That seems to be a common pattern. The issue isn't their trans-ness or what have you. It's that they're just jackasses and they're desperately trying to plaster over that glaring flaw with 'I am a marginalized minority, pity me, uwu'.
Pretty much. I feel saddened by the third one I mentioned, because he could be a genuinely decent person when he tried and was a fun roleplayer on top. Dude was diagnosed with the tism, so it took several people shunning him for him to stop being a jackass. Once he went down the non binary hole, he got validation, pity and asspats nonstop so there was no need for him to try to be a decent person. He would whine all day too (about his parents, people on the net, people in our group) and I think going NEET just accelerated his idiocy.
There was also another guy in the group, a DM who had some story with him, they were friends for a long time, had a falling out then befriended each other again, but right after the other dude trooned out he became overly attached to him, they were constantly watching each other's backs all the time and it was REALLY FUCKING CREEPY and eventually the DM became a huge cunt: It wasn't enough for him to keep me out of his games, he bullied and manipulated other DMa into not letting me join.
For a long time I blamed the tranny poisoning the well but who the fuck knows, all it takes is one friend, classmate or coworker to push someone into idpol insanity. A shame, he ended up pushing good players away.
Typing out all of this made me think on how I haven't had to deal with constant drama in my games in nearly a year. Getting kicked from that group and making a new one with the people who aren't massive hysteric douchebags was the best thing to have happened to me, the closest thing I have had to deal with was a player making a snide remark about another character getting too much stuff but that was it, no crying, no having a dm or player try to mediate so the group won't implode, we just reunite each week to play and have fun.
Sidenote: I also found out not all transexuals are insuferable hysterical cunts who will try to ruin your life over an argument. Guess I have the transtrender stereotype deeply ingrained in my mind since those are mostly who I had to deal with.