Are you good with confrontation? - How can I improve my confrontational skills?

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mister meaner

mister meaner

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Tmi but if I get in IRL confrontation I go fight or flight and lose my way with words a lil. I told some obese half-indigenous Karen at the store the other week that she was making an idiot of herself for yelling and swearing at a child employee, and then she started berating me instead. I should’ve said nothing, but I felt bad for this very young girl being screamed at by this fat raging hamplanet having worked retail in my youth.

Anyway I was mostly in shock of this hamplanet so I just calmly and firmly repeated to not yell at children while she delivered some unhinged rant about “being a CEO” and “being disrespected”. My heart was beating pretty quick but I kept my cool. Any tips for managing confrontation?
 
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I used to be pretty quiet and meek. I finally got tired of being a doormat and having people take advantage of my then-passive nature, and started being more assertive.

You don’t need to roar and beat your chest to make your point, that just makes you look like a lowbrow retard incapable of using their words. Start small. For me, it was learning how to say no to things I didn’t want to do or take part in. Don’t be a dick about it, but be firm and be honest if they ask why. Most sane people will accept it, those that chimp out just reveal themselves as people you want no part of in your life anyway.

Treat people the way they treat you. If someone is polite and respectful to me, even if we disagree on something, I’ll mirror that behavior and even if we walk away agreeing to disagree, we at least handled it like adults. If I’m dealing with a rude, overgrown baby in an adult body, I won’t throw a tantrum like they’re doing, but I will make it known I’m not putting up with their shit. Short, curt replies, not acknowledging them unless necessary etc

It’s a learning process but you’ll feel much better about yourself
 
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Yes, sort of. I've mentioned elsewhere that I can't stand being around people I hate, so in that sense, no. But in terms of having to have a talk with someone, yes. I had a time once when a friend was being very rude and taking me for granted. I eventually took him aside and explained to him, calmly and friendly, why I wasn't going to keep helping him, but no harangue or anything like that. Made it clear it wouldn't be a problem later. He shook my hand.

Then, I suspect, went on to slander to me to all our coworkers.
 
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Be insufferably calm and polite is how I handle things because looking at it from a third person who are you going to side with? The insane ape screaming or the person politely telling them to quiet down? Plus not giving that person an option to escalate means theyll run out of steam eventually anyway.
 
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