why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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Lord of the Large Pants said:
While trying to keep further power leveling to a minimum, it's mostly been girls that my friends and family have tried to set me up with. I also just now realized that I've had more than one older woman try to get me to date their daughter. I have no idea what this means.
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It's a compliment for sure, I've had the same happen. Probably the most successful relationship I've had is the inverse of that though. In my case your mom, assuming she's a reasonable woman, needs to get on well with your girlfriend.
 
Dating apps fucking suck. Literally the only one I can get any replies on is the goddamn joke of one Duolicious and the only woman on there who talks to me that isn't a massive walking red flag lives on another fucking continent and is probably a fed or catfish.

Fuck this I'm just gonna sign up for a local mixed bowling league.
 
I ended up rejecting a girl from a dating app after she sent me a newer pic and she was WAY fatter than the pics she had on the app. She also said her ex husband was emotionally manipulative and abusive and may have lovebombed me but IDK. I've encountered so many crazy chicks that now I think every time I'm complimented, it's lovebombing.

I'm so sick of this shit, man. Women are hard to come by in my area because you cycle through all their profiles after a day of swiping and the few you come across after that are all the fucking same: septum piercings, "muh trauma" bios and single moms. I'm not dealing with this shit anymore.
 
Agares said:
I ended up rejecting a girl from a dating app after she sent me a newer pic and she was WAY fatter than the pics she had on the app. She also said her ex husband was emotionally manipulative and abusive and may have lovebombed me but IDK. I've encountered so many crazy chicks that now I think every time I'm complimented, it's lovebombing.

I'm so sick of this shit, man. Women are hard to come by in my area because you cycle through all their profiles after a day of swiping and the few you come across after that are all the fucking same: septum piercings, "muh trauma" bios and single moms. I'm not dealing with this shit anymore.
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Talking about dating apps, I got banned from Match.com for not being girly enough. You're better off meeting people in real life.
 
What a sad general this is. I'm afraid that for the men here, they'll just have to suck up their pride and date a single mother or go off into some foreign 3rd world Nation to secure a wife. As for the women, just find some 7/10 lol it's not that hard. In this regard, women live life on easy mode. Hell that bitch who's dating Chris Chan can easily get a car better male if she so desired with no consequence whatsoever from her dating history.
 
Spock said:
men really seem to think that this is how it is for women out there and I really just don't understand why. Where are all of these supposed 7s you speak of? Are they hiding? Do I just live in a shithole?
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Just go on a dating app, and you will be flooded with messages from men. Hell, use a international dating app if you have to. I can only see this failing if you have high standards for men or live in fucking Antarctica but even then.... If dating apps bother you, you can go to a club that is somewhat related to a interest you have and cold approach males there.
 
umseriously said:
Just go on a dating app, and you will be flooded with messages from men. Hell, use a international dating app if you have to. I can only see this failing if you have high standards for men or live in fucking Antarctica but even then.... If dating apps bother you, you can go to a club that is somewhat related to a interest you have and cold approach males there.
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If you think intelligence is a high standard then I guess I'm doomed. Most men I encounter are as dumb as a pile of rocks. I do live in a 52% white state so that might be part of why, but even the white men I interact with aren't all that smart.
None of my interests are club-able, unfortunately. It's all online shit. Might try international, if I could get over the anxiety and dread of even posting an image of myself on the Internet.
 
Spock said:
If you think intelligence is a high standard then I guess I'm doomed. Most men I encounter are as dumb as a pile of rocks. I do live in a 52% white state so that might be part of why, but even the white men I interact with aren't all that smart.
None of my interests are club-able, unfortunately. It's all online shit. Might try international, if I could get over the anxiety and dread of even posting an image of myself on the Internet.
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How do you define intelligence? Is it based on their ability to articulate their ideas, current career, or academic progress?
 
umseriously said:
How do you define intelligence? Is it based on their ability to articulate their ideas, current career, or academic progress?
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All three. I'm getting a STEM degree, I'm not interested in men who are uneducated. They gotta be educated to at least my level or above, and even that doesn't guarantee intelligence. You can earn a degree in this country and still be a dumbfuck, but at least you'll have some kind of education and proven that you can do the bare minimum to pass classes. I have a 4.0, my IQ was tested above average (though not at gifted level), I am bored by most average people. They are banal. We simply do not possess the same interests most of the time, and I have difficulty relating to them (though that could be because of autism [actual], I think intelligence+autism undoubtedly makes it much worse). I have some average friends, men and women, who I adore, but they are so slow sometimes it's painful to witness. I care the least about the man's career, though intelligence does naturally point towards a higher earning wage. I care far more about quality of life for children. At this rate I'll simply get my degree and hopefully be surrounded by people who are at least as smart as I am, though men online freak out about age so much that I might be 'doomed' either way by the time I have that piece of paper. In which case I'll devote my time to trying to make white people's lives better.
 
Spock said:
All three. I'm getting a STEM degree, I'm not interested in men who are uneducated. They gotta be educated to at least my level or above, and even that doesn't guarantee intelligence. You can earn a degree in this country and still be a dumbfuck, but at least you'll have some kind of education and proven that you can do the bare minimum to pass classes. I have a 4.0, my IQ was tested above average (though not at gifted level), I am bored by most average people. They are banal. We simply do not possess the same interests most of the time, and I have difficulty relating to them (though that could be because of autism [actual], I think intelligence+autism undoubtedly makes it much worse). I have some average friends, men and women, who I adore, but they are so slow sometimes it's painful to witness. I care the least about the man's career, though intelligence does naturally point towards a higher earning wage. I care far more about quality of life for children. At this rate I'll simply get my degree and hopefully be surrounded by people who are at least as smart as I am, though men online freak out about age so much that I might be 'doomed' either way by the time I have that piece of paper. In which case I'll devote my time to trying to make white people's lives better.
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Find a man who's in Electrical, mechanical, or civil engineering then.
 
umseriously said:
Find a man who's in Electrical, mechanical, or civil engineering then.
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again with the word "find". If you are single, and I am assuming as much as you are posting in this thread, why don't you go "find" a suitable woman, hm? Not that simple, perhaps?
 
Spock said:
again with the word "find". If you are single, and I am assuming as much as you are posting in this thread, why don't you go "find" a suitable woman, hm? Not that simple, perhaps?
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Well, simply state in your dating profile bio what type of man you are looking for. Given that you are apparently autistic (unsure if self diagnosed or whatever), it may be helpful to give you a step by step list of what to do.

1. Open a dating profile on Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble.
2. State clearly what man should be allowed to hit 'like' on your profile.
3. When you are matched with men, you ask them their major, GPA, and what they have accomplished so far.
4. When you have gathered a list at a minimum of 3 males, pick the male with the highest GPA.
5. Ask for a date and say that you are waiting for marriage before any type of intercourse.
6. Endure the courting process.
7. Marry.
8. You win.

As for me? I simply don't feel like it. If I don't want a wife, I won't go looking for one. That's just downright foolishness.
 
Spock said:
again with the word "find". If you are single, and I am assuming as much as you are posting in this thread, why don't you go "find" a suitable woman, hm? Not that simple, perhaps?
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This is the single most damning part of trying to date in this day and age. The death of third spaces as a whole has all but made this kind of thing impossible. There's a group of people who are on dating apps, and a number of subtypes on those apps using them for their own means - For men, it's getting their wick dipped 90% of the time, hence why most women who are looking for serious relationships don't bother(Personally, I got banned from Tinder after threatening to report an escort to the IRS, so I'm mercifully free from that particular avenue).
More to the point, the kind of people who have those positions and some of the desired traits such as money, an active social life, being in good health, having a six figure salary, intelligence, etc., are aware of their worth and either refuse to reduce themselves to that level in the name of romance or more than likely have other means of achieving that goal. At least, in theory. And then of course there's the crop of perfectly normal and well-adjusted individuals who have just given up altogether; Why risk the turmoil, the humiliation rituals, the waste of money and limited time off, all on a person that may ruin your life in one way or another?

Oh and by the way, this:
umseriously said:
2. State clearly what man should be allowed to hit 'like' on your profile.
3. When you are matched with men, you ask them their major, GPA, and what they have accomplished so far.
4. When you have gathered a list at a minimum of 3 males, pick the male with the highest GPA.
5. Ask for a date and say that you are waiting for marriage before any type of intercourse.
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This is how you guarantee you get no matches and make yourself look like a gigantic, stuck-up cunt to a group of people who are stereotyped as weak, socially awkward, and oft-mocked. Oh, and attracts a bunch of intellectual midwit redditors.
 
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Lei Wulong's Left Leg said:
This is the single most damning part of trying to date in this day and age. The death of third spaces as a whole has all but made this kind of thing impossible. There's a group of people who are on dating apps, and a number of subtypes on those apps using them for their own means - For men, it's getting their wick dipped 90% of the time, hence why most women who are looking for serious relationships don't bother(Personally, I got banned from Tinder after threatening to report an escort to the IRS, so I'm mercifully free from that particular avenue).
More to the point, the kind of people who have those positions and some of the desired traits such as money, an active social life, being in good health, having a six figure salary, intelligence, etc., are aware of their worth and either refuse to reduce themselves to that level in the name of romance or more than likely have other means of achieving that goal. At least, in theory. And then of course there's the crop of perfectly normal and well-adjusted individuals who have just given up altogether; Why risk the turmoil, the humiliation rituals, the waste of money and limited time off, all on a person that may ruin your life in one way or another?
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You got it exactly. I look at dating apps and my lip curls.
umseriously said:
(unsure if self diagnosed or whatever)
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I put [actual] to indicate that I am actually diagnosed. I guess that wasn't enough.
 
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