Alcoholism Support Thread - Down the hatch

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Long periods of sobriety doesn't stop some from getting into petty unnecessary arguments with their spouses, for what it's worth. Not speaking from experience, or anything. Something to keep in mind, the work on character defects doesn't stop when the bottle disappears. ;)
 
Jerk Sausage said:
Long periods of sobriety doesn't stop some from getting into petty unnecessary arguments with their spouses, for what it's worth. Not speaking from experience, or anything. Something to keep in mind, the work on character defects doesn't stop when the bottle disappears. ;)
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Absolutely not, but I'm not losing control sober and being a cunt for no reason.
 
I'm 60+ days dry and I'm fucking BORED. I don't feel like drinking (my wife still drinks, and there's heaps of booze in the house), but holy shit.... I just want to do something.
 
Frostnipped Todger said:
I'm 60+ days dry and I'm fucking BORED. I don't feel like drinking (my wife still drinks, and there's heaps of booze in the house), but holy shit.... I just want to do something.
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books or movies are a good way to do something for an extended period of time. I've made it a "hobby" (part of my routine) to watch movies and take an interest in them regularly.
 
Frostnipped Todger said:
I'm 60+ days dry and I'm fucking BORED. I don't feel like drinking (my wife still drinks, and there's heaps of booze in the house), but holy shit.... I just want to do something.
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Boredom is the most common trigger for relapse, according to Anna Lemke anyway.

People refer to dopamine as "the happy chemical" and while that's not untrue, it's reductive; more accurately, dopamine deals with motivation and reward. It's responsible for making you feel rewarded for doing things, and making you want to do things that make you feel rewarded. With that in mind, it makes sense that the opposite of a high dopamine state isn't sadness, it's boredom.

Find shit to do. Ideally something that feels rewarding and exercises your drive to create. Find ways to biosynthesize dopamine instead of getting it off the shelf. Doing nothing just depletes willpower.
 
Frostnipped Todger said:
I'm 60+ days dry and I'm fucking BORED. I don't feel like drinking (my wife still drinks, and there's heaps of booze in the house), but holy shit.... I just want to do something.
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Like dick brain said, get some exercise. Find a hobby you like. Sitting around bored is the worst thing for someone trying to stay on the wagon.
 
neger psykolog said:
books or movies are a good way to do something for an extended period of time. I've made it a "hobby" (part of my routine) to watch movies and take an interest in them regularly.
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dick brain said:
Boredom is the most common trigger for relapse, according to Anna Lemke anyway.

People refer to dopamine as "the happy chemical" and while that's not untrue, it's reductive; more accurately, dopamine deals with motivation and reward. It's responsible for making you feel rewarded for doing things, and making you want to do things that make you feel rewarded. With that in mind, it makes sense that the opposite of a high dopamine state isn't sadness, it's boredom.

Find shit to do. Ideally something that feels rewarding and exercises your drive to create. Find ways to biosynthesize dopamine instead of getting it off the shelf. Doing nothing just depletes willpower.
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Hey Johnny Bravo said:
Like dick brain said, get some exercise. Find a hobby you like. Sitting around bored is the worst thing for someone trying to stay on the wagon.
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Well, hunting season kicks off for me this weekend, so that should help. I've been waiting for the weather to cool off so I don't have to wrestle Tiger Snakes while trying to set up camp, and it's finally getting there. I have been alone in a forest for about six months.

I realised a while ago that I drank a lot to deal with people and their stupid fucking retard opinions, so three nights alone on top of a mountain will be a pleasant change.

I certainly don't feel in danger of a relapse, the idea of drinking doesnt appeal to me, I am just restless.
 
So, I know we aren't supposed to talk with other alcoholics while they are actively drunk, but how do I get someone to talk about that sort of thing when she is always drunk? She's on a spree right now, and would probably need to be hospitalized if she stopped cold turkey. I invited her to a 319 meeting. Is that the best I can do until this spree is over? My sponsor told me to pray for her. But she has no suggestions beyond that.
 
Hey Johnny Bravo said:
Who told you this? That's not true.
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The Doctor's Opinion is literally the first chapter of the Big Book. I can try to offer her help while she's drunk, but she probably isn't going to remember any of it.
Though we work out our solution on the spiritual as well as an altruistic plane, we favor hospitalization for the alcoholic who is very jittery or befogged. More often than not, it is imperative that a man’s brain be cleared before he is approached, as he has then a better chance of understanding and accepting what we have to offer.
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Frostnipped Todger said:
I'm 60+ days dry and I'm fucking BORED. I don't feel like drinking (my wife still drinks, and there's heaps of booze in the house), but holy shit.... I just want to do something.
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This is the biggest problem.

Get outside. Get some exercise. Walk for an hour. Got a Camera, or a phone? ... Take pictures.

Everyday take pictures of something different. Make it a challenge.

Today, I will only take pictures with orange in the frame. Today I will only use a 35mm lens. Today I will only zoom above the horizon.

It sounds stupid, and it is not about making you a shit hot photographer, it is about taking your mind away from drink.
 
HairyBadger said:
This is the biggest problem.

Get outside. Get some exercise. Walk for an hour. Got a Camera, or a phone? ... Take pictures.

Everyday take pictures of something different. Make it a challenge.

Today, I will only take pictures with orange in the frame. Today I will only use a 35mm lens. Today I will only zoom above the horizon.

It sounds stupid, and it is not about making you a shit hot photographer, it is about taking your mind away from drink.
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Currently sitting in camp waiting for fog to clear.
 
OrionBalls said:
The Doctor's Opinion is literally the first chapter of the Big Book. I can try to offer her help while she's drunk, but she probably isn't going to remember any of it.
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"That is the way it was and will be. That way and not some other way."
- Judge Holden, Blood Meridian

AA is autistic. Just try.
 
OrionBalls said:
The Doctor's Opinion is literally the first chapter of the Big Book. I can try to offer her help while she's drunk, but she probably isn't going to remember any of it.
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You should always try to help people, even if they're still using. They won't improve if they're actively binging but you have to start somewhere. Making suggestions is all you can really do anyway.
 
neger psykolog said:
books or movies are a good way to do something for an extended period of time. I've made it a "hobby" (part of my routine) to watch movies and take an interest in them regularly.
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Movies are mostly goyslop these days but I am going to get back into watching cinema as a way to pass the time and stay sober. This year I am going to spend a lot of time either outside camping, or inside watching movies that I've missed over the years.
 
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