How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Meat Target]

The good: Christmas was wonderful, hanging out with the Meat Clan. I also decluttered my kitchen cabinets and plan on using all this free time to get a head start on Spring cleaning.

The not-so-good: no dice on the job hunt. It's disheartening to keep getting "we're going in another direction" emails.

Meeting with some gov-sponsored headhunter/career coach type-deal tomorrow. Hopefully they'll give me something better to work with than "get on Indeed and throw shit at the wall till something sticks".

That said, I do not miss my former job one bit. I'm eating and sleeping better, getting more exercise, saving money, and overall reorganizing my life for the better. It's amazing what you can do when you're no longer in the wagecage.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Well, hello, January.

Gearing up to lay down some tough love at home. My 20-something is behaving like a teenager, and there are two options here.

Lurching back into work, already behind, supposedly handing off my old job but no clarity on who's picking it up so guess who is still doing it - I think I will be taking charge of driving that change pronto bc it's fucking up a more important project with my name on it. Going to be a long day.

And in the back of my mind I'm formulating my 2026 goals / objectives/ intentions. Change is needed. I spent my time off at the end of the year fretting and avoiding, but that's over.

 

[long waters]

She really did. I'm not gonna divulge DMs but we had some pretty long talks [...]

i didnt know she got kicked off either...she seemed really nice. she actually messaged me [...]

Huh, I actually hadn't noticed she had been yeeted either. Rip, although not all that surprising.

By the way, how do people actually start engaging in DMs? I don't mean just on KF I mean in general. It always seems to me like I'm being a bother and I find it really hard to talk to people even online. I swear it feels like everyone else just came with a manual for this kind of stuff and I'm just sitting here all clueless. I'm missing some kind of communications handshake protocol specifications.

 

[obsdj]

she actually messaged me

That person messaged me as well and I offered the best advice I could. That person was not interested in getting help. That person well-deserved the red strikethrough. That person was a liability to KF.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Huh, I actually hadn't noticed she had been yeeted either. Rip, although not all that surprising.

By the way, how do people actually start engaging in DMs? I don't mean just on KF I mean in general. It always seems to me like I'm being a bother and I find it really hard to talk to people even online. I swear it feels like everyone else just came with a manual for this kind of stuff and I'm just sitting here all clueless. I'm missing some kind of communications handshake protocol specifications.

You just reach out and send a note - nothing magic to it. Usually for if you have a specific question (or want to say thanks, or continue a discussion) that's a bit too specific or personal for/ beyond a thread topic.

People may get up to a lot of things in DMs, but mostly it's just a way to discuss things or send a comment not necessarily of general interest.

 

[marvlouslie]

Had to put the doggo down today. 12 years. It sucks, but she was declining pretty rapidly. I'm gonna be okay, but it just sucks, man.

 

[PetiteFeet]

By the way, how do people actually start engaging in DMs? I don't mean just on KF I mean in general. It always seems to me like I'm being a bother and I find it really hard to talk to people even online. I swear it feels like everyone else just came with a manual for this kind of stuff and I'm just sitting here all clueless. I'm missing some kind of communications handshake protocol specifications.

Honestly? It depends. I don't mind if people DM me at random, regardless of the topic but I personally have a hard time DM'ing someone unless it's something that I feel a need to personally show that I care (as much as an anonymous stranger on the internet can care, anyway) or it's a topic that interests me.

Had to put the doggo down today. 12 years. It sucks, but she was declining pretty rapidly. I'm gonna be okay, but it just sucks, man.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Once they start declining it's really the humane thing to do, even if it hurts like a bastard.

 

[BlueMoonstone]

Had to put the doggo down today. 12 years. It sucks, but she was declining pretty rapidly. I'm gonna be okay, but it just sucks, man.

I’m sorry dude. Losing animals never seems to get easier even when they are in elder years. Just take comfort in knowing you gave her a great life

 

[marvlouslie]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Once they start declining it's really the humane thing to do, even if it hurts like a bastard.

Yeah. I didn't want her to be in any more pain than she already was. Hearing her weak little bark was enough to make my decision. Doc took one look at her and pretty much agreed with my assessment.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

First day of work after my break. It was...it existed. Management was MIA so it was basically me and all the 19-20 year olds and one senior worker.

It left me with a huge feeling of dread. Being a newbie, I sort of feel like a lost little lamb.

I also found out very quickly that I do not like small talk with my coworkers. They are decent enough people, but it's hard for me not to feel restless in their presence. I suppose it's some of my complexes working overtime, plus a bad case of self-critique.

On a mildly amusing note, they were talking about their hype for a new season of this trashy reality show that's super popular over here and in other Nordic countries, and I couldn't help but grimace on the inside because it is one of the most vapid bullshit shows ever produced. Them talking about it reminded me of how I only watched half a season of it years back to have something to talk about with my classmates when I was like 15 or something, but I couldn't stand it then either. Wondered if it was because my interests were too niche. Oh well!

I suppose an apt comparison for it is...idk, Love Island for retarded Scandinavians since it's also on some island with a bunch of retarded but legally aged zoomers getting into petty drama and having drunk sex between parties.

Now, people can like whatever they like so it's not like I have an issue with people liking it. I just had a weird flashback moment.

Edit: caught up with the thread for reals, and I had no idea lingering butter taste had DM'd so many people. She DM'd me too and we talked a little and I advised her as best as I could to get therapy and keep living after assuring her that Null wasn't planning to go Chris Hansen on her. She seemed like a nice enough person but had some serious issues.

I mean so do I, just not POCD but ssshhhhhh

I hope she's doing better all things considered.

 

[BlueMoonstone]

Yeah. I didn't want her to be in any more pain than she already was. Hearing her weak little bark was enough to make my decision. Doc took one look at her and pretty much agreed with my assessment.

Similar happened with one of my animals, they were a rodent though, (I know it’s not the same as a dog to many and I don’t expect others to feel the same, but to me all my animals mean the world to me. I rescue/adopt various exotics locally)

One was eldery, he was being treated successfully for kidney issues but then it turned out he had a PT tumour. Which is terminal so I had to let him go as he was declining.

My animals are my world, Every time one passes on abit of me seems to go with them. Some of the species I rescue have a lifespan of 2-3 years, whereas others can live 20+. I always think I’m going to prepared for them passing on but I end up crying like a little bitch during goodbyes

(I will stop sperging about animals now)

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Similar happened with one of my animals, they were a rodent though, (I know it’s not the same as a dog to many and I don’t expect others to feel the same, but to me all my animals mean the world to me. I rescue/adopt various exotics locally)

One was eldery, he was being treated successfully for kidney issues but then it turned out he had a PT tumour. Which is terminal so I had to let him go as he was declining.

My animals are my world, Every time one passes on abit of me seems to go with them. Some of the species I rescue have a lifespan of 2-3 years, whereas others can live 20+. I always think I’m going to prepared for them passing on but I end up crying like a little bitch during goodbyes

(I will stop sperging about animals now)

I am still so broken about losing my dog a few years ago I still can't look at his picture.

 

[marvlouslie]

Thanks for the thoughts and well wishes fellas. Might not mean much to some folks, but it does mean something.

 

[Betonhaus]

We installed the bidet my partner got for Christmas and I still don't know what I feel about it. It also varies depending on if the cold water tap is pumping outside water or backflow from the hot water heater so sometimes it's like jamming an icicle up your anus and other times its like someone is going hard on that spot with their tongue.

 

[The Feline Solution 2]

How many people do you talk to everyday sans the work, grocery store or the Internet?

If you don't count Whatsapp voice messages it is a grand total of one, my girlfriend. I see my friends way to little, mostly because they all got families and obligations they have to fulfill on the daily. I am also a total homebody and we all live in different parts of the city, i have to travel via public transit for at least an hour to visist any of them and, of course, vice versa. This has been a thing long before my current back issues floored me. If you count Whatsapp voice messages we shoot the shit all day long, in an intermittent fashion. We all know each other long enough so that not having met in person for sometimes very long periods of time is not a detriment to our friendship. I think it is like that for many people in their 30s these days. I'm glad i can hear these niggas voices on the daily at least despite the distance.

It really was this damn phone.

The truth most of us are just too scared of to admit.

 

[marvlouslie]

We installed the bidet my partner got for Christmas and I still don't know what I feel about it. It also varies depending on if the cold water tap is pumping outside water or backflow from the hot water heater so sometimes it's like jamming an icicle up your anus and other times its like someone is going hard on that spot with their tongue.

I swear I've never used one of those things. That's just ...it's too weird for me.

 

[Banquet Meal]

Huh, I actually hadn't noticed she had been yeeted either. Rip, although not all that surprising.

By the way, how do people actually start engaging in DMs? I don't mean just on KF I mean in general. It always seems to me like I'm being a bother and I find it really hard to talk to people even online. I swear it feels like everyone else just came with a manual for this kind of stuff and I'm just sitting here all clueless. I'm missing some kind of communications handshake protocol specifications.

im too shy to do it myself, but people have messaged me with random questions, mostly. which i dont mind at all, i love to talk, but i too worry about being a bother

 

[The Feline Solution 2]

By the way, how do people actually start engaging in DMs? I don't mean just on KF I mean in general.

Can only speak for KF because i don't use any other platform to talk to anons online: On my old account i got randomly messaged by some users i engaged with in threads and eventually i got added to some of the more popular DM chains, which was kind of fun for a while but then i noticed way too many people in there take KF way too seruiously and i left all of them eventually. Time difference also made it kind of hard to communicate with non-euro users (the majority on KF) in a way that would make DM chains worthwhile to me over time. Never messaged anyone myself i think, i usually write on peoples profiles instead. Deactivating views on your profile shouldn't be a thing, too many people on here who i wanted to write something nice regarding their pfp or posts they made only to be greeted by "This faggot limits who can view their profile". Or wanting to call someone a retarded nigger and be greeted by the same message.

Surprisingly i never got "hate mail" on here, not even from the couple of users who i've intentionally pissed off in one thread or the other (apart from the one really ass mad message on my profile by yet another @Inafune Fanfiction sock). Compared to my short-lived time on reddit, where my inbox was filled with disparaging posts from other users on the daily, KF users tend to be very civil in that regard.

Edit: Forgot to add i deactivated my DMs on this account shortly after i registered again.

 

[long waters]

How many people do you talk to everyday sans the work, grocery store or the Internet?

Are you asking someone in particular?
Either way, for me the answer is Zero. Has been so for a really long time. After university, most of my friends from there moved to other countries and that was that. I do visit my parents about every week and I see some cousins a few times a year.

I swear I've never used one of those things. That's just ...it's too weird for me.

Used one at a fancy hotel once. It was nice, would consider getting one but I'd have to renovate the bathroom and I'm done with renovating anything in the next few years. Instead I just take a shower every time after doing the sneedful.

 

[AnOminous]

I swear I've never used one of those things. That's just ...it's too weird for me.

What's weird about not having shit all over you?