In 2005 I started medical transition. For the state to recognise this I had to submit to standards of "care" which were humiliating, degrading and which placed me at risk of violence.
I can’t comment on the standards of care, or whether they were humiliating.
I would hazard a guess that this guy thought they were humiliating because it wasn’t exactly what he wanted immediately.
The alleged risk of violence however?
Mild PL, I lived in the UK at that time, in a few different towns and cities.
While not being a troon myself, I was always in social/music scenes which they were drawn to.
The risk of violence as far as I could tell wasn’t especially higher than for any other male who chose to break social norms.
You just use common sense.
Don’t go to areas which the local population might be curious or confused by your attire, unless you have to.
Avoid attention from particular groups of men, I mean football hooligan adjacent lads for instance were likely to make comments on a man in a dress while they were drinking a few beers in a wetherspoons or other low priced pub.
Even then, if you walked away, sure they would laugh, but so what? Why get your head kicked in?
Ignoring them probably would work as 97% of the time if they don’t get a reaction, they get bored and forget about you.
But it would be a stupid fucking move to call them Nazis and that you are a real woman.
These kinds of guys were actually easily avoided if you went to bars they didn’t tend to drink in, or just kept away from where they were in the bar.
Perhaps sexually motivated violence would be an increased risk, as sure, at night a creep out for a woman to rape might not know the difference until too late, but……don’t walk home alone in the dark!
Which is generally good advice for anyone, people still get mugged or fall foul of some twat who wants to beat someone up for their own reasons.
This can happen to anyone.
Granted there were and are people with a screw loose who do want to beat up other people for doing something they don’t like.
But even in the case of football lads, 99% they don’t actually want to beat up a man in a dress, they just want to laugh and have some jollies at someone else’s expense.
The problem is, is if said man in a dress tries to retaliate verbally, the Rules Of Manly Conduct still apply, so the football lad has to rise to the challenge.
And a football lad doesn’t want to look like a ponce scared of some poofter in a dress in front of his mates.
It’s not a case of live like a pussy, it’s a case of avoid unnecessary trouble.
