The is it rape by deception or not discourse this thread brought out has some interesting points from both sides.
True if you are sticking your dick in a random gloryhole at a truck stop and expecting Chris Evans or Megan Fox on the other end you are a ridiculous human being.
If you are in a space like a sex driven all male sauna/club it’s not unreasonable to expect the person on the other end to be another dude and not some mentally ill woman.
If it does happen it’s not unreasonable to be pissed as a gay man since you did not consent to oral sex by a woman and she still is wrong in predatory behavior doing what she wanted to do and not asking if the person was cool with this and give them a choice to say yes or no.
AT the same time there is some due diligence and acknowledgment of risk when sticking your dick in random openings in a wall and something unseemly happens.
And you are right sex by deception like this is hard to prosecute. A couple years ago there was this huge drama here when this guy pretended to be a woman put out ads on Craigslist for a gloryhole for straight guys. He recorded it and threw the videos on the internet and from what I understand they were able to prosecute on behalf of the guys on the videos since they were not aware of being filmed but the other men who weren’t filmed are having a hell of a time trying to get him on a rape by deception charge and still ongoing.
https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/12/04/bryan-deneumostier-gay-sex- prison/