Ask men why they do things the way they do and maybe you'll get an honest answer

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Lord of the Large Pants said:
All this time I thought all men had the same reaction as I do to women offering compliments.

"What did she mean!? Does she like me? Is she making fun of me? Can she tell I'm lonely and she's trying to get me to join a cult? Is she subtly trying to tell me that she resents my very existence on the same planet as her? I should probably go home and kill myself just to be sure!"
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To be fair, women can think like this too.
I don’t think people say enough nice things to each other - at work everyone’s very quick to diss people for mistakes and no bugger ever says thank you when things are done well. I do try to do that - and in front of their bosses/copy in bosses as well when people have done something good or gone above and beyond. Maybe that’s not compliments, are thanks different? But it’s a thing I do - I see it as a tiny fuck-you to the corporate system as well because it’s so hell bent on punishing people and screw that.
Anyway, your large pants look delightful today, are they new?
 
MAAAD said:
Fair remarks. Past a certain length, men's hair look very wavy and unkempt akin to a cheap wig, unless tied in a man bun (and you clearly don't do that). Go visit a barber.
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I did since it's spring and springs and summers here get ungodly hot and humid. Unfortunately due to my face shape, I look like a lesbian whenever I get a short haircut and trim my beard short.
 
Otterly said:
Maybe that’s not compliments, are thanks different?
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A quick, "thanks," or, "appreciate it," when you ask someone to do something and they do it is absolutely a compliment, at work. Making sure higher ups are aware they're doing well also is.

That being said, make sure it doesn't lead to the workplace exploiting their work ethic and, "rewarding," them with a higher workload than their peers for less pay.*

* EDIT: Than someone doing that level of work.
 
Ignatius von Cistern said:
No, don't give men "compliments." If they have done something for you a "thank you" would be proper. Compliments is something a guy gets from his wife and they don't work for compliments, they work for results.

Having a drink with a woman that is not your wife has a level of understanding, where sexual tension might be present, but it is understood by all that nothing must happen, other than maybe another drink.

Men and women cannot be friends, it doesn't work, it always ends in sex or implications of sexual harassment. Just don't do it. Take your buddies out camping, no women.
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There is always tensions to a small drink date. But if you do it once a month or two and you're just seeing each other for an hour or so there is a platonic pact. However, the way men should hang out with a woman is more of an acquaintance than as friends. So yes men in general cannot be "friends" with women, as you would with your best buds.

Spilled Spaghett said:
The only people who seem to be allowed to compliment each other are women. Men complimenting men is gay. Women complimenting men are flirting. Men complimenting women are sexually harassing them. Maybe part of the issue is men receive compliments so rarely, no one would believe you're just being nice.
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VargReallyDidNothingWrong said:
Men compliment men all the time, its just that beyond "mirin bro" or "sick pump dude" or "damn that's a sweet camaro" dudes don't give a shit about compliments. If a dude is like whoa your lips are so full and plump yeah that's fruity as fuck.

Women complimenting men ARE flirting. Always. If a woman is noticing a man being good at something or being attractive, and then goes up and says that to his face, she wants to get dicked down (maybe not right away but its in the back of her mind).
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Men compliment each other all the time. I've received compliments from my friends that have carried me throughout my life. It is important for good friends to compliment each other, all though the good compliments usually come when you and your buddies are drinking. And yeah it isn't "nice abs bro" or any of that shit.

I feel bad for any man who has never had a drink with their long time friends where they validate their friendship with real meaningful compliments.

Smashed & Slamed said:
>I'm afraid to tease my Woman because she might dump me

All you niggas is weak and spineless. And stupid too. You clearly all have a bit of a tism. It feels as if this is some only child thing, but I'm an only child too. If I'm building a life with someone damn right I will push them around a little. Not to bully them or for fun but to see how they handle a little stress or if I at sometimes act the asshole. Heck it will probably happen naturally anyway.
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Teasing is a form of flirtation. If a man is too afraid to tease a woman he is a beta cuck.
 
OK, so do the ladies of KF want to ask the men of KF something else. I believe the topics of dick, balls, nagging and compliments are exhausted.

How about fly-fishing vs trawling. Resting steak after it's fried, garlic butter or no? Why we screet concrete? Why and how we rotate garden beds and why we piss onto the compost.

Come on. Relationships are boring, the good stuff is out there.
 
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Tram Fan said:
Why do you enjoy bullying humor, like you make fun of somebody, and then expect them to like you?
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It's a challenge. Something about you has been exposed, what are you gonna do about it?

The answer is you own it. If it bothers you, you change it unless it's something you literally can't. Then you tell them to fuck off in no uncertain terms and they usually will because they respect the backbone.
 
Ignatius von Cistern said:
OK, so do the ladies of KF want to ask the men of KF something else. I believe the topics of dick, balls, nagging and compliments are exhausted.

How about fly-fishing vs trawling. Resting steak after it's fried, garlic butter or no? Why we screet concrete? Why and how we rotate garden beds and why we piss onto the compost.

Come on. Relashionships are boring, the good stuff is out there.
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For the record, rest the steak but no garlic butter. That's how I prefer it.
I like to fry a good crust on it, salt, pepper, onion, garlic, fresh rosemary, and then broil it after. Let it set a bit before eating it.
 
Tram Fan said:
Why do you enjoy bullying humor, like you make fun of somebody, and then expect them to like you?
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Taking light jabs at each other isn't bullying. Men are naturally thick skinned enough to not get PTSD because his buddy called him bitch tits. It's just banter

HOWEVER, you can always tell when it's light hearted humor and when there's actual malice to it. The former's fine if you have some degree of friendship with the person, the latter, absolutely not fine
 
Arbiter said:
Men, what is wrong with you?
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- Why pee standing up at home? I understand why not in a public restroom (as a woman, I hover squat) however if you are at home, why not sit?
- When does the "oh god I can't stop these boners" part of puberty end?
- I can understand why men would be interested in women 8+ years younger, but what draws men to women 8+ years older? I just feel like I haven't heard that perspective yet.
 
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