Wow, well briefly, and generally speaking-
1. Change can be a good thing. Is there anything significant you can change in your life for the better?
2. Goals. Do you have any? Big or small? Anything you’ve put off doing?
3. Is there anything in general that interests you, like music? Those types of things can go stale after a while, so put yourself in a good place to find new stuff you can get passionate about.
4. Volunteer. Get out and help others, could be hands-on or behind the scenes administrative stuff, depends on you. Gets your mind off yourself in a good way.
Very good advice, thank you. Yeah, I'm thinking about getting a new job and moving to a new state. I've heard this is a sign of mental illness, but I've always liked the idea of a totally fresh start in a new place and have done a couple of times in my life with good results. I have a few goals I suppose -- working on getting a new professional cert or two, getting in better shape, etc. -- but I rarely track and follow through with them. At this point I know roughly what I need to do and I Just have to find the will to execute for once.
I really like the volunteering idea, I might go tutor kids for free or something like that. Like you said, anything that draws your focus outward rather than inward is probably a good thing. Been spending way too much time locked up in my own head.
Find other men and do stuff with them. a lot of men are feeling despondent too. If you're a woman go buy makeup or something.
Yeah you're probably right, though I've never found it easy to meet people outside of a school/work setting. I have plenty of people around me, but basically no one who I can interact with honestly, like not having to hide what I find funny, etc.. I've essentially ghosted all of my oldest friends, and not out of lack of care or a desire to talk to them. It's hard to explain and extremely pathological, but when I've failed to respond to someone after a certain amount of time I feel really bad, so I just put it out of my mind and never respond. So retarded.
We like to separate the mental from the physical, even though stuff like intestinal fauna has an impact on the psyche.
Are you currently healthy in body, nutrition and/or fitness wise? If not, socializing aside, make that your foremost priority.
You get a second shot at most things - your body unfortunately is not one of them.
Yeah my health is kind of a disaster right now. I've lost like 15lbs in one month, my sleep quality is absolute shit, etc... Just started taking probiotics again, spending more time in the sun, and doing some body weight exercises to get back into it. In retrospect, it was silly of me to even ask what I need to change when the answer is so obvious given my physical condition atm.
You need a holiday, mate. You're staled, that's all.
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Can you go and take a nice long walk? Hit a trail an hike until you can't walk, anymore. No phone, no connection, just water and a headlamp in case it gets late.
Just started doing this as well, walking about 2 miles around sunset. It seems to be helping a bit with calming my mind so I'm not just constantly cycling through unnecessary introspection & negative self talk.
I appreciate everyone's words of wisdom ITT, I was kind of being a pussy.
