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- Oct 13, 2014
Connor you've made it clear you hate adoption for a long time now. This isn't anything new. You seem to have this inexplicably negative predisposition towards it. Why? As others have pointed out, some people for whatever reasons are incapable of having children. Whether they be gay/lesbian couples, people who are infertile and thus unable to have children, or maybe they just want to love and take care of a child who was abandoned by their real parents.
The fact that you do not see an exception to your belief that "Adoption is all bad for reasons because I say so!" means you probably had some kind of negative experience during your childhood that made you feel that adoption is an exclusively negative experience for the child and involves some kind of ulterior motive with the adoptive parents. If you want to talk about that experience, I'll lend an ear.
LITTLE-KNOWN FACT: I was here in the first few pages of the thread and I made some posts on his adoption fixation and the reasons he's against it. I do remember he wrote on WP a few times that he suspects he's adopted and being intensely worried about it. Spergy speculating (spergulating?), Connor feels out of place in his family for angsty teen reasons, and that led him to fantasize about him discovering he's actually adopted and going Gene Hunting and finding his Real Parents and that fixing all his troubles and anxieties. So now on some level he blames his unhappiness on adoption and his parents having estranged him from his "real family", although it doesn't make much sense on the surface.
On another note, this is nitpicking but I think "real parents" is bad wording for one's biological parents. Bio parents are not your real parents, more like sperm and egg donors. The people who teach their child how to ride a bike, send them off to school, spend a huge portion of their time caring for the kid's welfare, instill the child with their values, and overall are their sole caretakers are much more parents than the couple who happened to conceive and give birth to a child that they couldn't or didn't want to take care of. I suppose in countries with open adoption biological parents play a role, but they still aren't as involved in the child's development as the adoptive parents.
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