The post and old acc are deleted, so there's nothing to go continue fighting on.
I had a vent post about my siblings' transphobia on a burner account - specifically how my sister said I should save up and move elsewhere instead of going to the top surgery consult I had planned and invited her to, how
she said Dad's offer to pay for my top surgery should have been used on her instead (fixing her girlfriend's car, getting her a car, and paying off her debts and gap fees), how she criticises the way I apply my T, and
how one of my brothers called me immature etc over pointing out the specific demographic who sent me comments like "you're a freak that wants to r*pe real gay men and force them to like vagina" (it was cis gay men) in response to my first gofundme attempt - and
she responded with paragraphs of lies and misinformation to make me seem like the villain.
Some facts she conveniently left out of her attempted rebuttal of my vent post:
"I have not been against his surgery" my ass.
Telling someone to do XYZ instead of steps towards the surgery IS opposition. Throwing a selfish tantrum over someone else offering to pay for the surgery under the false guise of fairness IS opposition. She has not once been happy about my medical and potential surgical transition.
Never got anything like "congrats" or "hell yeah". Not when I started, not at any milestones, nothing. Just criticism of the way I apply my T and
her saying that I "smell like a guy" which is just weird, not a complement.
"Wildly unfair", the notion that Dad offered to pay for my top surgery. Heaven forbid a father tries to help his son with a medical need. It more describes the constant hell that is dysphoria and her atrocious behaviour and
her idea that her wants are anywhere near equal to my needs. I wouldn't even be getting the money like she implied, the surgeons etc would, and any rebate via Medicare would be given back. If the give back wouldn't be accepted, I'd use the rebate on other peoples' top and bottom surgery funds.
It's a medical need, unless me being constantly suicidal is tolerable to her.
"I paid my way through life since I was 18" Like I'm not charged rent to live with my Dad and stepmother, have to pay for my own meds and transit and credit and bills and groceries and clothes etc. She moved out to live with her friends.
Mum kicked me out halfway through grade 12, and if the brother who became an asshole didn't take me in, I would have been homeless. I turned 18 before I graduated, so her "whole adult life" is a complete lie. I lived there for the rest of that year. After that, I moved in with a different sister's in-laws, who seemed to barely tolerate my existence, accused me of things I didn't do. But sure. Because I live with Dad after I moved out of theirs I'm such a freeloader like she implied /sneed.
She did not need to be included in a hypothetical. It was an IDEA, nothing solid. And if it were - had anything even been given to me - she still wouldn't have had to have been - my dysphoria isn't affecting her, and Dad's inheritence is HIS to do with what he want. Her wants were and are not comparable to my dysphoria. Public transport exists. Tertiary education is a choice. She didn't and doesn't need a car, public transport exists far better in the city than it does out here in the suburbs - and she chose to go into debt over courses she chose. Being trans and having dysphoria aren't choices.
She still got most of what she wanted in the end. Her girlfriend's car is fixed (
not that Dad should be using his inhetitance on someone who isn't his family anyway). She got a car for Christmas, which she has left to rot in our yard, not a peep from her about arranging a pickup like she said at Christmas.
Only her debts that she chose remain. There are fee free TAFE courses for media / stage / that sort of thing.
The car was bought for 15k roughly by his fiance and Dad paid her $3k for it. The window is the only thing wrong with it, the passenger front one doesn't open. It drives just fine. It is 10 years old, nearly 11. I was NEVER quoted 10 to 18k like she tried to say, the cheapest I was quoted was 18 and a half by Dr. Sharp's offices. Up to 22k. So if anyone's understating anything, it's her. Only now, after getting a quote from a surgeon's office that is much harder to get to, is the cost near that (about 15k).
I am actively trying to get a job, I put out 20 resumes on average a week, and hear mainly silence back. I've been rejected by Macca's, Hungry Jacks, Dominos, Pizza Hut, Subway, and recently, Specsavers. The only places that gave me chances were Lifeline, Vinnies, Salvation Army etc. which may or may not look bad to a potential employer apparently?
"I'm grateful for the car" she said, but she's weaponising it and insults it and has abandoned it. It has been sitting in our yard since before Christmas. She talked about arranging a pick up tow away for it. Not once since December has there been any contact from her to arrange a pickup.
She then forced the no-contact. All I wanted was to be removed from the group chat bevause the asshope sibling pair were being assholes. Not the same thing.
And the kicker?
She used to complain that I got gifts on her birthday as a little kid (which is completely fair and not how the adults should have handled it). Hypocrite much?
"
