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Scratch This Nut said:
Like her whole situation was 100% avoidable.
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Heart Mob is making it worse by giving users bad advice

last time I dug around I didn't see this info so its new

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Step Four: Limit What You Share
One way of reducing your risk of doxing is to restrict what you share online. For example, do not mention details about where you live or where you like to hang out (and don’t tag a location that you’re in or post pictures that allow people to identify your location). Also, be careful about posting information that can be used to figure out your security question answers such as the name of a childhood pet or your maiden name.
What kind of dox prevension website doesn't say 'dont use one username for everything'


Step Five: Taking Action
If someone is attacking you online, take action. According to Take Back the Tech!, many people do nothing because they think they are overreacting. We want to be clear: you are absolutely not overreacting. Being harassed online can be scary, emotional, and draining. Action doesn’t have to be taken alone; reach out to people at any time to tell them what you need and how they can help. Here are some more great tips, and keep in mind that many of these things can be done on HeartMob:

  • Report the abuse to the platform you are being harassed on. Use our Social Media Safety Guides to find out where you can report harassment. After you’ve reported to the individual platform, document the response and reaction of that platform.
  • Save copies of all communication. Even though the immediate desire might be to delete the communication and try to forget about it, record-keeping is crucial. If you are receiving harassing messages or comments take screenshots and put them on a flashdrive or external hard drive. You'll need electronic copies, as the coding that accompanies all cyber communications is the only way to verify authenticity. After taking screenshots you can also put them on HeartMob; we’ll hold them for you until you decide what you’d like to do. Better yet, put them on a flashdrive and on HeartMob.
  • Unpublish abusive posts, but don't delete them. After taking screenshots of abusive messages, posts, and comments, don’t delete them. These are part of the evidence that you may want to provide to the police, the social media platform, or the internet provider should you choose to report the harassment. Even if you choose not to report the harassment now, keeping records can be a good idea in case you change your mind later on, especially if the harassment escalates. Unpublishing or hiding them will make it so that you don’t have to see them on a regular basis.
  • Block trolls. If you own a blog or website and someone posts harassing comments continuously, you can block them using an ‘IP address block’. Blog providers like WordPress offer installable widgets, or check with your website provider. If you’re being harassed on social media, take a look at our Social Media Safety Guides for how to block trolls on an individual social media platform. Here is some information about group blocking such as Block Together on Twitter. Keep in mind, though, that if you block trolls you won’t be able to see if it escalates so feel free to ask a friend to track what the trolls are saying.
  • Contact the stalker's ISP. If you are being harassed on your own website or blog, you can contact the harasser's Internet Service Provider (ISP). Here is a quick guide for how to do this. Most ISPs prohibit using their service for abusive purposes. An ISP can often intervene by directly contacting the stalker or closing the account. Document this contact.
  • Ask a friend to moderate abusive comments. If you are being bombarded by trolls, save your energy for what is important and have trusted friends moderate or screenshot the crap. Or publish your case on HeartMob and let our lovely HeartMobbers help!
  • Go to the authorities. While we understand that this is not the best choice for everyone, more people being harassed online are choosing to go to the authorities, which has led to changes in legislation. If the harassment involves hate groups, threats of death or bodily harm and/or public postings of your location or contact information, you should consider contacting law enforcement right away. The more evidence you have collected, the faster they can act. Keep in mind, the law isn’t always as helpful as we’d like it to be and in some cases, can increase the level of trauma you’re feeling. Much of law enforcement is still unsure what online harassment is so be prepared to explain concepts such as doxing and trolling. If you need a hand, check out our Legal Guide.
  • Inform the people that you trust. Getting harassed online can be scary but you shouldn’t have to go through it alone. Keep the people in your life informed of the harassment and if it escalates. You’ll feel more supported and you’ll have people to call if you want backup with the authorities who’ll already understand the situation.
  • Inform your employer if necessary. If you think this person may harass you in the workplace or if they’ve published where you work, it's important to notify your employer. Your boss will be more likely to back you up if they later receive communication from the stalker, and they may be able to mitigate professional damage and providing evidence. Here’s a great resource from Take Back the Tech! on how to talk to employers (about halfway down the page).
  • Clean up the damage. If your internet searches reveal that the harasser published information about you begin clean up the damage. Take a look at the Crash Override page on doxing as well as this ComputerWorld article on removing your personal information. Some other key steps are:
If you need help finding out what different social media’s current privacy policies are or where to find them, check out our Social Media Safety Guides or this link from Take Back the Tech!

Your Reaction, Your Choice
When experiencing online harassment, you get to decide how you want to react and remember, there’s no right or wrong answer here. What works for one person won’t work for another and what worked against one harasser might not work against another. Pick the tactic that feels best for you and know that HeartMob is here to support you.

Here are some great tactics for dealing with harassment from Take Back the Tech!:

  1. Ignore them. We know that this is easier said than done. Sometimes it seems like the best thing that you can do is fight back and respond to every message or comment telling the trolls that they’re wrong or trying to clarify a point that you made. While studies show that responding to harassers can help reduce trauma, we understand that this can be exhausting and it’s okay for you to say it’s not worth it. You don’t have to engage if you don’t want to or if it’s becoming overwhelming. It’s perfectly okay to step away and ignore the trolls.
  2. Report them. Using our Social Media Safety Guides, find the place to report the harassing messages or comments directly to the platform. Google, Twitter, Facebook, Reddit, etc. need to know that you are being harassed in order to help.
  3. Expose them. You don’t have to hide from your harassers. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can reclaim your social media by turning the lens onto the harassers instead of having them focus on you. Take a screenshot of your harassment and re-post it with the narrative that you want to be told. Your harassers should be held responsible for the things that they write.
  4. Engage them. If you feel like you need to have your voice heard, feel free to engage with the trolls. Remember, though, the point isn’t to fight fire with fire but instead to fight fire with water. If someone says something mean, don’t just say something mean back, this will only lead to a cycle of meanness. Instead, try and explain why you wrote what you did, why it matters to you, why you think it should matter to others. Feel free to bring outside research into an argument, having concrete information can help your argument.
  5. Seek support. You can receive support from individuals such as your friends and family, but there are also many supportive organizations that you can turn to in addition to HeartMob. Seeking support and telling your story to a trusted person who understands your experience can be a great way to help reduce some of the trauma associated with this experience.
  6. Go anonymous. Sometimes it can be hard to say what you want online because of the fear of harassment. If you are not using a professional account, you can use a pseudonym. You can also attach a different email than your regular one to your social media account. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
  7. Stay online if you can. It can be great to take a short break from the internet if you are feeling overwhelmed by harassment but the best thing you can do, ultimately, is to get back online. You should not have to adjust your behavior; the people on the other side of the computer should have to and they won’t if everyone backs down. At the end of the day remember, they are the ones hiding behind usernames and avatars (and probably a few fake profiles) in order to scare you. They are trolls, you are brilliant.
Ultimately, you are in control of this and you get to decide what spaces you want to interact in. Remember, online harassment is never your fault and HeartMob is here to support you, for whatever you need!
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Expose them. You don’t have to hide from your harassers. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can reclaim your social media by turning the lens onto the harassers instead of having them focus on you. Take a screenshot of your harassment and re-post it with the narrative that you want to be told. Your harassers should be held responsible for the things that they write.
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Oh god even the facebook page is gold

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Not too long ago, the main issue with "cyberbullying" was "WAT IZ IT DOING TO OUR KIDS". It was about kids. Children.

However, the only "victims" I see here are grown-ass adults who should really know better, but spent their childhoods getting trophies on "Everyone Gets A Trophy Day."

Children have more sense than this. The ones who actually grew up during the height of the internet know better than to make themselves low-hanging fruit, or to sign up shitty apps that FUCKING DOX YOU.
 
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I think this ribbon is more appropriate
 
The amount of dox you need to give these people is insane

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They need direct access to your facebook

Why would you hand these people your lives if they're just gonna post that shit on the front page?
 
Heart mob is a subsidiary of Hollaback. They have this curious page about message templates

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Tweets
You don’t deserve this harassment. If you want extra support, you can reach out to @theheartmob.

It’s really unfair that you’re going through this. If you want, you can document & report harassment & get support on @theheartmob.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Just so you know, on @theheartmob you can document harassment and get support from others.

It’s awful that you’re being harassed like this. Help is out there if you need it – check out @theheartmob for support.

What can I do to best support you? Also, @theheartmob is a good resource to get support in documenting and reporting it.

Email
I’m so sorry you’re being harassed online. I wanted to reach out and let you know that I’m here for you and to let you know about HeartMob, a community that supports people being harassed online. You can share your story and get help documenting and reporting the harassment, and other users can also send you supportive messages.

You can invite your friends to sign up to help you, or you can get support from the community of volunteers that’s already on the platform. If you want to keep your story private, you can just use HeartMob as a secure place to document the harassment. There are also lots of resources on the website that you might find useful, like social media safety guides, self-care resources, and lists of supportive organizations.

Of course, only you know what’s best for you, and there’s no wrong way to deal with this. Just wanted to check in and let you know that if you need it, HeartMob’s got your back, and so do I.

Facebook Message / Twitter Direct Message
You can use the same text as above on Twitter and Facebook, but you can’t use hyperlinks. Here’s the same text with the links built in.

I’m so sorry you’re being harassed online. I wanted to reach out and let you know that I’m here for you and to let you know about HeartMob (www.iheartmob.org), a community that supports people being harassed online. You can share your story and get help documenting and reporting the harassment, and other users can also send you supportive messages.

You can invite your friends to sign up to help you, or you can get support from the community of volunteers that’s already on the platform. If you want to keep your story private, you can just use HeartMob as a secure place to document the harassment. There are also lots of resources on the website that you might find useful, like social media safety guides (www.iheartmob.org/resources/safety_guides), self-care resources (www.iheartmob.org/resources/self_care), and lists of supportive organizations (www.iheartmob.org/resources/supportive_organizations).

Of course, only you know what’s best for you, and there’s no wrong way to deal with this. Just wanted to check in and let you know that if you need it, HeartMob’s got your back, and so do I.

Randall Fragg said:
Holy shit, this is an actual thing? I thought it was a scam for tumblrbux.
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Its more of a grift

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Ass Manager 3000 said:
Here are some great tactics for dealing with harassment from Take Back the Tech!:

  1. Ignore them. We know that this is easier said than done. Sometimes it seems like the best thing that you can do is fight back and respond to every message or comment telling the trolls that they’re wrong or trying to clarify a point that you made. While studies show that responding to harassers can help reduce trauma, we understand that this can be exhausting and it’s okay for you to say it’s not worth it. You don’t have to engage if you don’t want to or if it’s becoming overwhelming. It’s perfectly okay to step away and ignore the trolls.
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Engage them. If you feel like you need to have your voice heard, feel free to engage with the trolls. Remember, though, the point isn’t to fight fire with fire but instead to fight fire with water. If someone says something mean, don’t just say something mean back, this will only lead to a cycle of meanness. Instead, try and explain why you wrote what you did, why it matters to you, why you think it should matter to others. Feel free to bring outside research into an argument, having concrete information can help your argument.​
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Holy shit what the fuck I can't even
 
They encourage you to dox yourself and allow them access to all your social media accounts to fight cyberbullying? Are we sure this isn't an elaborate Chan prank?
 
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