouldn't leave the house if I didn't have to.
I'm avoiding general social interactions again. I just want to be a normal dude like every other on this damn earth. I dont want to hear how bad and stupid it is to feel this way, I just want to let this out somewhere. If anyone has tips how to deal with this, I'll gladly take anything.
Cock of the walk: a TiM is bereft when his Discord pals discount his gender identity on account of keeping his penis, but I feel like the real L here is acting as if anybody on Discord has something worthwhile to say.
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Today I had an argument and I tried to convince him that I'm a woman but it didn't work. I'm not good at words in my native language. He misunderstood me multiple times. I tried to make a thought experiment about putting someone's brain in the machine and asking if they're still that specific gender but that didn't seem to work.
He just putted a weird type of essentialism. He also made a bunch of casual sexist jokes. My friend that's a girl didn't seem to mind but I kinda did.
After her wife outs her to her family by accident, a TiF seems convinced that they'll soon be busting down her door with torches and rifles rather than simply crossing her off of any holiday plans for the foreseeable future. I love this kind of melodramatic post because you'd think troons 'n' poons got mowed down in the streets like feral dogs!
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I'm kidding
but I am absolutely freaking out. I'm pre T, only recently out to my wife and closest friends. Been experimenting safely at home and loving feeling myself, even in short bursts for the first time in over 30 years of my life.
Moved across the country specifically to have this safe space for myself. But, I may have just been outed to family that are extremely dangerous to me. Not on purpose,
just my wife using the incorrect correct pronouns for me to semi-safe family. And they caught on SO swift. Problem is, both are very close to the very NOT safe part of the family that didn't do great knowing their daughter was dating a woman (jokes on them!!!)
I am scared as hell our address has already been leaked to them, and am waiting for the shoe to drop. Probably on my neck. Who knows!I'm trying to joke and stay positive but my hands are shaking. This is terrifying in ways I haven't known since I was a kid.
I don't know if I can defend myself in a strange city. And my wife is so, so sick. Can I protect her, if they come for her?
If any of my brothers and siblings here have any stories, advice, or just jokes while I stare at the walls I'd love to hear it.
Another case in which a MTF is, for some reason, convinced that's about to face the wall: he says he literally has to return to the closet lest his
own father kill him. Given how heavily associated transgenderism is with child predation, I'm not sure why you would ever come out as trans in the modern year.
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and now I have to go back into the closet, and I honestly don't really know what to do.there's a lot that happened to lead up to that moment, but it's safe to say I got into trouble, and had to confess. I said too much beforehand that I couldn't exactly go back, and I just had to come out.
at first, she called me "crazy" and gave me this look that I thought meant she understood me and my feelings, and was just mad at me that I never told her sooner. I'd end up finding out that that wasn't the case at all.
thankfully,
she promised never to tell another soul about me, because she knew the danger of telling others about me being trans were, and she didn't want anything to happen to me. but unfortunately that's where the good news ends.
it's clear to me now that
she really does not understand what being trans was like, uttering the same things as everyone else. saying that being trans is a choice. when she said that, I kinda sat there and thought to myself "god damn I wish it was a choice". when I realized she wouldn't understand me or accept me, I just stopped arguing against her.
I just immediately backpedaled and just agreed to everything she said, as she practically dragged me through the mud like a thousand times.
I feel like I should've expected that, because we were raised in a religious household.
she said things like "you're a man, you'll never be a woman" and that I "have to accept that and be happy with what god gave you". she even said something that made me chuckle a little internally.
so here I am, trans mtf, getting told by this cishet individual that apparently she "knows more about being transgender" than I do, and that I'm being fed lies to drag me away from god.
she has clearly never once spoken to a trans individual (up to this point at least), and I knew she wasn't going to listen.
I just had to backpedal really hard on everything I said to protect my own life.
now, I'm forced to go back into the closet, and just say I'm not trans.
except now I'm in genuine danger, because I also have to hide the fact that I'm still feeling heavy dysphoria over every aspect of my body. so not only do I have to boymode it for the entire time I'm still dependant on my family, but I also have to hide the fact that it fucking hurts.
I was always worried about coming out,
now I know those worries were true. I'm just glad I came out to my sister, and not my dad, because he almost certainly would've genuinely killed me on the spot. or maybe even sent me to a conversion camp if they exist here, which I'm sure they do.
I'm not really sure what to do now. I just made these next few years become some of the worst years of my life, as I have to pretend I'm ok, and put on the mask of "I'm fine",
all while drowning in feelings I can now never reveal, and while sinking into suicidal despair. I may never get my happy ending. I may never live to see the day I live and wear my name, my real name, with pride and without fear. I may never live to see the day I live happily as a woman.
I think I've accepted a long time ago that time may never come.
I don't know how long I'll last before I end up committing. but I know it's not long now. not after this.
Qu'est-ce que c'est?: a tranny on
literal fucking antipsychotics remains obsessed with women simply because they were blessed with the opportunity to be women. Note to all women in his vicinity: good luck!
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Title, I just want to feel normal and I am doing my best to act how I am supposed to be but it just feels wrong from the inside, like I got male haircut, wear normal male clothes, act how an average male is supposed to yet I feel wrong, I long for skirts, dresses, make up... jist being myself but
I know I have to be Punished Venom Snake for few people who love me
A TiF seems to be under the impression that if she objects to jokes about her looking like a butch lesbian, that it'll somehow be the vital key to give up her ruse rather than simply an acknowledgment that she already doesn't pass. Guys do not get constantly accused of being butch lesbians - hope that helps, OP.
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I am stealth at college and I pass (2.5 years on T, and post-op) however I definetly pass as a gay man with a bit of a "flamboyant" attitude. My new friend groups favorite joke is that
I look like a butch lesbian. It REALLY is rubbing me the wrong way but I am scared that if I bring it up It will give me away.
