Motherhood & Parenting Thread - AKA: Why is my daughter eating my chapstick?

[Castoreum]

What REALLY sucks is when they start growing up more and want basically nothing to do with you.

Ah yeah. Everyone says this but idk. Most ppl I know love talking to their parents in adulthood and say nice things about their parents. Except for a few...

If you mean teens, preteens... well, I don't really mind that and expect it. Who is out here expecting obedient and polite teens haha. My Boomer neighbor said to me, "Enjoy it while it lasts cuz then they get sassy." And I am like... well, that's ok that means they're developing properly and testing boundaries.

Idk I feel like I am enjoying her to the fullest. It's the not sleeping thing and having no one to talk to I don't enjoy. I love doing childish activities like coloring with crayons and watching cartoons. Things like that...

Are you mobile and able to deal with toddler?
Man that sucks. Can anyone come round and help you? This is what grannies live for btw. If you have a competent MIL and mum, let them help

I'm kinda mobile. Thinking about getting a claw grabber to pick up laundry off the floor and out of the dryer...

My mom is not well and my MIL lives halfway across the country taking care of her daughter's newborn. This was a huge factor of why it took so long for me to decide to have a child. I didn't think I'd have any help. But I believe in the future and want to participate. That's why I had a kid. I think it will be worth all the trouble.

The injury is minor so it will be hard but I think I can do it. Just gotta stay as positive as I can.

Toddler is in the watching the same movie over and over phase so it shouldn't be too hard to keep her happy. She also just started being able to eat sandwiches, so that makes my life a lot easier hahaha.

 

[Otterly]

Toddler is in the watching the same movie over and over phase so it shouldn't be too hard to keep her happy.

Ok, time to roll out all the toddler distraction activities then. I remember giving mine a colander and a pack of straws and watching them poke the straws into the holes in the colander for hours while I attempted to nap alongside in the playpen…

 

[Common Krait]

Are you mobile and able to deal with toddler?
Man that sucks. Can anyone come round and help you? This is what grannies live for btw. If you have a competent MIL and mum, let them help

Yeah grandma's LIVE for this. I always felt bad about asking my mom to watch the kids but trust me. They WANT to. They live for it. Snuggling grand babies and spoiling them is the best day ever. My sister just became a grandmother and she can't get enough of her granddaughter. Neither can I as a great aunt. I swear that baby hasn't touched the floor yet. Lol.

Ah yeah. Everyone says this but idk. Most ppl I know love talking to their parents in adulthood and say nice things about their parents. Except for a few...

Ah yeah. Everyone says this but idk. Most ppl I know love talking to their parents in adulthood and say nice things about their parents. Except for a few...

If you mean teens, preteens... well, I don't really mind that and expect it. Who is out here expecting obedient and polite teens haha. My Boomer neighbor said to me, "Enjoy it while it lasts cuz then they get sassy." And I am like... well, that's ok that means they're developing properly and testing boundaries.

Idk I feel like I am enjoying her to the fullest. It's the not sleeping thing and having no one to talk to I don't enjoy. I love doing childish activities like coloring with crayons and watching cartoons. Things like that...


I'm kinda mobile. Thinking about getting a claw grabber to pick up laundry off the floor and out of the dryer...

My mom is not well and my MIL lives halfway across the country taking care of her daughter's newborn. This was a huge factor of why it took so long for me to decide to have a child. I didn't think I'd have any help. But I believe in the future and want to participate. That's why I had a kid. I think it will be worth all the trouble.

The injury is minor so it will be hard but I think I can do it. Just gotta stay as positive as I can.

Toddler is in the watching the same movie over and over phase so it shouldn't be too hard to keep her happy. She also just started being able to eat sandwiches, so that makes my life a lot easier hahaha.

Kids always, ALWAYS come back home. Maybe not to live. They do go through a phase where they want to be left alone. But it's a bitter sweet thing. You get the sleep you need but they keep to themselves. But everyone comes home eventually. I'm 43 and my mom is my best friend. I can tell her anything, even embarrassing stuff.

My husband and I raised our daughter with almost no help. We didn't plan on it, we just sort of ended up far away. I wish you had more help especially with your foot.

May i recommend 101 Dalmatians? It's got 99 puppies in it.

 

[Castoreum]

My husband and I raised our daughter with almost no help. We didn't plan on it, we just sort of ended up far away. I wish you had more help especially with your foot.

Do you have just one child? I think if I tried for another in these circumstances I'd explode into a cloud of dust.

I went to the ortho today. Doc said it's minor, that I can put some weight on it, but still use crutches. Should be ok in 6 weeks. So that's good!

My daughter is fixated entirely on Kiki's Delivery Service rn. I think we've watched it 12 times already in the last few days. Haha.

 

[Otterly]

Do you have just one child? I think if I tried for another in these circumstances I'd explode into a cloud of dust.

Ironically the point mine got way easier was when I had my second old enough to play properly with my first. You have to get through the challenge of ‘pregnant with toddler’ and ‘baby and toddler’ first but it’s undeniable that having more than one makes it easier in some ways. They play with each other and leave you alone for a bit.

 

[Common Krait]

Do you have just one child? I think if I tried for another in these circumstances I'd explode into a cloud of dust.

I went to the ortho today. Doc said it's minor, that I can put some weight on it, but still use crutches. Should be ok in 6 weeks. So that's good!

My daughter is fixated entirely on Kiki's Delivery Service rn. I think we've watched it 12 times already in the last few days. Haha.

we just had the one. I almost died during pregnancy and while giving birth. Having more just wasn't in the cards for us.

Don't ever introduce Puppy Dog Pals. That show is such spectacular shit. It's almost impressive how bad it really is.

I'm glad you can get up and get around a bit!

 

[Rich Evans Simp]

Ok, time to roll out all the toddler distraction activities then. I remember giving mine a colander and a pack of straws and watching them poke the straws into the holes in the colander for hours while I attempted to nap alongside in the playpen…

Yep, this and empty that one cabinet with all the mismatched Tupperware. Fill some up with water and a few drops of food coloring and let them go wild contained in the kitchen.

Bury some seashells in a thing of dried beans or lentils for an archeological dig.

Have your husband gift wrap some random shit and let the baby rip up the paper and tape.

When you get desperate, don’t worry about the cleanup, it will take someone a few minutes to mop and vacuum.

 

[Otterly]

A winter one: If you live anywhere cold, get the baby bath and fill it with snow. Put some food colouring in it (but if you do be aware it might get onto surfaces around) and bury a load of small toys. Give them a shovel and then go get a cup of tea as they dig.

you can also seal some acrylic paint in a ziploc bag and tape it to the highchair table and let them push the paint around mess free.

No bake play dough (only for ages you know they won’t eat it, but it’s salty as so they tend not to.)
1 1/2 cups of plain flour
1/2 cup of salt
2 tablespoons of cream of tartar
2 tablespoons of coconut oil (or vegetable oil)
1 cup of boiling water
Food Colouring
Mix it all up and knead it until it’s right. Will keep in the fridge for ages in a bag.

 

[Castoreum]

My foot is feeling 90% better. Finally. Ty for the advices.

I'm also about two years pp and I finally feel like my brain is going back to normal. I thought I had legit brain damage for a while there.

 

[CaseyTatumm]

Ok, time to roll out all the toddler distraction activities then. I remember giving mine a colander and a pack of straws and watching them poke the straws into the holes in the colander for hours while I attempted to nap alongside in the playpen…

This is brilliant. We do a lot of random stuff here, I dumped a bunch of dry beans in an empty water bottle and was like “hey make it sound like rain”, they were entertained for a good 20 minutes. I make a lot of little sensory bins too, ngl it’s probably more fun for me to put them together than it is to play with them but it’s a good way to keep them entertained and screen free.

So yesterday, my youngest had a meltdown about washing his hair. It’s always a battle but obviously needs to get done. Well to “show me” he flushed his underwear down the toilet. Fortunately it didn’t clog but wtf son.

 

[mikomikonurse]

Well to “show me” he flushed his underwear down the toilet. Fortunately it didn’t clog but wtf son.

Lmaoo my son flushed a rubber duckie down the toilet. We had to get a whole new toilet.

 

[CrackPipeCowboy]

My wife and I have been struggling with our daughter having sensitivity to dairy. She cut it out of her diet and now the little one doesn't hurt as bad. I've heard this is common, but I'm not sure how long it'll last, or if it'll be permanent. What other sensitivity issues should we look out for? I guess we just wait and see?

Edit: Sorry, I'm not a mom, but my wife doesn't browse the Farms and probably never will. Acting as a proxy.

 

[CaseyTatumm]

Lmaoo my son flushed a rubber duckie down the toilet. We had to get a whole new toilet.

Noooo!!!! I’m honestly shocked the underwear went down without issue

My wife and I have been struggling with our daughter having sensitivity to dairy. She cut it out of her diet and now the little one doesn't hurt as bad. I've heard this is common, but I'm not sure how long it'll last, or if it'll be permanent. What other sensitivity issues should we look out for? I guess we just wait and see?

Edit: Sorry, I'm not a mom, but my wife doesn't browse the Farms and probably never will. Acting as a proxy.

One of mine had a dairy sensitivity as an infant and younger toddler. It was awful, just constant grunting and fussing. She’s grade school aged now and actually has zero issues with dairy!

 

[Brett DeLawyer]

having sensitivity to dairy

One of mine had CMPA and it was a nightmare. Tried to cut dairy out of my diet— nothing was ever enough. So, so many things have added dairy, casein and derivatives. Ended up having to switch to a fancy (expensive) non-dairy formula. When we added solids, every ingredient needed to be scrutinized, because so many of those little jar/pouch purées have sneaked yoghurt in. Ended up having to make a lot of it myself.

Bub grew out of it. Took a bit, maybe til one and a half, but still grew out of it. Seems fairly rare that they don’t. There’s hope!

 

[Otterly]

Well to “show me” he flushed his underwear down the toilet. Fortunately it didn’t clog but wtf son.

This made me laugh. One of mine once screeched so loudly during hair wash time as a toddler that I had to go and shut the bathroom window and hope nobody heard and would think I was beating him. I am just washing his hair not waterboarding him…
Have you tried the following?
1. A UFO hat
2. Get them to lie down in the bath, put your hand under their head and kinda ‘float’ them so their hair is half in then scoosh the rest with a cup. Give them a small dry towel so they know they can always dry their eyes.
3. If they’re really struggling, make the bath deeper and wrap them in a towel in the bath (yes the towel will be wet.) for some reason this calms them. Obviously you have to be right next to them the whole time as being wrapped up in the bath is hazardous. Do at own risk.
Hair washing and nail trimming is often a big trigger for slightly sensitive kids. And cats (the towel tip was given to me by a vet.) I’d like to say they grow out of it but there’s only a brief window of ‘I love baths’ before tweenhood where you have to march them I to the shower and lock them in there until they’re at least passably clean.