Anybody else in line to assume with their dim-witted mind the context of what I initially shared?
We are all in charge of our decisions. Having empathy for their scenarios does not mean that I agree entirely with how they are choosing to navigate their own ADULT lives.
The first two (nig and dumbledore) get a sticker for trying, but this game of telephone interpretation is revealing some of the thread posters to be operating with limited (low) cognitive capacity.
It is Sunday after all. Make sure you take a shit on something to relieve yourself in preparation for your hated occupations.
I get that some of you are upset (including Tarl) that I for the most, part held a civil discussion with most of the exes.
It is beyond some of your capacity to understand that breaking from the victim mindset involves RECLAIMING your voice.
I don't think people are misunderstanding what you're saying, I think they're rejecting it out of hand. You're saying it's acceptable, normal, even laudable to trauma-dump on everyone who will sit still for even a minute to listen, because they've had bad experiences in life and been gaslit and intimidated by a twinkie gay pirate like Styx.
What I'm trying to convey to you is that trauma-dumping on everyone within range is NOT acceptable, normal, or laudable. If one needs to trauma-dump, that's why the mental health profession exists, that's why there are support groups, that's why we have family and friends. A doxing and comedy forum is NOT the place to trauma-dump all your woes, especially the ones that have NOTHING to do with the subject at hand.
Normal people run like hell when others start trauma-dumping and won't stop, because it's an aberrant behavior that makes people uncomfortable, eventually leads to WAY too much information, and is frequently one-sided. Go ahead and try to tell Sam YOUR problems, and set a timer to how long it takes for her to turn the conversation back to HER plights. There's a certain narcissism involved with trauma-dumping. See MY sorrows. Tell me that I didn't deserve it. Tell me that I'M right and MY ABUSER is the wrong one. Believe all my stories even when they don't make sense and hang on every word because I'M THE VICTIM. Nobody has ever had it as bad as I have. And so on.
The only time trauma-dumping is valid and laudable is if you're volunteering at a rape crisis or DV shelter. Even then, you're not supposed to make it about YOU, you're supposed to give the person seeking your help some fucking hope that they can get through it and still live a decent life in the future. You can't foster hope by being a Debbie Downer that's crying all the time and talking down to everyone else.
You're also assuming that nobody posting on this thread has suffered from trauma on the same level or worse. That is a wrong assumption. I assume that some of the posters here have had traumas just as bad or even worse. They just have the common sense and self-esteem to not talk about it HERE, on Kiwi Farms, a website, where one is more likely to get laughed at than get sympathy, commiseration or help. They tell it to somebody irl who gives a shit. But they do it PRIVATELY.
