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That's okay -- I love Scarlett's gowns. (That movie is cringey as fuck even for non SJWs, but the costumes make me drool)
Oh, I love her blog! And she's right on about #IfMenHadPeriods.

As for that Sam dude, since he likes to do vanity searches:
You know, Sam, (since you're probably reading this) I don't think anyone is making fun of being triggered by media, per se. Just the idea of it being Disney. If it were something like The Accused*, I doubt anyone would find fault with it. The idea is just so absurd. And while one major rule on this place is no power-leveling (aka talking about personal shit), I've dealt with depression and anxiety. But one of the things I've found that helps is making fun of yourself. If you can't laugh at yourself, like, "oh Jesus, this is seriously insane, isn't it?", then nothing's gonna change. If there's one thing I cannot stand, if there's one thing I absolutely HATE, it's a person who can't laugh at themselves. It might not make it better, or that you're not taking it seriously. But it might make things a little less tense.
And here's another thing I learned. Never put anything on the internet that you don't want anyone to know, or comment on. That's just common sense. And people are gonna make fun of you. You know what? Fuck 'em. Do you know them? Are they your friends? If not, then fuck 'em. People make fun of me, and I learned not to give a shit. And sometimes people don't even mean the things they say, they're just looking for a reaction. It's like when you and your siblings used to play "I'm Not Touching You" in the back of the car.
I do hope you're going through therapy and that things work out. I don't know what happened to you as a kid, but I hope you get it sorted out. I may be a mean gossipy bitch, but I don't really wish people ill unless they've done something really horrible. Or root for the wrong sports teams.
(Oh, and finally, if you didn't like Disney's version of "Hunchback", you might wanna avoid the original.)








*That's the movie where Jodi Foster is gang-raped in a bar. A lot of people are uncomfortable with it, even those who don't have any kind of trauma in their past.
 
The_Truth said:
WTF

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You want people to drive vehicles into crowds? Because this is how you get people to drive vehicles into crowds!
 
I got abused as fuck as a kid, I'll spare the gory details so as not to powerlevel, but that's not how PTSD works, at all. It's having your fight or flight dial maxed out all the time. By "triggers" people with actual PTSD mean the stimuli that jacks them up. For example, the sound of a door being opened unexpectedly makes my heartrate spike, because my broke brain associates the sound with someone coming to ruin my shit. That's a trigger. It's stressful and uncomfortable. But it does not make me curl up in a sobbing ball on the floor and require Stephen Universe to be consoled. Imagine being the audience in a horror movie. Some fucker jumps at the screen and the annoying REEEEEEE noise stabs your ears and you jump in your seat. That's what a triggering feels like, but it happens from something that's innocuous to most people. The thing is, I and everyone I've met with PTSD deal with it. I don't have signs all over my house, 'Do not open doors.' I don't lecture people on how they should behave around me. It's my problem to live with, not everyone else's problem to accommodate me.

Also, I've never met anybody who has a concept as a trigger. Like, saying "rape" around a rape victim. The word "rape" isn't what their brain associated with the trauma. It's going to be a sight or sound or something emotional. The smell of the attacker's breath, the wallpaper on the house they were in, something like that. That's why I'm automatically calling bullshit on anyone who claims that they were triggered by an abstract concept like gaslighting.
 
The_Truth said:
WTF

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So I was watching IT last night (great film) and I was thinking of how the new spin on pennywise worked so well because of uncanny valley, the clown doesnt quite pass as okay when you're interacting in him even when he's trying to play nice. Their's just something a little....off which will alway make you feel uncomfortable.
The more I think on people who 'challange' the gender binary by dressing really really badly without considering what works visually the more it becomes clear that subconciously they're never going to be excepted because they just look off. The human mind knows you look stupid even if you have the right to do so.
What I'm bassically saying is they really need to stop dressing like jules and vincent post car wash in pulp fiction or an evil clown.
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Also the guy on the far right-are you a really really good looking woman or prettyboy androngenous type? Since the answer is no loose that cut and get something which works.
 
Mrs Paul said:
I've heard that veterans often have huge issues with fireworks, because the noises trigger flashbacks.
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I had to deal with a woman who was set off by small cars after being trapped in one for 15 hours with what was left of the other passenger after a pile up.

The fact she was willing to get in a car at all was quite impressive.
 
Emperor Julian said:
The more I think on people who 'challange' the gender binary by dressing really really badly without considering what works visually the more it becomes clear that subconciously they're never going to be excepted because they just look off. The human mind knows you look stupid even if you have the right to do so.
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This is a good point. And if they're playing fair, they'll admit that other people accepting and tolerating them is not the same as people loving them, celebrating them, or wanting to fuck them.

Being legitimately trans sounds like it's a really shitty deal. Even if you get past the horror of feeling like you're in the wrong body all the time - who the fuck can even comprehend that concept without experiencing it? I certainly can't - then the next step is dealing with other people feeling weird around you, not knowing how to treat you, and a lot of them just not going to be attracted to you when you're trying to date or have relationships just because their brains perceive something a little off when they look at you. And that's not just the people who hate you, that includes all of the people who believe you are valid and equal and deserve respect and want to like you and you still have to deal with it with them.

Shit sucks, man. I wish everything could be easy for everybody but it just ain't. But the one thing we can all choose is to not believe we are owed more than everyone else, no matter how we're born.
 
I know a trans woman from another board who told me she once got shit for wearing a suit and heels, because it was too "cis-het normative", or something like that. Christ.

I'll freely admit to making fun of ANYONE who dresses badly. I see these people and I just want to take them shopping. PJ pants are for sitting around the house watching TV, NOT going out in public. And Ed Hardy should be brought up on charges for crimes against humanity.
 
Mrs Paul said:
I know a trans woman from another board who told me she once got shit for wearing a suit and heels, because it was too "cis-het normative", or something like that. Christ
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It's like the goth kids on South Park who say to be truly non-conformist you have to dress and act and smoke and drink coffee at Perkins at 3am exactly the same way they do.
 
Alec Benson Leary said:
This is a good point. And if they're playing fair, they'll admit that other people accepting and tolerating them is not the same as people loving them, celebrating them, or wanting to fuck them.
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Sometimes it seems like all of the modern LGBTQABBQWTF has a problem with this concept.
 
Sam Dylan Finch continues on her hurtful bully tirade against us. And now she wants to "BAN ALL DISNEY MOVIES BECAUSE I SAID SO"?! Don't take away my "Zootopia" DVD! :'(

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I don't think anyone thinks she wants to ban Disney films so much as they think she's a wiener for talking about how she was triggered by a Disney film.
 
Hey Sam, as long as we’re looking things up in the dictionary, here’s one for you: crybully.

You use your claim of C-PTSD as a rhetorical “I win” button to demand other people do what you want, or to shower you with love in exchange for nothing. Your relationship with your partner, as presented in your article, is incredibly one-sided. All you talk about is what they can do for you, and strongly implied in your writing is that a failure to do so means that they don’t really love you. That’s not love, it’s a codependent relationship with a narcissist and their enabler. And when they leave you—when, not if, because narcissists inevitably bleed their partners dry—you will once again claim to be the victim, and they were the one at fault all along.

Being diagnosed with C-PTSD was the best thing that ever happened to you, because now nothing you do is your fault, and you’re not responsible for your actions. We don’t hate you because you’re trans or feminist. We don't even hate you because you use your problems as emotional blackmail to demand the world cater to you, and when you don’t get what you want, you throw a tantrum.

We just think it's funny.
 
I tried Googling Sam's name, and this thread didn't turn up until page 8, and that's after all the extra attention drawn to here. How vain do you have to be to google yourself and look that deep?

On the other hand, it does show he's got a paper trail a mile long. All the usual things that fill up your SJW bingo card: Tumblr, Patreon, xoJane... He's even co-authored a book on Amazon with Zinnia.
 
neverendingmidi said:
Sometimes it seems like all of the modern LGBTQABBQWTF has a problem with this concept.
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It only seems like it because the genderqueer/trans/nonbinary folks who make themselves visible, demand the most attention, and throw the biggest public tantrums are out there on the lunatic fringe.

Most trans people are just trying to get through each day while suffering as little public humiliation and facing as little potential for violence and discrimination as possible. They're trying hard to pass--and not as the most ferociously, intentionally ugly versions of their gender possible.

Most genuinely genderqueer/nonbinary folks employ a lot of different coping mechanisms for handling their own issues with gender that don't involve demanding that everyone acknowledge them as such, or even telling other people about it at all. They know they're weird, and trying to explain their particular variety of gender trouble to people who don't understand ends up being exhausting, and (far too often) unproductive. So you just won't see them, because they don't dress or act in ways that draw notice.
 
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