Hope everyone's had enough time to hydrate and pop some ibuprofen after their New Year's celebrations. Here's to another year of troons 'n' poons malding!
Unfortunately, not all of us opened 2026 to laughter, shenanigans and hope for better times: this troon greeted the new year with a harsh reminder of his biological reality even though he went to the trouble of shaving his face, sporting a she/her badge and wearing
butterfly hairclips! Why, everyone knows that's what little girls are made of, so how could this customer have been so ignorant?
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God that sucked.
I’m working on new year’s eve might (the theme park I work at as a bartender does a new years event every year)
FIRST thing that happens after the countdown and fanfare is over…
lady walks in and calls me “sir” despite my makeup, blue butterfly hairclips, trans flag bracelet AND she/her pronoun pin on my apron being clear and obvious signs of my pronouns. (not to mention 3 years on HRT and recently shaven)
Wonderful way to start the year.
Usually I just let guests who misgender me not bother me, I mean… people are ALLOWED to be unobservant, but… IDK, the exact confluence of circumstances, plus the timing REALLY made this one hurt for some reason and I freaking hate it. 
Fountain of ute: Peter Poon over here worries she'll be stuck being seen as a wee lad from Neverland forever because of her unusually minute stature of only
4'7", which means she technically counts as
a dwarf. Hm, actually,
are you Peter? Or is Tinkerbell more appropriate?
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Context first:
my partner and I were walking together, and we were stopped by a woman asking for money. Happens semi-regularly in the area, my partner politely said sorry we can't help you we don't have cash, we smiled and started to walk away, and as we did so
she said over to my partner "is that your daughter?", obviously meaning me. We just kept walking and nothing else happened, but it upset me:
My partner and I are both in our late 20s, same age. But I'm 4'7", and baby faced. I keep trying to convince myself it's fine, there's nothing I can do about my height and I'm starting T soon hopefully. I'm trying SO hard... to be okay with being short for ANY gender... and I've even commented reassurances to other folks on here who have struggled with height dysphoria. I know there's nothing I can do about it.
My baby face may always be a baby face. But I just.... all I can think is I LOOK like a CHILD. I'm almost 30 and I look like a young girl, when I just want to be seen as a guy.
I feel like I have chronic heartbreak because of this dysphoria, and the comment from this person just absolutely caused my heart to sink even further. Not because of this one incident, but because it solidifies on my mind that yes, that's how people could see me.
I'm autistic and struggle to comprehend other peoples perception of me and this just... really hit a nerve.
I have semi-regular coucelling sessions, and like I said I'm hoping to start T soon. But I feel like I'm just going to go my whole life never looking how I feel on the inside.
How on earth do I get through this when I'm on such an extreme end of the scale of looking young? (And I know in ways it's a blessing, I really do try and hype myself up about it but then things like this happen)
A TiF is bothered because her breast-altering surgery is being compared to the breast-altering surgery her own sister got a couple of years ago, because any sort of limelight being taken away from a troon or poon always sends them into conniptions for some reason. Do you think she knows mastectomies aren't FTM-exclusive?
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My sister had a breast reduction a couple years ago and I have top surgery in a couple weeks.
My sister and parents keep comparing our surgeries. Like I’m on my way to my pre-op and my dad asked what’s happening at the appointment and I said I don’t know.
He said “I don’t remember what happened at your sister’s. I don’t remember there being this many appointments either” probably because we are getting different surgeries…. Gives me dysphoria so bad for some reason
Back in November, I posted about the tiring and exacting specifications a "gay trans guy" (i.e., a heterosexual female) had for her fantasy fella which were so pie-in-the-sky that she's definitely dying a spinster. Well, now she's back, and it seems that OP - a user named
Bassdean - is
still fucking obsessing over this about a month later. Yes, Bass, I think you
are going to be alone forever... unless you can find it in your heart to get in a sort of prison-gay situation with a similarly neurotic Nellie as you frot prosthetics against one another during episodes of that gay hockey show.
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I'm a gay trans man and my ideal partner is a gay cis man, for the following reasons:
- it would just straight up validate me the most. I don't want to date a bi guy because I don't want to think for one second that his attraction to women plays any part in our compatibility, and I'm not AGAINST dating another trans man (I've done it several times) but it would feel good to know that a guy doesn't have to have experienced being trans himself in order to be fully attracted to me.
- I relate to gay cis men more consistently than I do other trans men. I have no attachment at all to being trans and I live as a cis man anyway. Finally,
- I LOVE PENIS!!!! BALLS ALSO!!!!! And I want to be able to do sex acts with someone who's got them attached to their body. Phalloplasty is a thing but it's not common for trans guys to get it bc it's expensive and intense and doesn't produce results that most guys would consider worth it.
The trouble is that my own penis is not attached to me so it feels very unfair to have any kind of standard about the penis of my partner. I just know that
historically I have such a better time when the other guy can be easily pleasured, ie: with his dick that's attached to him. But
I feel so bad for the hypothetical guy who will either
- inevitably HAVE to have less standards than I do, or
- be disappointed, and on top of that, I really don't even like the idea of having a partner who doesn't share my values about penis.
Like
if his interest in me was a result of not caring that much about dick I would be incredibly turned off and insecure.
So the kind of partner that I would be comfortable with is in this nearly impossible place where
he LOVES dick, and he'd be very into doing sex acts that require me to have a dick, and he would certainly prefer it if my dick was attached to me, but it also
doesn't bother/disappoint him at ALL to be engaging with a prosthetic.
And it's not just the penis thing.
I'm also very short and I have the same sort of thing where I absolutely NEED my partner to not care one way or the other about my height because if he sees me as too small that sucks, but if he likes me being smaller then that sucks WORSE because now more attention is being drawn to it and there's also just no way I can fuck with someone who likes something that I hate about myself. And
being with a guy shorter than me is pretty much not an option bc I'm 5'1".
Another update for you all to enjoy: back in September, I included a post from a user named
jerseybard that implied he had some pretty serious mommy issues he had yet to unpack - of the classic skinwalking variety, of course. Now today we're learning that maybe the reason he wants to
be Mommy instead of
have a Mommy is because she's being unaffirming and obnoxious, doing annoying things like "questioning whether he should transition given a history of drug abuse and psychiatric issues" and "being worried that her crazy little boy is fully going off the deep end." Jersey resents this
so much, in fact, that he prefers his father's direct hostility over his mother's questioning yet loving acquiescence. Why do I feel like I'll see this guy on the news one day?
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Has anyone heard this line from their parents over and over again? My mom just won't stop saying it, every time I book another surgery or mention a new step in my transition.
A while back, I told her that my transition began after I cut my hair impulsively. I was struggling at work and I thought it would help me stay disciplined, but without the long hair to hide behind, life as a man felt unbearable. My egg cracked and
I got my HRT prescription.
Now my mom won't stop bringing that up, saying it "worries her" as a parent that my transition began after work challenges and an impulsive decision to cut my hair.
When I tell her my work performance has improved after starting hormones, she keeps reminding me of the psych meds I started around the same time, the drugs I quit--anything but the hormones themselves.
Sometimes
I almost prefer my dad, who asked me if I transitioned to spite him personally. He insists it was a reasonable question to ask, given our history of tension. He says he won't apologize for it.
They use my new name. They try not to misgender me. They bought me girl clothes and jewelry for Christmas. But through all of it, they just won't stop pathologizing me.
But no matter what they say,
I'm not crazy. I'm the sanest tran you've ever seen!
Finally, a man's mother discovers his panties and - rather than toss them back into his face, throw them out or make a screaming fit upon knowledge of their existence - simply washes them and hangs them to dry. Despite a completely neutral reaction, OP finds a way to be upset at his mother anyway, writing in a comment that "
I’m mad that she took the opportunity to reveal this on my own terms from me." Here's a question, mate: why are you, a grown man, letting your mother wash your underthings,
especially if you have something to fucking hide? Tragically, it appears stupidity will remain the name of the game even into the new year.
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I am closeted to my family and am currently visiting them over the holidays.
My mom was going to wash our clothes and she went through my backpack without asking me when I wasn’t home. She found my panties and they are currently drying in the bathroom. She is kinda acting like nothing happened but
I feel so ashamed and disgusting, I don’t know what to do. I don’t even have a room here anymore so I am just trying to be calm while sitting in the living room.
. I mentioned Ross Campbell earlier because I think his career trajectory is really similar: he started with Dobsonesque teen lesbians in Wet Moon, then did some actually good stuff while boymoding (Glory), then trooned out, then - while his output was certainly less reviled than Sense8 - he just stopped writing and drawing male characters at all and made every character a teenage girl. Even the ninja turtle. 
