I have no idea why people pre-order, especially nowadays when most AAA games ship as a dumpsterfire. If a game doesn't come with a demo I see no moral issue at all with piracy. As to why piracy is a pain nowadays is also part of this: patch hell. I often see a game on torrent sites with 5 other cracked incremental patches and it's a pain to download, install, and crack each of them in sequence, and who knows if even that's the latest shit, obviously it's not a problem with games that have gold editions or repacks, but good luck with new releases. Now that I am not a NEET anymore I, buy almost every game that catches my fancy, but I rarely pay more than $15 for a game, either because it's an older title or I'll wait for sales.
Also all the Starfield refunds are from people who bought the premium edition for $100... Jesus.