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- May 23, 2020
I think on some level, a lot of gay relationships are something like just extremely close friendships. With the men I’ve been with the focus was never on sex. So you have this interesting dynamic where guys generally have some interesting shit they bring to the table and in this generation, a lot of that can involve computers. especially in a way that doesn’t usually apply to women. So the dynamic between two dudes can get Pretty autistic as both of them bring in what are usually male-centric hobbies that can get pretty autistic.Without being too 'tism, I feel the implication here is that you go into a new relationship expecting friendship before anything sexual, while the reverse is true for most straights. Hence why their reaction to a friend being gay is "omg dont fuck me"
I also wanted to ask other gay guys about this: I’m in my twenties and in my generation being gay was about masculinity. It was about being macho. A lot of stuff focused on buff guys and bears. I talked to a guy around 18-19’and everything seemed to now be about femininity. it seems like the younger generations have done a hard shift away from what’s generally considered to be the cornerstones of homosexuality, a lot of which was the rejection of femininity.
Everyone my age I’ve talked to has noticed this but I was wondering what you guys think and if you’ve noticed the same thing. there’s also a lot more bisexuality and one might get the sense that there’s a lot of people who aren’t really even gay, or just denying it or finding ways to go, “it’s not gay! They’re feminine! It’s a femboy!”