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When to the doctor today, they told me I need blood work done because I never got any my whole life. Also, they shat themselfs and did nothing as they do. That's why I avoid seeing them unless I'm sick.
 
Well... that was interesting.

I swear, it's stuff like this that makes me feel there's a guiding hand. Feeling lonely as usual, but trying my best, I decide to head on my scooter up the street to Goodwill before they close. I've found a lot good stuff before closing time. Nothing worth noting beyond a slight orange T-shirt. Eh, I already have one and I prefer darker shades of orange bordering on red, so I leave. Rather than just go home, I decide to check out the Family Dollar in the same shopping center. I need more spices for my salsa and that's where I get them, and I get them from more than one. I already got one at another one earlier. I go in and check but don't need to stock up yet, but a light up sign with letters catches my eye. Small so it can't be that expensive so I decide to ask the girl working the register to scan it for me to see.

Man, then I got a good look at her. Super cute. Small, long dark hair, glasses, definitely friendly and nerdy. I love love love these types of girls. The real types. The shy but passionate types. She's helping another guy out and is kind of awkward about it but playful. A girl who doesn't take herself too seriously or maybe just is naturally like that despite it.

Man, that resonates with me, because I'm the same way. I'm pretty passionate when switched on, online, but very timid most of the time online. My own awkwardness or just the feeling of being a bother; I smile involuntarily at all times too to the point of embarrassment, so she's very friendly when she rings it up and of course I'm going to buy it. And sure enough, she's wearing a T-shirt of the exact same color of the Goodwill shirt I was just checking it out. I kinda wish I had bought it just to further cement my "in", but it was enough, so I commented on how I liked it (I should've brought up that I almost bought one just then) (It seemed like one of her own personal shirts than something official), and I said I liked the orange and of course she laughed but said "Oh, it's red", and luckily, I was wearing my favorite red jacket and that was my in; I could talk about red and color coating it all night so I just started to sound off with things like "Oh no, trust me there's a fiiiiine difference between reds! I ought to know!" Which only brought her to more laughter. And I kept going with past stories of getting that perfect shade, other things from my mother thinking you can't match, etc. I even went a step further and just complimented her hair, that I did genuinely like (dark and straight and down over her face), stating how I wished I could do that, but my hair just naturally spikes like Goku's and is anything but soft; her highly receptive and amused the entire time, and I at least got her name of "Mariah" from her tag during it too. I fished for a little more information about closing hours to see if I could gauge when she might be back again and the like, before ended it by giving her my name and reaching to shake her hand and just say "Nice talking to you, next time I see you, we can do it again."

I'm not the playboy type who just hits on women and gets their digits in the first encounter. I need something genuine, not forced. But man, that was instant chemistry. I know her type, that was all genuine. And I like her look.... I'm almost mad that I feel like I should've cemented it, because knowing my luck, I won't EVER see her again. That's my life. If you can't fucking STAND someone, you will never be able to get rid of them, but these kind of people you want to run into again, never again.

Fuck it, I have do it next time. I'm going to drive by again tomorrow and if she's there, I'll buy something again and do it. I know chemistry when I see it and she's totally my type. I also don't just 'switch on' like that for just anybody either. I clearly need and want this, especially one local if I can. Granted, I'm just being optimistic at this point, but if I can cement contact, I can build up whatever is actually there into what it becomes.

Just happened. Less than 20 minutes ago. I love it when great things just happen like this.

Should I wear all red for next I see her or that same orange shade of shirt? Hmm...
 
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Dammit, I should just go back right now. It's barely 8:30 and they close at 10. SHE'LL be there. Just go say "Thanks for reminding me I had time! Turns out I needed these after all!" with those spices and then do it; ask for more.

If I lave this for another day, I'll never get another chance.


Aaaugh, can I do this?! Will it be too forced? :stress:

Jump in head first, you might get hurt... but it's all worth it in the end... that damn song I've had in my head for seemingly no reason lately. I'm going to regret it if I don't. What have I got to lose? Nowhere to go but up. This didn't exist an hour ago.
 
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My day was good. I saw a cardinal and he was gorgeous, played with dog, spent time with cat (although he didn't give me much choice), and I spent some time reading which is a nice change. I actually did a decent French lesson tonight so my day wasn't completely unproductive.


Vous Vous voulez de fromage?

Oui, je vas mange le fromage dan le lis

Mais, un souris dans le chambre

Oui le souris mange le fromage dan mes lis avec moi

 
So I decided to stop taking the drug I was prescribed for anxiety and sleep since I’m no longer as messed up as I was when I got it. It usually knocks me out within the hour and I ended up not being able to sleep without it.

The first night it took me 6 h to fall asleep. The next night it was easier but still took 2+ hours. By day 3 I no longer felt like I was carrying around a brick in my head and I’ve actually had a very productive week.

I managed to go for a couple a walks and was surprised how well it went, considering I’ve been melted into my couch for the past 2 months. Before then I used to go to the gym 2-3 times/week so my goal for next week is to get my ass over there again.

I also really want to quit my SSRI that I successfully stopped taking this summer, but had to start taking again out of desperation. I have a baby dose but the side effects are a fucking bitch. Once I get some natural endorphins going from my workouts I’ll start weaning off them again.

tLdR: It went well!!

I also deleted all doom scrolling short form content apps on my phone this week which has left pushed me to try to think of other things to do instead. I’ve started doing my skincare routine again, managed to paint my toenails for the first time in like 3 years (lol) and started working on some crafting projects. Overall, very good week!
Great job! Doctors are typically really poor about advising people on this process, and people are even poorer about actually doing the things they should do!

When you get back to more exercise, I bet you will find it helps with sleep quality immensely, too.


If anything, not getting the cane if you truly need it and start to have consistent blunders may cause people to isolate from you because "he's a clumsy/dumb/stubborn asshole." Or worse, you could hurt yourself or someone really bad when walking around town.

Would it help to make it situation dependent? Like you accept you need it for roads, but not babysitting? Then just take each situation as a separate thing? It might help to displace the feeling onto a situation rather than ‘you as a whole.

That is its own thing to sort out, but sometimes separating pragmatic decisions/ options from underlying emotionally charged thoughts can help put things in the correct boxes.


Thanks everybody again for your words. I have been thinking about it all day and spoke with an old time friend. Yes I have had a few bad misunderstandings in the last few years.
I conceded to my friend that I would try a cane out if I ever went on a big adventurous trip again, to mitigate the issues I had. He called me retarded. It is unfortunately true that I haven't really gone grocery shopping by myself in years because it became unmanageable at some point. And I can't go anywhere at all if it's dark because it's terrifying to cross a road or find my way.
I worry a lot about image and sincerity, but it is pretty ridiculous to say "Well I'll accommodate myself on vacation, but I refuse to do what it takes to navigate the Walmart."


I still think my family will have horrible reactions of disappointment and actively encourage me to hide it from them but 1) I can hide it from my family and still use it, they aren't omnipresent and 2) I already hide a lot of the bad situations I've been in from them.


I think too much about the potential downsides of this option or the other. But do I consider the realized downsides of my current way of living? I fret about the possible bad effects of alternative options without actually comparing them to the current bad effects of my current option. I could almost feel myself growing a 2nd brain cell.

If I just have one good experience, I will probably open my mind up a little bit. It is hard to "be curious" but I really would do whatever it takes to be able to attend events after dark, hang out and do things without all the anxiety that kicks in around 3pm when I desperately need to know how I'm getting home. If a cane improves my situation there, I'll use it. I have really limited myself career-wise in the last few years because of this sort of thing, and I also was ignoring that aspect. A cane actually makes you act less blind and retarded. It can't make me more blind or retarded than I already am. People's perceptions are something unrelated.


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Dammit, I should just go back right now. It's barely 8:30 and they close at 10. SHE'LL be there. Just go say "Thanks for reminding me I had time! Turns out I needed these after all!" with those spices and then do it; ask for more.

If I lave this for another day, I'll never get another chance.


Aaaugh, can I do this?! Will it be too forced? :stress:

Jump in head first, you might get hurt... but it's all worth it in the end... that damn song I've had in my head for seemingly no reason lately. I'm going to regret it if I don't. What have I got to lose? Nowhere to go but up. This didn't exist an hour ago.
you should go for it...seriously, there is scarcely anything worse than realizing that you didnt take a chance that was given. if it is all for nothing? at least you tried.
 
Everything is going wrong at once.
My Mom has pneumonia, my bank keeps denying payment to one of my hobby sites and when I called to ask wtf they assured me that it was fixed but it's not. My student finance is blocked because the bank statement I sent was too recent to prove I live in my country. They have accepted proof of my disability but not the proof that I'm on long-term sick.
 
Yesterday I was informed by my tard wrangler that I'm being reduced from two 1 hour visits a week to just the one.
Fuck having a personality disorder, nothing gets better and no one can or wants to help you unless you're self-harming or otherwise reacting in a destructive way that targets others.
And I'm coming down with a cold, timed right for when I have to dogsit for my parents.
Just fucking put a bullet through my forehead or MAID me, I clearly can't be fixed.
 
Jesus, the hag at work is something else. In a matter of 4 days she went from yelling to "woe is me UwU smoll bean" behavior. Which on one hand means she's gotten more reasonable in her corrections and "reminders" towards me, but the other she's already glazing up the returning maternity-leave coworker as if I'm some kind of incapable retard.

Either way: We split up our shared tasks and she got to keep her mail inbox, meaning no more checking my every little god damn word and me not stressing over servicing people. Which I'm good at, but even these hoes got me questioning myself. Imagine washing your hands with soap and every time someone goes "With soap? Uhh okay lol". Eventually you'll start questioning it.

I won't get fired, and after these 3 days, I ain't seeing the hag for 2 weeks. Hopefully there'll be one big bomb relatively soon and then it mellows out. It seems like she wants to drown me in mundane project work but hell, rather that than be scrutinized constantly.
Aaaugh, can I do this?! Will it be too forced? :stress:
You deserve that triangle.
 
Totally unnecessary update: I have been prescribed Paxlovid, and now my mouth tastes like oily nickels. My sanity is being tested, buckaroos 🤠
Five days later I am FINALLY FREE. Dehydrated because everything tasted like pure garbage and it was hard to even gulp down water, but now... Regular ol' H2O has never tasted so good. *yawn*
 
I've been losing a lot of hair lately. It started a couple of months ago and hasn't stopped. I've had short hair my whole life, and about three years ago I decided to simply let it grow. Everything was fine until recently, when it started falling out everywhere. Now, every time I brush it, I end up with a huge hair ball.

I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
 
I've been losing a lot of hair lately. It started a couple of months ago and hasn't stopped. I've had short hair my whole life, and about three years ago I decided to simply let it grow. Everything was fine until recently, when it started falling out everywhere. Now, every time I brush it, I end up with a huge hair ball.

I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
Got any family history of balding? Or maybe it's stress related?
 
I've been losing a lot of hair lately. It started a couple of months ago and hasn't stopped. I've had short hair my whole life, and about three years ago I decided to simply let it grow. Everything was fine until recently, when it started falling out everywhere. Now, every time I brush it, I end up with a huge hair ball.

I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
Switch out your shampoo and conditioner. If you're losing hair due to stress, fix that (easier said than done but you know). You could change your diet, if you eat poorly.
You might be on a drug that causes you to lose hair, like I know some ozempic/semaglutide users lose hair regardless of whether it's for weight loss or because they are diabetic.
You could also get a scalp analysis at a hair clinic that offers them. Finasteride is also an option, but I don't have any experience with that, sorry.
 
Got any family history of balding? Or maybe it's stress related?
It's hard to say, I don't know many relatives, but it varies among those I do know. Some of the men have a bald patch on the crown of their head, others have a full head of hair. Some of the women say they lose a lot of hair, others don't.

I got the short end of the stick, I guess.

Switch out your shampoo and conditioner. If you're losing hair due to stress, fix that (easier said than done but you know). You could change your diet, if you eat poorly.
You might be on a drug that causes you to lose hair, like I know some ozempic/semaglutide users lose hair regardless of whether it's for weight loss or because they are diabetic.
You could also get a scalp analysis at a hair clinic that offers them. Finasteride is also an option, but I don't have any experience with that, sorry.
I already changed both shampoo and conditioner, hopefully that helps. I've also been trying to change my diet, eating less junk food, less soda, less alcohol and more fruit, vegetables and water.

I'm not on any drugs so I know that's not the issue.

I'll probably end up trying to find professional help if nothing else works.

As for stress... Well, I've had some issues with my boss because she doesn't like me doing other people's jobs. She gets mad if I sit when there's nothing to do, and she also gets mad when I do too much. I genuinely don't understand her.
 
I've been losing a lot of hair lately. It started a couple of months ago and hasn't stopped. I've had short hair my whole life, and about three years ago I decided to simply let it grow. Everything was fine until recently, when it started falling out everywhere. Now, every time I brush it, I end up with a huge hair ball.

I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
Male or female?
Rough age?
If you’re male, sorry I have no advice.
If you’re female;
- get your iron levels checked. Your hair will not grow if you are anaemic past a point.
- are you eating enough protein and decent food in general? A large caloric deficit can make hair fall, as can nutritional deficiencies.
- are you possibly having some kind of hormonal change? Perimenopause can do this.
- are you stressed?
So check food, iron, eat a multivitamin. Collagen and biotin don’t hurt. If you’re vegan, stop that. If you’re vegetarian, make sure there’s enough egg/cheese/dairy type stuff to give you enough protein,
And then there are a few things you can do. Rosemary oil works really well. Put five or so drops in your shampoo when it’s in your hand just before you put it in your head. Work well into scalp, let it sit for five mins then rinse. It’ll take about three months to see a real difference but rosemary is a DHT blocker and it does help if DHT is the issue.
 
It's hard to say, I don't know many relatives, but it varies among those I do know. Some of the men have a bald patch on the crown of their head, others have a full head of hair. Some of the women say they lose a lot of hair, others don't.

I got the short end of the stick, I guess.


I already changed both shampoo and conditioner, hopefully that helps. I've also been trying to change my diet, eating less junk food, less soda, less alcohol and more fruit, vegetables and water.

I'm not on any drugs so I know that's not the issue.

I'll probably end up trying to find professional help if nothing else works.

As for stress... Well, I've had some issues with my boss because she doesn't like me doing other people's jobs. She gets mad if I sit when there's nothing to do, and she also gets mad when I do too much. I genuinely don't understand her.
The only thing that doesn't destroy my hair completely has been using baby shampoo and not using conditioner and doing that once a week.
 
I've been losing a lot of hair lately. It started a couple of months ago and hasn't stopped. I've had short hair my whole life, and about three years ago I decided to simply let it grow. Everything was fine until recently, when it started falling out everywhere. Now, every time I brush it, I end up with a huge hair ball.

I need to start taking better care of my hair, but I'm not sure where to start.
I have long hair

You "lose" hair because you don't brush often (i do too). They tangle and break. Long hair is an awful lot of work, i don't take too much care of mine but i should, despite that i enjoy my rabit feral look

Also avoid sleeping with your hair wet and tying it too tight, this cause hair loss too. And eat healthier, it strengthens the hair
 
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